My husband comes from an abusive family, until his Great grandmother stepped in and raised him to manhood!
He's a wonderful man with plenty to offer and give and I love him for that.
He's got 2 Ph.D's and is successful but when he's pushed the wrong way he closes down and holds back his anger.
I know when he feels like this is because he will buy a self help book or listen to his self help CD, and this does help him out but I think he needs to confront these people and tell them off if necessary and why he feels the way he does and not try and always think his way through it!
I have never seen it but he informs me he has a TEMPER and he needs to always keep his cool or theirs blood on the floor! I've never seen that side of him in 14 years, theirs been plenty of opportunity for him to lose it.
Is their a way to show him he's got a partner, as well as a lover a wife, best friend in a way thats healthy beside always asking him whats wrong?
Just want us to be happy healthy!
2007-10-22 20:34:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's younger then I am by almost 6 years, and has been my most stanch supporter when I wanted my pass the BAR exam as well ad in our marriage how do help him?
This is his 1st marriage my 2nd, and other then this issue it's been a real good one and want it to stay that way!
15 years in January!
2007-10-22 20:35:44 · update #1
Maybe you can try reading and listening to the self help books and CDs that he buys. If you know what he is trying to do, you might find ways to help him reach his goal. When he closes down, try to get him to tell you about it. Offer to be a soundboard, a confidant, and someone who will just listen to him vent what ever he wants to vent about. Start off slow, on small things. Be prepared to be told no, its nothing you need to worry about, that he doesn't want to weigh you down with his problems, that he is working on it and there is no need to bother you, etc. Also be prepared that if he does share things with you, you may just hear something you didn't expect or wanted to hear or know about. If his great grandmother is still around, ask her how she would handle it/him when it would happen while she raised him and how successful she was. Let him know you love him and support him and you are there if he ever needs someone to talk to. Then be that person you said you would be. Good luck!
2007-10-22 20:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by Stinging Dragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you two should seek counseling. thats good you're caring and loving. you just have to tell him how you feel, have an open communicationf or him, tell him you are there for him and you want to be his best friend and his partner, lover wife..everything..tell him you are ther for him..listen to him..show him you are there for him..like rubbing his back..listening about his day..let him talk about those things to you should be a big help..get him to write about them..he should get bottled up like that..he should get a hobby to relieve stress..like a hott bath..going to the gym..running around the neighborhood..a punching bag..tell him you two are in this together and you both will get over whatever it is..good luck!
2007-10-22 20:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 14 years and you describe your relationship as if you are still strangers i think you do need another man maybe you should think about taking one of those guys up on there offer next time you are out with the girls.
2007-10-22 21:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hug him , show him that u r always there, KISS his hand , his feet, its so much to show that u love and want him and really care for him.
do things for him, give him free kisses , hugs, smiles, cuddling , shy and run to hug him , do any, make him feel the so much love that u can give him to surround him all his life.
good luck
2007-10-22 20:39:48 · answer #4 · answered by michael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋