My son plays baseball and my husband is one of the coaches. There is a dad of one of the boys on the team that I have to admit I am physically attracted to. He calls me at least every other day and talks baseball sometimes for 45 min. or more. He has never really said anything inappropriate but he has said, "My wife and your husband are going to think we have something going on as much as we talk on the phone." He usually has a legitimate reason for calling but kind of drags out the conversation. I know I am probably just fantasizing about him because I am bored or something and I don't think I would ever cheat on my husband. He has never said anything that would make me think he is unhappy in his marriage either. Would a man call a woman 2-3 times a week to chat with no motive? I guess when I see his name pop up on my phone, I get excited and that scares me. What do you think?
2007-10-14 16:54:04 · 17 answers · asked by Jenn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree I probably need to stop picking up the phone.
Do you really think I am already cheating? Like I said, we haven't really done or said anything inappropriate and neither of us complains about our marriages or anything like that. I am just attracted to him and I don't know if it is mutual or not.
2007-10-14 17:04:12 · update #1
Thanks so much everyone. I appreciate the understanding and thoughtful answers.
2007-10-14 17:06:24 · update #2
it is obvious that he has a thing for you too.... I'll bet if you 2 were ever alone that he would make a move on you if you were so inclined.... so beware.... ask your husband if he thinks this is strange
2007-10-14 17:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by DavidV 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are cheating on your husband mentally. Granted, that's a harsh way of explaining it, but allow me to elaborate. As a guy who loves baseball, I can talk anybody's ear off concerning the topic. It might be innocent on his side, but it doesn't sound like it is on yours. Then again, everybody is attracted to other people. Let's face it, some people have more desirable features or characteristics than others. That doesn't mean they're better for you though. The ultimate decision is yours to make. You can not put yourself in a position to be tempted. Temptation can lead to irreversible mistakes that can ruin lives.
2007-10-15 00:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by baseball_is_my_life 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut it out right this minute. How would you feel if this man's wife were calling your husband 2-3 times a week and he were having the same reactions as you are? You are already married to the Coach, why go after some needy Daddy figure?
2007-10-15 00:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are really pushing the envelope. Crissakes, there's not that much to talk to anyone about little league baseball 2-3 times a week for 45+ minutes.
And I can bet that excitement you feel is both scary and thrilling, right? That's the way "stuff" starts and then it takes on a life of it's own. Best cool your jets ASAP.
2007-10-15 00:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Meg 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may not be talking sexually , and you may not be whinging about your marriages to each other , but did you notice that in this whole post your only mention of your husband is he coaches baseball?. It's like he is a non-entity.
Your emotionally cheating and thats wrong and you need to cut contact if he wants to talk baseball he can call your husband.This whole situation is just wrong on so many levels.
Change your number and dont speak to him unless your husband and his wife are present.
2007-10-15 00:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you might want to try to spice up your marriage. You probably are bored with the way your marriage is. Sometimes people fall into complacency and they find themselves attracted to other people. Limit your phone conversations with the other man and if you need to cut off personal conversation with him.
Just be careful. You don't want to end up cheating.
2007-10-15 00:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by lily_siren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already started down that road. Why would this guy need to call you at all? He is fishing and you are letting him.
In my opinion, if you don't make some changes sometime soon, you are going to end up cheating.
2007-10-15 04:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by Bill I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit taking his calls! It does NOT matter what his incentive to call is. YOU ARE MARRIED. You should do everything in your power to shut this down before it has a chance to get started. Since you are already getting excited and fantasizing you have already let this get too far. HONOR the promises you made to your husband.
2007-10-15 00:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are a bit bored, and that's okay. FIrst of all, limit your contact with this man. If he has a legit reason for calling he can deal wit hyour husband. Be honest with your husband here too and let him in on this, you'll feel better, trust me.
2007-10-15 00:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe its just the thought that gets you excited. Its not cheating. Maybe this guy is just friendly. If you know you'll never cheat on your husband and he's never said anything inappropriate, what's the problem?
2007-10-15 00:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋