We are both separated however his ex is temporary living with him, he gets distracted often, what should I do?

Question

Folks don't trip, my husband is no longer with me, he's with another woman across the country, no intentions on getting back at all, we've moved forward, financially we have been in a bind to finalize the divorce, with him, him and his wife have been apart for several years, however recently she feel on hard times and he said he could help her out but only for a month, she will be moving out soon, however when we are together we can be in the middle of a hot moment and he's gets distracted, he says he has alot going on at home, and that he needs to get that in order, and I believe him, he says there is no physical contact whatsoever with his ex, he says he has no desire for her at all, on top of it she smokes which is a big turn off for him, but I just wonder if some men are easy to loose an erection when something is mentally bothering them? we are a perfect match, and there is no doubt that God put us together, our chemistry is on fire, and we share a deep spritual connection, howe

Answer 1

Yeah, his mind is on home alright. And as you can see, he doesn't think of your place as home. What does that tell you?

Answer 2

If you're both only sepearated then his WIFE is not his Ex. And I doubt God would put together a pair of adulterers. A separation is NOT a disillusionment of marriage. With no final decree of divorce you BOTH are still married to other people and are committing adultery...I doubt very much God would condone that considering the 10 commandments.

Answer 3

If you truly are perfect for each other...wait it out. Put yourself in his shoes... your seperated, but living together!! That's gotta be tough. I wouldn't jump into anything serious until EVERYTHING is finalized! Been there, done that! I was in the same situation, except my bf just got his heart broke (not married). We cooled things for a couple months (but still saw each other) and when everything was said and done we couldn't have been happier.

Every situation is different, you need to follow your heart, and dig deep! If you want this relationship to work, you will have to work at it! And the same goes for him.

Good Luck with whatever you decide!

Answer 4

Then let him stay with you until she is gone. He lost his erection over things at home?????????? And what is so mentally taxing for him that he is easily distracted. I would put a hold on your relationship until his wife is well and truly gone. Because without the divorce finalized, she is still the wife and you are the girlfriend. And she is living in his home.

Answer 5

I understand your situation...your divorce isnt final, and thats cool but you and your ex are over. It sounds too much like something is gonna on with this guy and his "ex". Have you spoken to her or been around her. Does she know about u? I only ask b/c it doesnt sound like they are finished. I have an ex and I would live on the streets before I have to go live with him and he would be on the streets before I allow him to live with me. Believe me when I say ....they are not over. Let me guess, does he have to go home every night? Is it ok for you to call the house? Think about it.