My ex-Bf told me he would divorce his wife even if I wasnt sure if I wanted to settle down with him.
but he kept asking if I would? I don't even like him anymore but he wouldn't leave me be! ..I kept sayin "no" & he said the divorce will wait another 3 months? I mean...
this guy even trust-worthy? HE SAID it wouldn't matter now he's chicken out and he's cheating on his wife who's always there for him?
** should I have a long talk to his wife about this or should I be silent and let it be?**
2007-10-10 14:14:04 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's such a sad excuse for a boy I hate him already.
What he's trying to do now is keep you & his wife both going on. Of course, in the case right now you're his No.1 option but since you kept refusing him he extented the divorce so in case you don't change your mind he'll still have his No.2 option [his wife]! Omg!
You definitly should talk to his wife she would want to know. You don't have to like her & she doesn't have to like you, If she hates you for this then keep up with the "no" & leave it that way, She'll eventually find out in the future how disgusting he is and would be grateful that you did warn her. :D
2007-10-12 11:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your ex right? This doesn't only sounds like an answer for help. If you didn't had feelings for this guy, you won't have got this far. What you did? :) I'm just kidding. There's always two side to a story, but don't drowned yourself in the situation. If your not ready to settle down, trust me girlfriend don't. You already know what he's about. Take a step back and let the divorce happen. I never heard of a Divorce settlement in 3 months, unless this guy is loaded. If you two love each other, give it rest until things or settle, but for right now, you need to shut out this guy for a bit.
Informing the wife depends of the bond between you two. But if you did nothing and you already told him no, I don't see a need for her Knowing, it will only make matters worst.
So step back give it time. What ever the result turns out to be then you could act on it
2007-10-10 14:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he would leave his current wife for you, what makes him think you wouldn't leave him for some other woman who comes along. I say if you don't even care about him any more, then get rid of him all together. Stop all contact with him. His wife will probably not believe you. I say leave her be. Let her find out on her own what type of man he is on her own. Most woman won't believe it, believe me I have been there done that. Good Luck!
2007-10-10 14:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This man sounds very sleezy. I think you should move along with your life and stay right away from him. I don't think you should have a talk to his wife. These sorts of people tend to undo themselves anyway. Even if he does divorce his wife, you can honestly never trust him. You can do a lot better.
Good luck!
2007-10-10 14:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Melly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He won't do it. Any guy who says this only wants to string the second lady along.
Go ahead and talk to his wife. That keeps anything from being a secret and puts the guy on notice that what he says better be truthful.
Dump the guy. Karma says to talk to the wife though.
2007-10-10 14:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't tell her, if you stand firm on your "NO" then leave him alone. Getting involved and telling his wife will only make you look like a home wrecker.
You said you don't like him anymore, so don't talk to him. When he calls, don't answer. Eventually he will leave you alone, forget all about this and things will go back to normal for him and his wife.
2007-10-10 14:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would exit the entire situation completely unless you are friendly with his wife. I personally would prefer to know if my husband said this to someone, but the truth be told, if your husband is cheating on you or is unhappy either: 1) you're in denial or 2) you're cheating too.
2007-10-10 14:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by phovisi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he cheated on his wife he will cheat on you and any other woman he gets with. Why bother worrying over this. Drop him. walk the other way and don't look back! Most men, heck ALL men who say they are going to divorce their wives for another woman is lying - they want their cake and eat it too.
2007-10-10 14:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sure don't want a man who does not mind cheating on his wife for someone else. If he did not mind cheating on her, he won't mind cheating on you.
I would just forget the whole deal. I can't see any upside to you telling the wife. She likely already knows.
2007-10-10 14:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by united9198 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
look if i was an infedel to my wife and wanted to retain my gf in the relationship i dd tell her look i want to divorce my wife now but u know what honey the conditions aint that conducive so could u please hang around with me pleasse
do a reality check now is this trustworthy is he the guy u dreamt to live a life with ponder for once i hope u will know for me he is but faking and dragging on
2007-10-10 14:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by niss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋