2007-10-14 18:11:04 · 10 answers · asked by David G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you simply can't change people and it looks like this is a concept both of you need to grasp. She should accept that she can't change you and you should accept that you can't change her wanting to change you. You should sit her down and have a talk with her and instead of changing yourself, just try to find a liitle balance. When you two got married it was because you were supposed to be happy with each other and love each other 100%, flaws and all. Remind her of this, and just see what happens.
2007-10-14 18:15:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tnisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are going to have to communicate and at a time when emotions aren't running high, sit down and have a talk about what the other wants. Discuss whether or not these things are attainable and what you each are going to do to work at it. It will help both of you to know that the other person knows where you're coming from. It will also help each of you to begin to see things from the other person's point of view which will in turn cause you to be more considerate and appreciative of the other person.
2007-10-15 01:21:07 · answer #2 · answered by Bean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why doesnt she love you for you? this is a broad subject we need more details. why did she marry you if she couldnt love you for you? she needs to understand that NO ONE is perfect. everyone has flaws and i know shes not a model or a movie star or perfect on any way either so she needs to wake up to reality. and make you feel like you need to feel. you should sit down with her and talk to her and understand what is the problem and let her know how its making you feel. if that is your wife and you are her husband there should be this in a marriage. you to should love eachother through thick and thin through ugly through fat through up and down through sickness and health through everything..so i dont understand the problem. maybe she has her own insecerity issues and it isnt you. if you both dont come to an agreement maybe you need to find someone else who makes you happy and who is going to love you for who you are. life is to short to deal with peoples B.S and insecurties let alone to come home and have to deal with it in your own house hold. is it something you are doing? it takes two sweetheart? i wish you the best of luck. be more elaborate next time so we can help you better.
2007-10-15 01:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some women marry us thinking they can mold us into what they want us to be.... sad but true... I have been in a marriage like this and it became pure hell until I got out of it... I said if you didn't like me for who i am why did you marry me? The response was because I liked certain things and the things I didn't I figured I would get you to change.... enough said.... I ended up divorcing her and am now married to someone that loves me for Me and it is really a great feeling
2007-10-15 01:18:09 · answer #4 · answered by DavidV 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't 'love' you the way you are before marriage, what made you think it was going to change afterward? I hope you don't have a great deal of assets, this woman is entitled to half of it now. I see a divorce soon in your future.
Regards,
Brandon
2007-10-15 01:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by El BrandO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't love you the way you are, you shouldn't be married to her. :(
2007-10-15 01:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Freke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what "way" are you?
abusive?
overweight?
jobless?
we need more info. if she can't love you for who you are, depending on the circumstances, then she's not the one for you. you both might need to change things. talk about it.
2007-10-15 01:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you and her aren't right for one another.
maybe you need to find someone that will love you for who you are and not look at who she wants you to be.
2007-10-19 01:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Los Angeles Rocks! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't tell you that because the answer is that she should love you for who you are!
2007-10-15 01:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what she wants from you and ask her if theres something you're doing wrong that you can improve... if that fails, there's always marriage couselors
2007-10-15 01:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by I Dream of Best Answer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋