Scenario: An argument. Everytime my wife and I have an argument, she gets really emotional and starts telling me all kinds of nasty things, (verbal abuse only) I tried not to answer to try to cool things off. This has happened for seven years. Until two months ago I decided to answer back and told her exactly what was in my mind. She stayed quiet, then she broke up with me. Are we (guys) just supposed to stay quiet and not have an opinion about anything?
2007-10-14 15:40:32 · 11 answers · asked by Mandibulin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It was about time you spoke up to her.
If she broke up with you it was probably because realized she lost her control on you.
2007-10-14 15:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are intimidating your wife therefore she doesn't say anything until one fine day, she just explodes like a volcano, am I right? This would be an excellent time for you to become a very agreeable person. Of course, you should be allowed to speak your mind, but why can't you do it like a grown-up? Adults sit down and discuss things, not sit back and wait to pounce at the first time they see an opportunity. AND after you've said what you've had to say, encourage her to speak her mind. This will end the "yelling" that you men so despise.
2007-10-14 22:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to see a counsellor. I had the exact same situation with my hisband where my hisband would complain that I would talk talk and he talk and then started calling me an abuser. It took a long time to for him and me to understand what "stone walling" is. Women speak what is on there mind and when they feel unheard or stonewalled, it just gets worse to the point of abuse.
You two should see a counsellor before it gets worse. its just about having a better understanding.
2007-10-14 22:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Romi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was wanting a reason out my ex wife done the same thing. She would pick, pick,pick and pick at me over something till I would blow up. She would crack a small smile before busting into tears and telling me how bad a person I was. She knew what she was doing, it was a mind game. If I am right, you are better off with out her in your life.
2007-10-14 23:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by david t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is used to getting her own way and is spoiled. You have every right to voice your opinion. She can't really love you much if she breaks up with you for communicating with her. How about trying not to argue but to communicate without anger or blame; seems to work better.
2007-10-14 22:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey it's called communicating.....something you should have been doing all along.You may be better off without the nasty cow.
2007-10-14 22:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by gloria b 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you waited 7 years to speak your mind, then I'm not surprised that she didn't know how to take it. All I can say is what took you so long?
2007-10-14 22:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the truth hurts sometimes. if you still love her, work it out. and tell her that the things she says hurts you too. but if we have our differences then we can have a cool down period.
2007-10-14 22:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you caught her off guard?
And maybe it was time you put your two cents in?
2007-10-14 22:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if your going to keep it real!
2007-10-14 22:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋