i love him its just that he is really rude to our daugter and when im at work he makes her cook and clean for him
iwant a divorce but he dosnt and my dsughter was crying when i came home from work casue he treated her like a maid
should i divorce him or what
whatas ur opoimion
2007-10-18 20:22:44 · 8 answers · asked by Ava Notorious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my dughter is 7
2007-10-18 20:53:21 · update #1
he is not her real father i maried him after her real father past away in a car accidnet
2007-10-18 21:01:18 · update #2
Getting a divorce because your daughter feels like a maid isn't in my opinion a legitimate reason for divorce.
Firstly, you fail to mention if it is his biological daughter? Cooking and cleaning are things that every family member (age permitting of course) should participate in. That's what part of being in a family is all about.
Secondly, who is in charge of the family? The parents or the children? If you are allowing your daughter to manipulate you into divorcing your husband over this particular issue, how strong was the marriage?
I think what needs to happen is a few things. A family sit down where everyone discusses their roles within the family dynamic. You and your husband should seriously consider your relationship with each other in the sense of developing a united front. Get some counselling if need be.
Otherwise you need to post more information in order for me to respond appropriately.
2007-10-18 20:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just the fact that he makes his daughter cook and clean for him is wrong, and I would worry if he is the type to want her to be his wife in other inappropriate ways as well. You need to ask her if he has touched her in any way. You love what he was when you married him, or what you thought he was, but he has shown you that was all an act so now it is time to file for the divorce and get him out of the house for your daughter's happiness and so that you can find a person who will make you happy as well.
2007-10-18 20:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, you don't want to ruin your relationship with your daughter over a man. Your daughter will feel like she isn't important to you. If he knows this is an issue (like you want a DIVORCE over it) and he STILL does it he has no respect for her. He could potiential venture into other interests......... I say leave him and take of your daugher, that's not her daddy anyway.
2007-10-19 02:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is his daughter too he has a right to give her orders but still not to be rude to her i would say not grounds for divorce but a serious talk about how to treat your child if not the dad then you have the right to be mad and yeah tell him me and her are gone
2007-10-18 20:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by THE PRINCESS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it his daughter too? You need to tell him either he respects your daughter, or your both out the door. Hes a grown man, he can take care of himself, instead of putting it on some poor child.
2007-10-18 20:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is extreme step. first talk politely, then quarrel and even act as harshly as u can. it may work.
2007-10-18 21:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your daughters biological father, I don't think u should divorce him for this. She should obey her father and you shouldnt spoil her. If he is not her biological father and did not raise her then it would make more sense to divorce him.
2007-10-18 20:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dae 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is thats all you wanna divorce him for ?? How old is she
2007-10-18 20:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋