She is never ever allowed to go anywhere with/o her children it's a rule.We are in outside sales,during the work week a few of us go to lunch if she goes she has to lie. He calls her several times during the day if she doesn't answer right away it causes a bad fight.We had a work seminar he interupted, to yell at he cause she didn't answer the phone,after she explained what was going on the night before. She can't talk on the phone after work if he's there. If the girls go shopping on a Sat. afternoon she can't go ever! She sneaks in phone calls when she is running errands for him for beer or chew,he works on base but calls her to go on base to buy it.No work related functions after 5:00.We took her for lunch on her B'day he took her cell phone left the house want's a divorce.She gets up @ 4am sets his clothes,coffee every a.m. does all the women chores,groceries etc.drives kids everywhere,age 12, 14&4.& they have30 farm animals for fun not profit she takes care of the bills as well.
2007-10-18 17:34:14 · 14 answers · asked by smiley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like he is. And she's being a Stepford Wife to accomodate him....if she's content, that's her business. If she's not, then you can only help her if she asks for the help or advice.
2007-10-18 17:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kiki 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he sounds controlling alright. You said, "We took her for lunch on her B'day he took her cell phone left the house want's a divorce." And I could barely understand it, but regardless of who wants the divorce, it seems like a good idea for both of them. He can find another puppet, and she can leave him. I think it would be best for her simply to just kick him out. He certainly doesn't deserve to have the kids or even the pets...Wishing her good luck!
2007-10-19 00:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Me Being Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman is not going to grow old! He is only treating her this way because she lets him get away with it! How on earth does she manage to keep her job? Maybe a separation is in order until they can talk about what he is doing to her - I would encourage her to get herself in a transition home with her kids and take it from there. Not going to be easy for her either way. Does she have a family to go back to? He won't let her keep her job! Hope if she can stand her ground he might come to his senses. What a marriage!
2007-10-19 00:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he is very controoling.my sister is in somewhat of a relationship like this.it's very hard seeing this but we have to realize that's there marriage .I try not to intervene.she dosen't want us to.I have come to grips if she likes it then who am I.I would say be ther for youf friend.sometimes it's frustrating to even be around the person that is taking such treatment from there husband,but if they won't leave what can we do but be there for them .when things crumble and she's ready to put some action just help her by being ther and encouraging her.
2007-10-19 01:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by keke T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, yea just a tad... This sounds like a lifetime movie story where when she tries to leave him he tries to kill her... He is impossible, and very insecure. I wonder if he is abusive? If not yet, he is on the path to being that way. She should RUN, RUN like the wind!!!
2007-10-19 00:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by chefck26 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hell yea hes controlling.
thats not the way anybody should ever be treated.
she needs to get out of that relationship ASAP.
you only have 1 life to live, is this really how she wants it to be?
you as her friend, should talk to her & get her some help
2007-10-19 01:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is controlling. Just divorce the bastard, or see if you can take him on Maury and have that D West guy strighten him out.
2007-10-19 00:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get much more controlling than that. If he wants a divorce I would say good riddance. That is not any kind of life to live.
2007-10-19 00:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
definitely, no woman should be treated that way. I would sit down with her and have a serious conversation, and make sure that he is not doing anything else to her, that she may be hiding.
2007-10-19 00:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Controlling and abusive.
You actually had to ask this ? Isn't the whole description obvious enough ?
She needs help !!
2007-10-19 00:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by Romi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋