I nearly married an Evengelical American sometime ago but pressures from home affected our relationship and we broke up.
My mom wants me to marry a native of my country (asian), and from my religion (non-christian). am ok with that now.
She is putting height restrictions now (as I am only 5 feet tall). Plsu education background and societal background.
And am running out of time as she has given me only 8 months before she looks for a guy for me (ASIAN traditions suck!)
What should I do?
I also like this guy who is 6'2" in height and 1 year younger. Such a no no for my Mom. (She does not know of it)
2007-10-14 20:30:05 · 5 answers · asked by Tashamster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While I believe that it is important to consider what our parents think when it comes to our choice of partner, I also believe that we don't necessarily have to heed them. In the end, it's you who's going to get married and it's you who's going to live with the person of your choice. Your happiness is what matters. As long as you don't step on other people's toes, then I say go for the 6'2" guy.
2007-10-14 20:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Clayman79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell ya, family does not have to be part of your life! If YOU dont want a guy that your MOM is picking then DONT DO IT! You are in control of you, not your mom! That is forced marriage, and straight up prejudice to say that a guy younger and 6'2" and you will not be a good couple! Or even to say that if you married someone from a different race that it would not be a good marriage... I would tell your mom to back OFF!
2007-10-15 03:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy to 1+triplets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Are you an adult? You do not need to please your mother. She cannot put restrictions on who you date or marry. I would get away from her. When you get married that is your family now and the rest of them become secondary. You have to make yourself happy. Your mother is not the one that has to live and sleep with this man you are. I would tell your mother that you are going to decide what is best for you and that is no longer her right. You have to stop letting her dictate to you. The sooner you do that the better off you will be. Did you want to marry the other man and your mother ruin it? Don't let her ruin the rest of your life.
2007-10-15 04:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
where do you live? if in america, whats stopping you? date who you want. Love is stronger than blood. dont let her control your life, but dont make her think you hate her. Just choose your own dates. just because something may be an asian tradition doesnt mean it has to control your life, it doesnt have to be your tradition! Christianity is ok you know....lol
2007-10-15 03:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mum to back of its your life and she cant force you to marry anyone. Marry who ever you want as your the one who has to live with him.
2007-10-15 03:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by emesumau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋