If one of your parents were having an affair, would you tell the other?

Question

My family moved back to their country after lvivng in the U.S. for 20 years. My father came back for a while to work. He will be here for 3- 6 months out of the year every year. He started having an affair. I have proof. I feel bad for my mom. I have a 10 year old sister. I feel the need to inform my mom. Advice please.

Answer 1

That's a tough one........ I do think that I would talk to the cheating parent and would let him/her know that I can't be loyal to him while being unloyal to the other parent. Either s/he stops or comes clean..... or I would have to tell. I agree that you love both of your parents and feel compelled to be loyal to both of them, but it's also true that we know right from wrong and no matter who's doing the wrong thing, you have to be honest to your principles and values and not "protect" the one doing wrong only because he's your relative, friend, partner, etc.......

Answer 2

As a child and teen, I knew both of my parents were having affairs. I never said anything to either of them. I agonized for years. Then I found out that they both knew about the other. A little twist to this was that they were both having affairs with other women. My advice, keep out of it.

Answer 3

here's an advise? first the bible Say's do not commit adultery which also it's written in the ten commandments.I'm pretty much sure one of your folks do know of this LAW OF GOD! and it's a duty of ones family to remind each other as a " FAMILY" that " dad, mom, children we all love you?" NOW REMEMBER? this word " LOVE" is a uniting and a binding word. But most of all is to have Faith unto the Lord and best of all is Believe in your prayers.For this is the only way we all people in this universe communicate to our Creator.

Answer 4

I'm sure you feel loyalty to both parents, but you have to know right from wrong. You wouldn't want to be wronged. I would let the parent doing the "wronging" know you cant keep his secret.

The only way I would be able to sleep at night would be to tell my mom, or make sure my dad told her.

Answer 5

I'm with the first poster: If you are dead certain, ask your dad to tell your mom or you'll tell her for him. It's not fair to keep her in the dark from an emotional point of view, and if he's messing around on her, he could potentially pick up STDs and give them to her. She has a right to know.

Answer 6

This is a hard question to answer. You love both of your parents, If you tell on your dad it is going to hurt. If you tell your mom it is going to hurt her. So i guess it is up to you what you want to do.It should not be happening,but it is. I feel sorry for you. Good luck with what ever you decide.

Answer 7

If I knew 100% for sure that he/she was doing that, I would first talk it out with them and try to encourage them to break it off and tell the other parent. If all that failed, I would let them know that I am going to inform the other one. That is just too unfair to leave them in the dark.

Answer 8

No, that is adults problem and they should solve it themself and not to involve to children. For me, i'll talk to my father and tell him my feeling. Father should be mature enough to make decision. It's better than telling your mom, cox if ur mom cannot take it, the only result of ur parents are divorce... and i dun think a child will be happy to live with seperate parents~ and good luck to you. Be strong~!

Answer 9

Inform Dad that you know his secret and ask him to straighten things out. If he cannot do so, let him know that mom does not deserve to be hurt and it would be better if he gets a divorce.

Answer 10

If you feel your mum has the right to know, do.The situatuion could get much worse if she finds out on her own later on.But then again if you want your family to not spilt up, dont tell