My friend got married a year ago whenever I ask her about her life she is in tears. She feels that her husband wants her when she is not around and when she is he hardly ever even talks to her.
She doesnt know what to do... I dont understand how things can get like this within one year of marriage...
Can anyone suggest what can be done?
2007-10-22 17:45:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for the suggestions... i spoke to my friend as suggested & she said that she is not happy with the current situation... she feels very lonely and not loved... she also feels that may be somthings is wrong with her & that is teh reason why he is behaving like this
I have asked her to talk it out with him... like someone said he might not be aware...
and right now divorce might not be an answer... as 1) it just been a year of the marriage and 2) no one will support her with that decision.
hopesomething positive comes out
2007-10-24 01:15:29 · update #1
It can. When she is around her husband her husband feels "safe" and probably doesn't feel the need to speak to her. He just is happy she is there. I don't know but that is one suggestion. You could suggest this reasoning to her and see if there is more to the problem.Or if that does it. The thing I would suggest further is this. Find out how she feels about marriage in general. I mean does she feel that she should work things out short of abuse and cheating? If so then I would not tell her to leave or say bad things about her husband. If she ever leaves him though then you can do that but not until. Only support her in her decisions and try to come up with simple workable solutions for her.
2007-10-22 20:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they could try counseling if he is agreeable to that but it sounds like he just wanted someone to sleep with and do the cooking and is far too controlling.. You need to do things to build up her self esteem since he probably is taking that from her and if he won't agree to counseling she needs to file for divorce and move on. make sure she understand that she was a victim and he is using her love for him, if she has any left, as a weapon against her. she needs a divorce.
2007-10-23 00:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her husband. Just be open. He's probably not aware of the pain he's causing.
2007-10-23 00:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,as long as there are no children involved she should leave him.And do it before there are children involved.
2007-10-23 00:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋