I personally dont mind open marriage but im shcoked....... why don't most open marriages work???????? I mean if you can be in love wiv someone and sleep with another then why won't you be happy?
Are you in an open marriage? If you're parents were, at what age would they tell you? Would you accept your parent's open marriage?Would you get attached to people that your parents sleep with like parent figures?
plz try n answer all my ques. plus ure experinces
once again ty guys :)
2007-10-14 14:47:57 · 13 answers · asked by possessed by insanity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm only 14 and i don't wanna be in open marriage!lol
2007-10-14 14:57:35 · update #1
This is one of those situations that may look good on paper, all logical and neat, and all figured out............. but then... practically it doesn't work.
Why doesn't it?.... because human nature will not let it.
When emotions start flying, it crumbles.
Marriages are based on trust. When everyone is sleeping around with everyone else.... what is the sense in being attached to someone at all? It is like being single. You do what you want, you truly belong to no one......
so why bother with a marriage?
Marriage is important, delicate, and very suceptable to outside negative influence. It has to be nutured and cared for in order to work.
If the married couple do not see their marriage as very valuable and worth protecting from outside interferance, then it can easily be destroyed.
Those who are jealous of that marriage, can very easily worm their way in and will have very little respect for what the 'marriage' means to the couple. They will just be interested in what they can personally gain from this couple.
Usually it starts out great, then crumbles. You don't see the emotional harm your doing until it is done. Then, sadly, it is too late.
2007-10-14 15:01:49 · answer #1 · answered by pink 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's stupid. When you get married you make vows that you will forsake ALL others, meaning that you will be faithful to your spouse, and ANY sex outside of marriage even if your spouse concents is adultery and it's wrong. It's cheating.
And the reason that most don't work is because of jealousy, also because if my wife and I are in that kind of lifestyle, even if she concents, what kind of message are we telling each other, that we both think that neither of us is good enough, or enough.
That's why I stay away from that kind of lifestyle, because it will breed nothing but problems.
2007-10-14 22:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its villified by society, and society can be quite fascist with its traditional rules but for individuals involved, it could mean the greatest happiness and living life more fully. Sometimes, people marry and then find out their partner is not really what they thought, or people change, or the one that was the greatest love just couldn't do well in domestic daily living together and vice-versa. People owning people is not a good idea, as you can see over 50% of marriages go to divorce, and many (not necessarily all) of the remaining ones are unhappy, miserable, confining and even cruel in some cases. Thumbs-down to my answer does not intimidate me from speaking the truth. Society could be better off without possessive controlling contractual relationships, and better with a bit of flexibility.
2007-10-14 21:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by million$gon 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Whatever will you do when your open marriage becomes divorce because she has left you for the guy you allowed her to sleep with?
Oh I know you'll be back on here asking another question: "We had an open marriage and now my wife has run off with the milkman, what do I do?"
2007-10-14 21:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Open marriages are a coward's way "out" of a marriage if you ask me.
married people who sleep around with others and have helter skelter sex don't have a very solid marriage.
people talk, and of course, the woman in the "open marriage" situation is going to end up being a hoe in everyone's eyes, and the man, a DOG for not respecting his wife and marriage.
i know two sets of kids whose parents had open marriages. it destroyed their parents' relationships and embarrassed the heck out of the kids. a couple of them told me they love their parents, but would never live that lifestyle and they were ashamed.
No i'm not in an open marriage.
parents who are in open marriages probably have emotional problems.
if my parents had an open marriage, it would be none of my business, whether i liked it or not -- it isn't my choice about what my parents do.
people in open marriages don't usually expose their children to random sexual partners, but that doesn't mean the kids aren't aware.
2007-10-14 21:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
No, I am not. It is only "open" in the sense that we communicate. If you vowed to love your one and only on your wedding day, that doesn't include sharing your sex with other people. Keep your marriage bed clean. If you can't be faithful, don't get married. Simple.
No, my parents aren't. I don't know any officially open marriages, but many who cheat. It's called adultery, and they usually get divorced.
2007-10-14 21:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Linni 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Countless studies show that while fantasy can keep things spicy, acting them out is another thing all together!
The short ansewr is that you can never know how it willchange thingsuntilafterwards- and thewn it is too late.
Ask yourself if you are pondering such a thing-what is more important-your relationship, or trying new things?
For most the answer is pretty easy.
remember - you can't walk into the same river twice!
Good luck
WW
2007-10-14 21:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by Gurl Heroin 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
open marriage doesn't usually work because of jealousy. if you really are in love with your spouse why would you want to share what you have in the bedroom with anyone else? if you do you probably don't really love that person as much as you think you do. if you are bored with how things are in the bedroom then change it up but don't involve others. if the other person really REALLY loves you they will probably agree to it and then when they see that another person can please you it really hurts. why would you want to hurt the person that you love?
2007-10-14 21:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
because you can't be IN love with one person and sleeping with another. The marriage ends because the two were never in love in the first place.
2007-10-14 21:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by brii 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the couple.
It is a matter of communication, with agreed upon rules.
If it works for someone else, who cares.
Do what you will.
2007-10-14 22:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by alex 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋