I just wanna have a stable income.I got a job in a massage parlour that has a big crowd of regulars.I just started the job last week.My boss said I require all of my employees to be single and I lied.I am married,although my husband moved out and we are gonna divorce.And now this friend of mine who knows everything about me because I trusted her needs money and says she's gonna tell my employer and she's gonna inform my husband and my divorce is gonna be hell and Im gonna lose my son.
by the way,I'm not doing anything radically wrong,but I know people are prejudiced.Love it there.good dayly money.plus 3 days after being hired ,I called in sick and there was no problem.
Should I give in to blackmail?is it worth taking risks?and hell if i know what exactly I'm risking.my life is a mess anyway
2007-10-14 20:51:23 · 13 answers · asked by adasnameismalika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do have a huge dilemma on your hands and your "friend" blackmailing you is the least of your problems. If your ex gets wind of what you are doing, you really could lose your son. The risks are too great in my opinion to continue working at a parlour. I am not being judgemental either, I just know how the Law works. Regardless of what you think, the courts can take your son off you based on your "profession". If you really want to keep working there you will have to go to your boss and tell him that you are getting a divorce. She is no friend of yours. If she can blackmail you once, she can do it over and over again. My best suggestion is to find another job. Even go to college to get a degree. This is not worth losing your son over
2007-10-14 20:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Stop calling that person a friend, she obviously is no such a thing.
Quit the job.
You can go back to it after you divorce.
That woman asking you for money may never stop; She may even ask for more each time; Or she may even ask you to do other things since she knows that she has you in the palms of her hands.
Stop it and tell her that if she ever asks you for money ever again, that you'll go to the police, as blackmail is a punishable crime.
Actually, this could even play in your favour, as even if she were to come and be a witness against you, you could say that, you were desperate for the money, but that blackmailing you made you realize that you were doing something wrong and that you CHOSE to stop and not let her dictate your life and keep doing something that might make you risk losing your child.
Keep paying her, and she'll have you for ever.
Stop paying her and quit the job and you'll have better chances of getting your son, for making the right decision, for showing that you are strong and can show your son the right example, etc...
So basically by even being a witness against you, she'll only succeed in showing how petty she is, but how strong you are.
Good luck.xxx
2007-10-15 04:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do not give in to her blackmail. If she tells your boss about it just tell him that your husband moved out and you are going through a divorce. You cannot lose your son over a job unless it is illegal. You need new friends.
2007-10-15 04:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh please , black mailing you , you chose this profession you told your boss your seperated and your husband has in fact moved out so what proof has this idjit got?
Stop allowing this cow to attempt to ruin your life , if the husband isnt in the picture she has nothing to use against you , I think there is more then you revealing here so just tell her to take a hike , you go to your employer and tell him you lied but now your husband is gone and the problem is solved dont be such a ditz.
2007-10-15 04:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't sweat how it will affect you in court, it WON'T be taken into account in custody matters. It sounds to me like you just need to let your attorney know what's going on...it could work out to your favor, you have a good paying job with flexible scheduling, nothing bad there.
2007-10-15 05:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by Doc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find another job... with good money..
NOTHING,,, BUT NOTHING is worth loosing ur SON...
Any smart person.. knows u never give into a BLACKMAILER.. IF U DO.. u have had it...!!! Our country, our govt,, doesn't give into blackmailing..
Move on.. and kick her to the curb.... !!!! she is no FRIEND!!!
2007-10-15 05:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BLACK MAIL IS ILLEGAL TALK TO THE POLICE AND PRESS CHARGES FOR HARASSMENT AND BLACK MAIL AND HONEY IF SHE TELLS WELL DEAL WITH IT.. EXPLAIN THAT YOUR GETTING DIVORCE, AND IF YOUR A GOOD MOM AND HAVE YOUR SON TAKEN CARE OF YOU HAVE NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT.. NEXT TIME THIS FRIEND TELLS YOU THIS SHOW HER A POLICE REPORT AND TELL HER I WILL TAKE YOU TO COURT FOR HARASSMENT AND BLACK MAIL, GO AHEAD I DON'T CARE DO NOT GIVE THIS BIACH NO MONEY I WOULD RATHER LOOSE THE JOB THAN TO CAVE IN PRESSURE FROM HER. SHOW HER YOU HAVE THE BALLS TO DO WHAT YOU SAY,AND SHE WILL LEAVE YOU ALONE. GOOD LUCK.
2007-10-15 06:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for a start shes not much off a friend then id go talk to your boss. And i think you feel its wrong so you think you'll loose everything you wont loose your son for working as for your husband go talk to him
2007-10-15 07:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its YOUR choice.
But if you are about to go through a divorce, then I would be treading carefully............you could lose your son.
Youre a mother and you should be setting an example for your child....sureley there are better jobs and better people to associate with?
2007-10-15 04:01:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a good mother and your son is well cared for I would not give in to her demands!! You are legally separated and moving to divorve so tell her to take a hike!! Good luck.
2007-10-15 04:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by gloria b 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋