Marriage & Divorce - 14 October 2007

My husband & I got married May 17, 2006, found out I was pregnant in June & we separated in July due to major marital issues. I still have yet to divorce him do to lack of funds & still see my in-laws every Sunday; however, he sees our son MAYBE once every 2 months and hasn't helped me financial since I was 3 months pregnant. Our son has health issues that I am dealing with by myself with no support from him. He's been in & out of the hospital since he was born & his father didn't even bother to ask why he was there or if he was ok! I am looking to divorce my husband in the very near future which brings me to my inquiry for advice, because he isn't helping me with my son at all, rarely sees him & there are major issues which makes it so that I don't want him to take our son by himself I need some advice on what I should do. should I file for child support with the divorce knowing he can't afford it or should I ask him to sign over his parental rights because he doesn't see him anyway!?

2007-10-14 17:10:42 · 16 answers · asked by mournfuldriedclover 1

Afraid to give details for various reasons

2007-10-14 17:08:20 · 14 answers · asked by Christina Bconfused 1

Everyone argues, so how do you know when to much is enough??

2007-10-14 17:03:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-14 17:02:18 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

In the beginning stages of divorcing..no papers filed that I know of yet...3 kids..2 still at home with me..kids and I are going out of state for 1 week...he wants to stay in 'the house' that he moved out if 3 weeks ago while we are gone..I say no..he says too bad..if you don't like..find somewhere else to live and I will move back in perminately...CRAZY or what? Do I have the right to change the locks to keep him out? Both names are on the house...any suggestions? We are leaving this week...

2007-10-14 16:54:36 · 14 answers · asked by Stephanie 1

My son plays baseball and my husband is one of the coaches. There is a dad of one of the boys on the team that I have to admit I am physically attracted to. He calls me at least every other day and talks baseball sometimes for 45 min. or more. He has never really said anything inappropriate but he has said, "My wife and your husband are going to think we have something going on as much as we talk on the phone." He usually has a legitimate reason for calling but kind of drags out the conversation. I know I am probably just fantasizing about him because I am bored or something and I don't think I would ever cheat on my husband. He has never said anything that would make me think he is unhappy in his marriage either. Would a man call a woman 2-3 times a week to chat with no motive? I guess when I see his name pop up on my phone, I get excited and that scares me. What do you think?

2007-10-14 16:54:04 · 17 answers · asked by Jenn 3

My fiance left me yesterday over hte phone. I had just come back from holidaying in Thailand and we were due to start booking upon my return. We had been together for almost four years and things were really good before I left. I moved out immediately and am camping at Mum and Dads's. Can someone tell me how to heal as I'm not angry just devastated. We have spoken about practical things like leases and credit cards etc and I have been strong but I'm crumbling on the inside. I have kept the rings as a memory and hold no grudges but I feel so lonely and upset. I don't know what to do. Someone please help.

2007-10-14 16:35:56 · 11 answers · asked by Tracey rocks in cotton socks 1

My husband fooled on me once by having an other woman for 6 months.. they stopped when i discovered it and iam very furious that i was betrayed. But my husband is very determined to win me back and i saw all his willingness to get my forgivess in so many ways.. now, we are having a nice time and wanting to add a new baby in the family. However my doubts are always there, i cant help it. I often check on him. I can see he is a changed man after confessing his fault and wanting to start again. But i cant forget what he did to me.please help me on how to manage my doubts in a way that my husband will feel that i trust him again.. Though i trust him again but not completely. Right now, he is telling me whereever the gurl tries to call her and he ignored. Once he showed me an email from a girl begging for a time but he never answered. I love my husband and we both want each other to grow old together. My problem is how to build a trust again.Thanks for your time.

2007-10-14 16:35:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bf broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was suddenly unhappy and I took the break up badly. I also asked him back but he told me to not have hope, he wants to be single, and told me to find another man.

I haven't contacted him since and I just want to know if he might one day call back. Trust me, I am moving on but I just want to know if other people's ex's called back or wanted them back. Has anyone experienced something similar whose ex said the exact same thing but ended up coming back? Thanks

2007-10-14 16:32:45 · 8 answers · asked by S S 1

You, your spouse or shared equally. Are you male or female?

2007-10-14 16:13:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Lately I've been feeling so irritable, angry, sleepy, grouchy, bitchy and just horrible. My husband is angry about it but I can't control how I feel. I don't know whats wrong I'm just feeling like this. I'm not on my period. I've also been getting really really hungry and eating alot. Does anyone know what might be wrong with me?
I'm just feeling lots of anger towards everyone

2007-10-14 16:03:11 · 16 answers · asked by ~Mommy*of*3~ 3

My hubby works a lot. He is gone 12-14 + hours a day working and out with friends. My son and I are home alone alot. I get lonely. I love dogs but we live in an apartment. I told him I'd like a cat for my son and I to play with and take care of. He said he hates cats and we cannot have one! I am angry because I think it would be good for son and I and he is never home!!! Ideas on what else to say to him about it? Expense is not an issue and I would take care of it that is not an issue. He simply does not like them.

2007-10-14 15:54:17 · 13 answers · asked by Samantha 3

My husband's ex-girlfriend had his name put on her while they were dating. They were never even engaged, let alone married. I just think it's weird. In a way, I think it's kind of funny too b/c she still has to see his name everyday knowing she's not the one who ended up with him...

2007-10-14 15:46:06 · 9 answers · asked by snowqueen80 2

see them every other weekend and have them on holidays and most of the summer? (previous question asked got that he abandoned his children response) Keep in mind that we both wanted them to move here with us, they wanted to stay in their schools. My husband moved here to marry me, 1 1/2 hours away from them. Is this considered abandonment?

2007-10-14 15:42:12 · 12 answers · asked by Rein 5

2007-10-14 15:41:02 · 14 answers · asked by Joeyboy 1

Scenario: An argument. Everytime my wife and I have an argument, she gets really emotional and starts telling me all kinds of nasty things, (verbal abuse only) I tried not to answer to try to cool things off. This has happened for seven years. Until two months ago I decided to answer back and told her exactly what was in my mind. She stayed quiet, then she broke up with me. Are we (guys) just supposed to stay quiet and not have an opinion about anything?

2007-10-14 15:40:32 · 11 answers · asked by Mandibulin 3

My bf broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was suddenly unhappy and I took the break up badly. I also asked him back but he told me to not have hope, he wants to be single, and told me to find another man.

I haven't contacted him since and I just want to know if he might one day call back. Has anyone experienced something similar whose ex said the exact same thing but ended up coming back? Thanks

2007-10-14 15:32:08 · 9 answers · asked by S S 1

he's my bf for months and he's still hiding me from his family i don't know why im also hiding him from my family because we're not yet ready and everytime i ask him about his wife he said his seperated i know its true beacause almost everyday we're together before, his now residing in canada with his kids and im in the phil. i love him so much. i really don't know what to do. im so confused.

2007-10-14 15:31:24 · 43 answers · asked by Jane A 1

Society idolizes marriage, but so much anti-social results happen from it. People can't make friends because of its confining effect, and the "all or nothing" attitude in pre-married people too. Doesn't anyone else notice this ? Isn't it another case analagous to "the Emperor's Clothes" story ? Everyone pretends its great when its really a lie?

2007-10-14 15:23:36 · 18 answers · asked by million$gon 7

From Dr. Laura:

According to a recent survey by the Pew Research Center, having children has fallen to eighth on a list of nine keys to happiness in marriage, way behind what is now considered more important, such as sharing household chores and being faithful:

1. Fidelity
2. Good sex
3. Sharing household chores
4. Adequate income
5. Good housing
6. Shared religious beliefs
7. Shared tastes and interests
8. Children
9. Agreement on politics
93%
70%
62%
53%
51%
49%
46%
41%
12%



... Of the nine qualities these folks mention as important for a successful marriage, only one had anything to do with giving, and that is children. The rest have to do with getting. Thoughts of division of labor and responsibilities are clearly out the window as the issue of which person might be doing more in the house than the other is more important. That sounds more like roommates than loving spouses.

When 50% more folks think that not taking one more bag of garbage to the curb than their spouse is more important to a marriage than combining love and energies into making a family, America is in trouble.

2007-10-14 15:20:40 · 16 answers · asked by The cryptic paranoid 2

my husband doesnt care how much he hurts me , he does it on purpose if i cry just turns his back , says i cause my own pain i tryed to love him listen yell scream cry nothing matters. so now i guess i told him i wil get a job and he needs to divorce me since he obviously doesnt care , love, or respect me . he says yea okay whatever.

2007-10-14 15:18:12 · 23 answers · asked by dontcha 2

I had 5 years of happy marriage and 2 years of going through the worst dovorce. My husband who was so loving for five years turned into a monster during the divorce. I seem to have totally blacked out on the two years of traumas, threats and torture and seem to be stuck with those five years of happy things. How do I move on ? It has been extremely difficult even with so much of family and frind's support. What is wrong with me ?

2007-10-14 15:14:12 · 13 answers · asked by Romi 2

He moved to my state and gave custody to his ex because she was always comming to his house and no one had any peace. I am grateful, however there of course are problems of guilt on his part still....it has been three years. What can I do to help him....he feels that he has to play the role of the buddy, and take all kinds of abuse from them.....I know he hurts so badly and it makes me a bit crazy at them (silently) to see them do this to him. How can I help him through this?

2007-10-14 15:05:53 · 15 answers · asked by Rein 5

do you find your self turning into your parents.. there ways.. there habits.. child raising or do you go out of your way to be different.. i did that and got 2 spoiled kids.. which will lead to another question later

2007-10-14 14:59:44 · 25 answers · asked by vis 7

My husband is always telling me that I am wrong, Everything I do or say is wrong its to point were somtimes I think I should just stay on the computer to avoid arguments. For the pass couple months we have been arguing evey weekend and I have even cought him checking a few singles site. I dont know what to do. Please help.

2007-10-14 14:58:42 · 15 answers · asked by Jiz 1

I am asking this because I know her, and at one point (before I knew they were together) I had spent the night with her. I know she regularly goes out on weekends with her girlfriends (most of them are addicted to drugs and/or alcohol) and when they get together, they are actually worse than most men I've ever known. I don't want to be the one to let him know, but I'm afraid he is going to find out after it's too late. Please help?

2007-10-14 14:57:14 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a virgin and plan to stay this way until marriage. Because I chose to remain a virgin, I require a virgin wife. No exceptions; no excuses: virgin only. What's wrong with that?

2007-10-14 14:54:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I personally dont mind open marriage but im shcoked....... why don't most open marriages work???????? I mean if you can be in love wiv someone and sleep with another then why won't you be happy?

Are you in an open marriage? If you're parents were, at what age would they tell you? Would you accept your parent's open marriage?Would you get attached to people that your parents sleep with like parent figures?

plz try n answer all my ques. plus ure experinces

once again ty guys :)

2007-10-14 14:47:57 · 13 answers · asked by possessed by insanity 3

I am 48 and recently separated from my wife(Sandy) of 20 years.She is 55.The problem is that I have started an affair with HER daughter(Ellen) from a previous marriage (she is 33).I think that the two of us are much more compatible and that we would be much happier .Noone on either side of the family is aware of what's going on however I know we can't keep this a secret for much longer (she is moving in with me at the beginning of the month).I did help raise her from the age of 16, however her natural father WAS always a part of her life, so I wasn't REALLY her father. Is this wrong or would it be considered accaptable. Please let me know what u think. Thank you.

2007-10-14 14:45:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My family moved back to their country after lvivng in the U.S. for 20 years. My father came back for a while to work. He will be here for 3- 6 months out of the year every year. He started having an affair. I have proof. I feel bad for my mom. I have a 10 year old sister. I feel the need to inform my mom. Advice please.

2007-10-14 14:43:52 · 14 answers · asked by emotional_dreamer 3