How do you get back the sparkle in your relationship? After he’s done everything his done. From lying to spending money we don’t have (On another girl who’s his ex girlfriend). I tried a candle light dinner but I don’t thank that worked for me. I mean I can’t tell when he’s telling me the truth. I don’t even know if he does love me anymore and I see people splitting up everyday that’s been married before I was born My aunt and uncle been Married for 19years the just split they told us the fell out of love. And my best friend’s parents just split they been married for 30years. Her mother told us that the fell out of love. How do you stay with someone that long and just relies you don’t love that person anymore or your not INLOVE anymore. I am 25years old I don’t want to wait
30 years from now and him come to me and tells me he’s not in love with me anymore.
What can I do? I made a vow to god so I am going to keep that.
2007-10-14 23:42:50 · 7 answers · asked by Melinda B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married for fifty years, have weathered through five affairs that she had, it's hard, isn't it. You can forgive the stupidity but, it's real hard to forget. If he doesn't love you, that's another story.
She kept telling me she couldn't help it, she still loved me. She's very naive and I could understand, she's actually stupid and fell for the line.
If you really believe he's using you, then leave him, it really isn't worth it. I wish I would have found my own happiness some years ago. The kids would have weathered it through, they would have lived.
Maybe I would have found my happines, maybe you still are young enough to find yours.
If your sure he's seeing someone else, then stop the struggle, either find another place to live or, move in with someone and get an attorney. Let him have his freedom, maybe this is the gift of life he is looking for.
2007-10-15 00:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
o hon..
we will give u another year or two.. the feelings u have over him lying and spending money u don't have... especially on his ex.. will begin to eat at u like a cancer..
especially when u get thoughts in the near future of him not coming home or chatting on the phone w/ someone else..
just give it time..
do u have low self esteem? or no where else to go?? why would u put up w/ him disrespecting u..?? U say u don't want to wait 30 years..
well it is not up to u?? sh** happens.. just like it did to ur aunt and uncle..
I wish u many many years of happy marriage.. but u need to keep ur eye on him, and not live in denial.
U can not do anything.. either he loves and respects u,, and devoted to u and the marriage or he is not..
U are only in control of ur actions..
and he is responsible for his actions.
2007-10-15 06:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
friend, i dont have an answer to how those couples fell out of love after so many years. i am 23 and i have been told that love gets stronger over the years. maybe they have been taking their relationship for granted rather than being sincere abt it. perhaps, as the monotony of life began to set in, they didnt feel the need to rekindle taht spark again. perhaps they were content with being geoge's mother or Anna's dad. Maybe they put their daily priorities first rather than their love. frankly i dont know the answer for that. but coming to ur dilemma, u know the answer clealry, dont you? but are u sure that he hes no love left for u? rather than trying to please him, talk to him openly abt it. if u like to get back with him, say so. if u feel that a goodbye is what is needed, feel bold enough to say so. show him the door and start ur life afresh. all the best to u.
2007-10-15 06:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by lilac4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY?
Why put yourself through more crap?, haven't you had enough with his lying and spending money?. Why let him treat you like trash and get away with it, as its obvious his feelings for you aren't the same as yours. His heart can't of been in the relationship from the start and this is what alot of divorces are about, because someone wasn't telling the truth in the first place when they said their vows.
2007-10-15 06:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TALK! Communication is KEY in making things work.
You need to talk to him and listen to what he says. A marriage is work and its not easy you fall into comfortable routines and start to forget what made you fall in love in the first place.
My husband and I just went thru this and in talking it out, were stronger then ever and more in love then the day we got married.
Good Luck and keep those lines of communications open.
2007-10-15 06:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Scrappers 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU DON'T TRUST HIM AND HE HAS RUINED THAT. AFTER TRUST IS GONE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAN IT IS PRACTICALLY GONE. NOT EVEN THAT HE HAS LOST RESPECT FOR YOU. I SAY THIS B/C HE HAS SPENT MONEY ON ANOTHER WOMEN. THAT IS DISRESPECTFUL, NOT EVEN THAT IT IS HIS EX-GIRL ,,, WHAT KIND OF MESS IS THAT? GIRL YOU ARE YOUNG AND FULL OF LIFE. DON'T WAIT AROUND, YOU DON'T HAVE TO THERE IS SO MANY PEOPLE OUT THERE WAITING TO MEET YOU GO BE FREE!!!
2007-10-15 07:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey that's so sad.
2007-10-15 07:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by gloria b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋