Marriage & Divorce - 22 October 2007

i.e. happier.

No matter how hard I try I can't actually feel upset. I sometimes feel a bit guilty because I don't feel upset, and I sometimes feel a little uncertain (not very) about whether it's right just to let a 17 year relationship end even if it was hell towards the end. But then I think well if it weren't the right thing to do I'd be feeling more upset so I must be doing the right thing.

So I'm just wondering if anyone else has felt like this and whether I'll feel any differently after a few weeks. (It's only been 10 days)?

2007-10-22 23:33:55 · 22 answers · asked by Louise H 3

2007-10-22 23:09:55 · 9 answers · asked by havah 2

This is a tad drawn out, not to mention pathetic, but please stick with me. Basically, my best friend fell out big time with his (married) sister; soon afterwards she started hanging round me a lot, was on msn every day, we went out places, talked for ages, etc; even seemed to be flirting slightly; endless eye contact, lots of compliments, found excuses to get half undressed a couple of times.

All along my friend said she was trying enchant me just to get at him; that she cared nothing for me. Being pretty naive and vulnerable (due to something I won't bore you with) I lapped up the attention and started to fall for her; she kept doing/saying borderline flirty little things - a kiss on msn, saying there's no one she'd rather be with, resting her head on my shoulder, feet on my lap, etc, but always said we were only friends.

Lately she's backed off a little. My friend says she's got bored; she says she's just busy and didn't mean to give the wrong idea. So have I been used?

2007-10-22 22:58:35 · 14 answers · asked by SITSC 1

I have got married last year according to the Hindu marriage act. Now my wife is not ready to reconcile or not ready to give me divorce. I have been forcing her for divorce, but she was always ready for reconciliation. But recently she changed the mood and stating that she will not leave me and not reconcile with me. I cannot understand if there is any special strategy from her side or just she is playing with me. In front of court she is always ready for reconciliation but behind the court she threatening me that she will not give me divorce and nor reconcile. Please suggest me which step I can take to deal with her. I will never reconcile, I seriously want divorce.

2007-10-22 21:58:19 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

if your husband bought you breast implants can the judge make you pay for half or all the cost if it was a gift in marriage ?

2007-10-22 21:49:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Supposedly the Bible commands it. Is the whole 50/50 partnership bad for marriages? Did it cause our divorce rate?

2007-10-22 21:47:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's wrong
It's unhealthy
It won't work

How do you let it go?

2007-10-22 21:44:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

before i got married i shared things with my husband like my family history education things like that, u know... like you do..anywayz im regretting it now because he is throwing those things back in my face every now and then,like i had a tough upbringing as a child being sexually abused by my father and stuff and didnt concentrate on school n things and thats why i only completed up to yr 10,anyway he knows all this and everytime i say or do something not so smart,he always calls me dumb or makes reference to the fact that im "uneducated" for as long as i can remember he has always done this and im sick of it,its not an everyday thing but it happens often enough for me to get pissed off with him.he thinks he is god because he is "educated" and did a 5 yr law degree.not to mention he is indian and education means everything over there.. i have told him how it makes me feel but he does not seem to get it...he still mentions it every chance he gets....i get called dumb,stupid,uneducated

2007-10-22 20:36:07 · 12 answers · asked by Sexy_mum24 5

My husband comes from an abusive family, until his Great grandmother stepped in and raised him to manhood!
He's a wonderful man with plenty to offer and give and I love him for that.
He's got 2 Ph.D's and is successful but when he's pushed the wrong way he closes down and holds back his anger.

I know when he feels like this is because he will buy a self help book or listen to his self help CD, and this does help him out but I think he needs to confront these people and tell them off if necessary and why he feels the way he does and not try and always think his way through it!

I have never seen it but he informs me he has a TEMPER and he needs to always keep his cool or theirs blood on the floor! I've never seen that side of him in 14 years, theirs been plenty of opportunity for him to lose it.

Is their a way to show him he's got a partner, as well as a lover a wife, best friend in a way thats healthy beside always asking him whats wrong?
Just want us to be happy healthy!

2007-10-22 20:34:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I m a married woman wif 4 kids n this is my secong marriage...I have seprated room wif my husband ever since my last baby lies on 2005...Coz i caught him cheating me n not only the first times n is lots n lots of times.I caught him having sex with a china woman.not only this n he also set up a trap wif his friends to cheat me n my moher in law...And lying to me for almost 1 years went gambling...I m the main person who is alway taking out my saving to top up whatever shortage...Until today i had use up all my saving...I feel tired of what he tells me n what he wants to do..I really hope that i can leave this guy but i cant coz the childrens financially need my in law help..I feel terrible n asking myself whether do i still have to carry on what i m now...Although i m born to be a beautiful girl but when come to marriage,a single guys will not accept me this woman of woman to have 4 kids...Oh what should i do to get out of this sick husband........

2007-10-22 20:19:55 · 12 answers · asked by rosa1132rosa 1

heard he remarried

2007-10-22 20:13:06 · 11 answers · asked by joe b 1

My husbands niece is newly seperated & getting cozy w/ her boss....who is her hubby's ex-boss & a wife-beater. Yes, he's married. I think the niece is just sort of in that re-bound, anger/resentment period after a breakup. Typically I'd say let it play out & she'll move on - but we're worried about where her choices will take her & how unsafe it could become. She and her hubby have 2 kids. He is worried as well.

What would you do?

2007-10-22 20:02:00 · 5 answers · asked by mkt 5

sunday started out to be a good day /we had breakfast/we painted the walls in the bedroom/ he got drunk/i started cooking dinner then he started to abuses me verbally screaming at the top of his voice,who he had to go around the bed room finish the snags after me /he said i was perfetic and should stand up for my self then out of nowere he jabed me in th arm with his finger i have a big bruies there now,monday morning i had showed him what he had done he said he should stop drinking,no sorry no nothing i hardley talk to him

2007-10-22 19:55:18 · 25 answers · asked by suzanne p 3

My husband and I work oppsite shifts and we are always in a battle of who's doing what. He is tierd and so am I. I work nights and home doing all the mom things, making shcool runs, homework, you name it.
He comes home and does what he pleases. I need help on how do divide the work of our family. Don't get me wrong I love my husband. My question is how do we coinside together to get all the work done? It's been hard and it's taking a toll on our marrigae. I don't want him to fell like he'd doing all the work and I don't either, does anyone have the same life style and what do you do to make your and your familes life run smoother? My childern are 5 and 4. The chore wheel is not a solution, but rather a good idea. It's more of a battle between us. My oldest that is 5 helps when she is asked and my 4 year old, well he's 4 and you have to go behind him because he learning. My husbands fustrations are the same as mine, I just pick up the pieces if it does not get done.

2007-10-22 19:51:47 · 6 answers · asked by orangie 5

can you tell me why a married woman who cheats on her husband with youger men knowing we dont want them as if they was young like our girlfriends and wifes who dont have children do they think we want them when there used up in that way we might have sex with them nothing more why is it so hard for them to see there nothing to us but . making there selves look bad only hearing from us what they like to hear are they that poticatic. in there minds all women dont degrade there families like this type you know the kind i am talking about

2007-10-22 19:19:26 · 28 answers · asked by matthew v 3

2007-10-22 18:59:19 · 31 answers · asked by ShineOn 4

This is a follow up to this question.... http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071020181940AAFGqaX&r=w

Gonna be long-winded. I apologize and appreciate that y'all may not like reading this. No hard feelings.

I checked the call-log in my husband's phone and got the phone number of the person he was talking to when he said what I posted in my other question (link above).

I decided that I had to find out for sure before making any accusations. So I created a VOIP (Internet phone service) account and chose the same number as hers with the only difference being one number off on the area code. I figured my husband wouldn't notice the one different digit.

I used that phone number to send him text messages pretending to be "the other woman".

2007-10-22 18:51:49 · 21 answers · asked by FRIED CHICKEN AND MAYONAISE 2

If my ex were to lose his job, can he petition the court to reduce the alimony he pays me? (He angrily informed me that he could get it reduced or suspended if he was out-of-work or made less money.) Our divorce was uncontested, we did the paperwork ourselves, and there was no verbage allowing for a change in income to change alimony amounts. We are residents of, and the paperwork was filed in, Nevada. All help and answers are greatly appreciated!

2007-10-22 18:40:55 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is there any good men out there after 30??

2007-10-22 18:37:18 · 9 answers · asked by Time4Tivo 3

I find that alot of good men my age have 1) never been married and want children or 2) were married, and spouse didn't want children so they divorced. I am unable to have more children do to have my tubes severed for medical reasons after having my own children, and now am finding it difficult to find a decent man to remarry, esp. since I already have children, this seems to be a turn off. What do I do to attract a good man who doesn't need these things. Most of the men that want children fall for me anyways and will date me, but deep down, I know it bothers them if we were to get married and it does make me feel uncomfortable knowing that that is what they would want.

Help please!!!

2007-10-22 18:33:49 · 7 answers · asked by Time4Tivo 3

2007-10-22 18:23:43 · 24 answers · asked by honey 5

My husband works hard and travels very often. When he comes home he wants everything that means family: good hot meals, house impeccable, gardens well manicured and the house is spotless. Never, In his life he takes me to the movies or for dinner, life is cero for me. He loves ESPN and FOX Sport and he enjoys more watching them that talking to me. Bedtime? God...It is like a took a valium of the size of a tampon, and he expect from me be watching and analizing the games and for me that it is a cerebral enema!! I feel like the maid of the house, cooking, cleaning and having everything organized. The only thing good that I do for myself is that I'll go the gym (I am afraid of getting to strong becasue next time I will break his neck) All men are like that to their wives? No movies? Not going out for dinner? No vacation? Please give me some feedback.

2007-10-22 18:21:49 · 14 answers · asked by MayanPrincess@sbcgglobal.net 3

I am 19 right now and in college and I think I am going to wait tell im like 80 or really old to have sex and kiss a girl for the first time. First of all I am really shy never had a girlfriend or a friend that was girl since I was like 5. I am way past ready to have sex and all, but I dont think I want to deal with all the drama of a girlfriend and all the other issues like babys( never want a baby ever in my life), diseases and emotions. So I think it is a good idea to just wait tell im like 80 and almost dead just buy a hooker and do it and not worry about it. It sounds like a plan to me what do you think?

2007-10-22 18:09:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-22 18:07:24 · 14 answers · asked by Elaine S 1

He is married. I am single. He's 47. Im 30. He has 3 kids. I have none. I met him in Feb. Fell in love in May. I knew he was married all along. But the feeling was too strong I just didn't want to wonder what could've been. I said goodbye to him in July. Then got back together again. Then yesterday I said goodbye again.

We have plans of moving to the states come 2009. He said "we can get married there". I believed him. But 2 months after that statement, he still goes home to his wife and kids every single night. Being an engineer, his projects will end by 2009. I talked to him abt moving out knowing he cant move in with me. He is not open to living on his own. Maybe its for economic reasons but anyway, my pt is, he still goes home to hes despite talks of getting an annullment.

Anwyay, last wk i again askd hm abt this and he finally said "no church or court will allow them to get an annulment bec they are still living together as a family. That was my turning pt

2007-10-22 18:02:55 · 14 answers · asked by Stefani 2

it is because of cast

2007-10-22 17:55:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

she says they are just freinds and they havent did nothing ,staying out 3 or 4 in the morning leaving me and the kids home,and one time she saide she was at her mom but she wasnt, what to think

2007-10-22 17:52:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been separated from the mother of my children for a year we were not married but lived together for about six years, we have two girls 4.5 and 6 years of age. After their mom asked me to leave right a way I started to supply and comply with all of their needs, I have proof of me paying their full rent, utility bills, health insurance, and as for cash money I have a recorded voice that because she didn't want me to give her any money in the form of check. Almost a year later after my children were practically living with me, their mom is taking me to court for child support. Also, not allowing me to see my children during the week days, I'm allowed only during the weekends and is saying that time is going to be decreased as well. I have tried to come to an agreement where we work things out for the benefit of our daughters however, no matter what no idea is good for her.

2007-10-22 17:46:23 · 6 answers · asked by dad1George 2

My friend got married a year ago whenever I ask her about her life she is in tears. She feels that her husband wants her when she is not around and when she is he hardly ever even talks to her.

She doesnt know what to do... I dont understand how things can get like this within one year of marriage...

Can anyone suggest what can be done?

2007-10-22 17:45:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-22 17:45:42 · 5 answers · asked by safeen q 1