I was just married 2 months ago and now my wife and I are getting a divorce. I was wondering what the proper edicate is with gifts. Should we return them to the people that gave them to us?
2007-10-10 16:41:41 · 18 answers · asked by Adventurebound75 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it will only be proper for you to send them to me...
2007-10-10 16:44:50 · answer #1 · answered by dawn666annapolis 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean etiquette??? You don't need to return the gifts. That's what the gifts are... they were given to you by people that have no intention of getting them back. You and your wife should divide them down the middle and part your ways. It's too bad that you're already divorcing. Good luck to you both.
May I please just say that I, for one, do not believe in "having to" send out "thank you" cards? I think if you say "thank you" verbally, for the gift that was received, then the "thank you" has already been said. If you don't get a chance to say it verbally, why do you have to write it? It's implied! If people weren't thankful for the gifts they received, they would toss 'em in the river. I saw this episode of "Everybody Loves Raymond" where Robert & Amy just got back from their honeymoon. Marie, Robert's mother, was obsessing over a "thank you card" that wasn't written, yet. She really wanted Amy to get around to sending it. Know why? The gift that was given to her was Marie's idea. The card was wanted for selfish reasons.
Save a tree - say "thank you" verbally. If you can't, write an e-mail. If you can't, then let it go! If you give gifts expecting a "thank you" card...then you're giving the gift for the wrong reason.
I am now off my soap box.
2007-10-10 23:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The proper etiquette in this situation would be to return anything that is unopened that the original givers can return to get their money back. But it's been two months, so they probably won't be able to.
You could make the effort to do it and see what the people say - they may appreciate the gesture but tell you to keep it.
I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-10-10 23:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette. No, you split the gifts between you. It's sad that your marriage isn't working out, but people don't want their gifts back.
Just make sure your thank you cards were already sent out. If they weren't, that's the etiquette you should be worrying about first. Just don't write "Thank you for the wedding gift, but we're now getting divorced. Do you want your gift back?"
2007-10-10 23:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by minimickimichelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are yours to keep. What went so bad in 2 months? Did you try counseling? I know that was not part of the question, but it can be really hard the first year of marriage and it does get better, maybe you should think about it a little more before you do something you regret
2007-10-10 23:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of answers on here, but I haven't read this one yet.
When you speak to your closest friends and they find out or already have by you the marriage didn't work....try this.
Say, Since it's only been 2 months, I'll need to return to your wedding gift, I feel that's only appropriate when is a good time for me to get (?) that back to you?
Nothing bad should come out of that statement. Your friend may say, no you keep it yourself, it was my gift to you or they may say, ok.
Either way, I think they will respect you.
So sorry to hear this and Good luck to you~
2007-10-10 23:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel that you should as it has only been 2 months and the gifts were given to you as a celebration of your life long committment together. I hope the wedding wasn't expensive cause that is a huge waste of money!!
2007-10-10 23:44:42 · answer #7 · answered by double choc crunch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No simply divide them between the two of you or some people simply return them to the store that they were purchased in if they know where they came from and have receipts.
2007-10-10 23:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by shay80800 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married 2 months? Wow? Oh well like they say only fools rush in.
Heads up for the thumbs down.
2007-10-10 23:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not proper etiquette but return them anyway or re-gift them to someone in another state
2007-10-10 23:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by savagegrace 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, the gifts should be returned.
2007-10-10 23:51:14 · answer #11 · answered by Dan H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋