I went out with this guy several years ago and we haven't spoken since we broke up and we will never speak again. I'm curious about why someone would do this though. He was a constant cheater. The last woman he cheated with was a married woman who left her husband to be with him. He was physically abusive to me throughout our relationship. Anyway, I knew he was cheating, but of course he denied it.
One night he tried to force me to go with him to a party she was having at her house, where her husband was going to be (this is before they were a couple). I knew what was going on, and I told him I wouldn't go so that he could rub the affair in my face. My question is, why would he want to do that to me, and also her husband?
2007-10-14 21:24:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not that I haven't moved on. I'm married. I still live in terror though. I'm afraid because of how violent he was toward me that some day we could run into one another and he might decide to get revenge. It's just that every now and again I have flashbacks about the things he did. The police did get involved and I had a peace bond against him, but that expired. I don't think he'll try to contact me, but if he ever ran into me on the street I'm still scared he might do something.
2007-10-14 21:53:38 · update #1
Some people do things 'because they can'. And they get some kind of sick kick out of it.
I think you'd be better off putting that jerk out of your mind and getting on with your life.
2007-10-14 21:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, he was a no good philandering cheat and it is good that you are rid of him. If you ever run into him on the street and he is out of line with you ..call the police and have him arrested. Also you should look into taking some self defense classes and learn how to defend yourself. He wanted you to attend this party with him to use you as a cover up so her husband would not be on to anything.He done this because he has no morals and is a low life creep!! A very self centered person that has no conscience or class. One day karma will catch up to him and he will mess with the wrong person ...like someones wife who has a jealous husband or he will beat up one of his girlfriends and have somebodies family after him!! My sons fiance is going through the same thing you are...she has an old boyfriend that physically abused her and she is afraid to......she is a decent girl and if this guy ever thinks to go barking up her tree he will be one sorry man .... Don't you ever let this guy intimidate you if he ever shows up and gets out of line with you ...you prosecute him to the fullest extent of the law and then some. Take care.
2007-10-15 10:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM NOT SAYING THIS TO HURT U..
BUT U ASKED AND I AM ANS'ING U..
He did this becuz he KNEW u were a sucker for him...
he knew that u would put up w/ his abuse.. and Not call the police..
he knew he could cheat on u and u would stay with him..
He did it becuz ... YOU allowed him too..
You didn't leave.. you didn't call the police for help.. U didn't do anything.. but take it!!
Why did he leave u..? he had no respect for u..
Go for counseling.. get ur self some help.. move on..
He couldn't care less where u are.. he has move on with someone who he does respect.. .. even if she is a cheaters..
I lived with an abusive man(hubby) for 12 years... one day.. I had .. had enough..
and 20 yrs later he would take me back.. if only I would LET HIM....!!!!
2007-10-15 05:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be faulted for this answer, but IF you truly believe this guy is at all likely to harm you, and not just perhaps say something unpleasant or mean- but actually HURT you; then get a handgun, learn to use it well, get a concealed weapon permit, and carry the weapon at all times. Blow this guy to hell IF he ever tries to harm you. Most guys are bigger and stronger than women, but that doesn't mean ANY woman should have to fear a man. Guns are called equalizers, because they make brute strength immaterial.
2007-10-15 10:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing he is a huge jerk. Sounds like he has such low self esteem that he has to get attention where ever he can. Maybe he wanted to go to the party to force her to hurry up and leave her husband for him. I just don't understand why women flock to guys like him and besides, it's been several years it's time to forget about him.
2007-10-15 04:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by doodlebug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An abusive person only knows how to inflict pain onto others. He probably wanted you to go so it would be okay for him to go. You were a way for them to say they couldn't be having an affair because the two of you were together. It would be hard for her to explain why he was there without a date. How would she be able to explain him, to her husband?
2007-10-15 04:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by bizzi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋