I am being called the names and told to leave eventhough I did not do anything wrong!
2007-10-14 17:54:13 · 17 answers · asked by Hurt in Texas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the way some guys are.... The move the focus from them to someone else, in your case the focus is put on you.
WHY THE HELL ARE YOU STILL WITH HIM?
He's calling you names, lieing, and he has cheated!!!???
Time to face the music! Get out of there while you can!!
Sorry to be so tough, but I have been there!
2007-10-14 17:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the two of you are hanging on for dear life to one another, to me. He needs you to place blame on and hopefully, he will regain enough strength to openly admit that he did what he did and apologize and be done with it. It's up to you to accept the apology and work on your marriage or to divorce. Since he's the guilty party, he can leave the premises. You can just stand your ground, in more ways than one. Though, I believe that his asking you to leave is his way of offering you an out. Now, if everyone is done screaming over at your house about what terrible thing this one done and No!, she did that, etc., maybe we can all get a good nights sleep and talk this over tomorrow after we've cooled off a little. And you need to grow up and accept the cold hard fact of life that people make mistakes. Sometimes HUGE ones. It doesn't always mean they are horrible people. Try to have a heart, as if it's the last thing you'll ever do. Try to understand how this happened. But do not allow yourself to be belittled or talked down to as if you're an idiot. Be a full, mature, grown-up woman, and stop that infernal screeching. I can hear it from here.
2007-10-14 18:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm interior the comparable situation... I even have appeared and snooped in each and every thing he owns, i've got discovered no longer something, different than that he erases a number of his text textile messages immediately. He maintains to be out previous due, does not call abode to enable me comprehend the place he's, and exceptionally plenty the comparable element your husband does while puzzled. I even have tried to divorce quite a few circumstances besides, yet he continually reels me back in too. i comprehend he's mendacity, through fact movements communicate louder than words. speaking does not help, counseling if iffy, and that i'm in simple terms undeniable previous drained. Why could I continually be the single to intiate speaking and dealing issues out. i'm exhausted with each and every thing and intensely almost had a apprehensive breakdown. for the reason that i can't beat him, i've got desperate to connect him. that is not any longer basic, yet that's what i visit do. Oh yeah, do no longer even difficulty checking emails and contact records. They continually get an e mail address which you do no longer understand approximately and erase telephone records, or placed the different women's numbers under a chum's call.
2016-10-22 11:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats their self defence mechanism kicking in , my husband was busted 4 time's lying to me and and finally the 5th time I busted the whole shell open and he finally admitted to cheating on me with this old hag.
He attacked me , yelled at me , accused me of being the 1 who cheated , he swore they were innocent on more then 1 occassion and I was suffering from paranoid dillusions , he even stuck up for her to me .This went on for 12 months until he admitted a 2nd time after denying he'd admitted the 1st time , then he claimed he knew he'd cheated on me with her but couldnt remember when I couldnt believe the gall.
Leave him because if he refuses to acknowledge what he did and refuses to appologise or show guilt or remorse he wont believe me I know.
2007-10-14 19:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what are you asking
1. How to get over it?
2. or, ought you to leave?
First, sweets, your relationship is over.... ask any counselor, and they will tell you that less than 20% of betrayed relationships survive 2 years... that is an F in school, and an F. in life. If some of the stuff is yours, you have to decide if you wish to abandon it or not.... and how you will split your estate since you are married to him. Obviously if it's his house, or his condo that problem is solved... you leave. If it is yours, then he leaves. If it is held in both names, you and he need to reach an agreement, and hopefully you can do so without getting into the adversarial stance of he gets an attorney, you get one and you have at it in court.. The only ones who win then, are the attorneys. Since you are married, use a mediating attorney... find one in the yellow pages, get papers off the internet, see what they look like, and all he does is fill out your requests and file... cheap, at about $75-300.
2007-10-14 18:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are being called names because he his lashing out at you for catching him. It's called projection. He's projecting his guilt and anger onto you to make himself feel better. He's not owning up to the fact that he's caught and should feel bad for what he's done. I wouldn't leave if I was you; I'd through him out on his @ss. If he won't leave, call the cops. If you don't want to call the cops, then leave yourself. It might not be right, but it's better than staying there, isn't it?
2007-10-14 18:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by WingNo19 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are being harrased. this isnt a healthy relationship. i say leave now and find someone who deserves you sweetheart. why do you let this person cheat on you and you take them back? and then you deal with his name calling? the problem is you are not standing your ground and letting him know you're NOT going to take his B.S. you are letting him do whatever he wants to do and he sees that so you are getting takin advantage of and if you dont don something about it, it will only get worse and it will only continue. get out of that relationship you deserve better babe!
2007-10-14 18:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he was caught than where is the room for owning it up .If u r so sure than where is the relevance of whether he owes it up or not.
Evaluate u r position and decide whether 2 continue u r relation or not.
2007-10-14 18:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When a spouse cheats and doesn't own up to what he/she did.....I personally think the marriage cannot be salvaged.
2007-10-14 18:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer before he does. Try counseling as the last hail marry.
2007-10-14 18:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by eric l 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋