Marriage & Divorce - 22 October 2007

My husband and I have been married for one year. I told him from the beginning that I hate his smoking, but I kind of just let it go. Now, he's talking about wanting kids, but I said I don't want any until he quits. I just don't want my kids around cigarettes, especially from their father. He keeps saying he will quit once we have kids, but I don't believe him. Is it wrong for me to say this???

2007-10-22 09:32:07 · 80 answers · asked by Damon ♥ Elena 6

Is it normal for a married couple to only have sex twice a week? (Sometimes 4 times a month) I'm 22 and my husband 23. We had had serious problems before I had a LEEP done on March 2007 and I had 2 miscarriages one on Feb. and another in Sep. He said he doesn't want to hurt me. And I found out he watched porn......What is normal?

2007-10-22 09:25:47 · 26 answers · asked by Lule P 1

My Boyfriend and I had a fairly quick moving relationship. We have been together 3 years and have a 2 year old. He is a wonderful father and treats me really well. I love everything about him. ... here comes the dreaded BUT. He wont hold down a job... my parents have bailed us out of $$$ situation numerous times... he lies about why he isnt working anymore.. and then sits on the couch for weeks before he finally gets another job which he seems to get the "3month itch" I dont know what to do!!!! I am so indebt because of him.... and i stomache aches from being so stressed.... is it pointless to keep trying with him regardless of how much I love him?

2007-10-22 09:25:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am having one of those moments, one of those days that creeps on you when you don't expect it, years after the separation, and on the brink of finalizing the divorce about my kids. I have been told I am one of the best as I see my kids every weekend, call every day and talk--they live near by. I just sometimes look at their pictures and think about how the life circumstance of not having mom and dad under one roof will effect them later in life, and how it has already. They are well adjusted, doing well in school, and know the love comes from both parents. They see us as parents involved in their lives and work together as a team on any decisions that concern them. We compremise well enough regarding issues about them and mostly agree to begin with. Still I feel guilty at times as a father...anyone else been through this in this way?...

2007-10-22 09:19:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-22 09:19:09 · 47 answers · asked by sunshine36 1

We are seperated (3 months). I went out Friday night. The next day he saw me and told me...

"There are 2 things in life I regret, you and our daughter"
"I feel like spitting on you"
"your a whore"
(if the cops werent aroudn the block i think he would have)
---he told my daughter (who was in the back seat)
"i hope when you grow up your not a slut like your mother"
"your going to have a new daddy"
(later on she was crying about that too me saying she didnt want a new dad)


he went to a rehab yesterday and i scene him, tryed to forget all he said to show my SUPPORT? but now i feel like a fool because i hung out with him AFTER all that crap he told us.

Should I FINALLY get this divorce and serve him papers in rehab?? (is that too cold blooded??)

2007-10-22 09:13:14 · 21 answers · asked by None 1

I cannot tell this woman that I want to get out of this affair. I love her too much, but at the same time, cannot walk out of the marriage. How do I deal with this situation and woman. She wont accept that i want to call it off.

2007-10-22 09:12:21 · 21 answers · asked by jamesjopio 1

2007-10-22 09:08:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-22 09:04:19 · 8 answers · asked by inay 1

What impact did it have on you? As an adult do you have any hard feelings against your parent?

2007-10-22 08:38:23 · 11 answers · asked by Sugar 5

I made my husband leave a week ago, after 12 years of marriage and 3 years of trying to make him leave I finally did it. He came back this weekend so now I've made him leave again. He will not take no for an answer. He's controlling and plays mind games, it's completely changed the person I am and I don't like it. I've told him this and it goes in one ear and out the other, he just won't listen and won't give me any room to breathe. We have 2 kids together, so it's not like I can just cut him out of my life. How do you deal with someone like this, and most of all not let the kids see the damage that has been done. How do I make him understand that we're not doing eachother any good and it has to stop?

2007-10-22 08:37:35 · 14 answers · asked by Cowgirl Up Yours 2

My husband and I are very adventureous with our sex life and we have been discussing going to a swinger's club. However, when the time comes to go, I get very nervous. Can anyone give me positive feedback on an experience or encourage me to take the risk?

2007-10-22 08:23:37 · 33 answers · asked by Carrie S 1

I have been married for 6 years, and my husband and I have been having problems for the past three. We get along fine, enjoy eachothers company... but we've never had a very solid sex life. Actually, it's always been bad and no matter how much we try to "work on it" it seems to never get any better. Recently, I cheated on him. I know its a terrible thing, and I am horribly guilty about it. My question is, should I try counselling before ending this marriage, or have I already messed up too badly... should I just leave him so he can find a woman who won't cheat on him?

2007-10-22 08:17:57 · 11 answers · asked by lonleywife267 1

I know horoscopes and signs don't dictate how relationships work or don't work- just looking for something to talk about other than cheating and depression.

So is there anyone out there that can feel the pain (in a fun loving way) of being married to an Aquarian male?

2007-10-22 08:09:14 · 8 answers · asked by That Deal 2

we've been together for 3 years. i proposed to him Oct. 17, 2007 his birthday. and his answer was "I don't know." what do i do?

2007-10-22 08:08:45 · 21 answers · asked by jaeda_dog 2

What do you think the guy's and girl's intentions are when going into this type of situation?

2007-10-22 08:03:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my husband for seven years and things have been going from bad to worse...we hardly talk anymore, just argue and he refuses to go to marriage counseling. How do I go about getting divorced? The bad thing is we have a one year old together and my mother in law lives with us. We are living also in a two family house owned by my parents...

2007-10-22 08:00:52 · 9 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2

my husband cheated on me a couple of times, gave me so many excuses about his cellphone in the past. so now that i decided to work things out with him, i get angry when he does not call me to let me know he will be out. he cheated on me while on the job this is why a cellphone plays a huge role in our relationship. do i have a reason to be angry at him for not calling me or am i just an idiot

2007-10-22 08:00:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

gorgeous guys who treat them like crap over nice fat guys who treat them like queens?

2007-10-22 07:59:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-22 07:51:36 · 15 answers · asked by victor l 1

2007-10-22 07:47:55 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

First of all let me tell you that i am deeply attached to this girl & i might not control myself if she goes out of my life.

We meet everyday.
For eating or movies or park etc she says no.
But for sex she is eveready.
Her sister left her husband 1.5 yrs after marriage.
I love her & still wana marry her.
She says my house is small & asks me what will i do if her parents said no.
Is she confused? I get pain in my heart when she speaks negative.
I LOVE HER & want her as my life partner but she tells me to wait for marriage even though she satisfies me sexually.
She knows that i love her very deeply.
Is she looking someone else or is waiting that if someone comes in her life then she will dump me.

Girls Opinion is must reqd as i want to understand it from their perspective too. Boys must also answer.

2007-10-22 07:44:57 · 22 answers · asked by lovely 1

Let's say when you fell in love with your husband/wife, they had certain attributes that attracted/fall in love with them ex. intellegience, responsible, good with money, dedicated, had a nice physical appearance, they worked out, ate healthy etc. Let's say 5-7 years down the road, they start to change in physical appears e.g. they were fit now they gain 50lbs or if you fell in love with them when they were fat and all of a sudden they lose the weight. I've heard certain couples married or in a relationship says that they probably will fall out of love with person because their appearance has changed & they are not the same person they fell in love with. Could it be possible that a person can fall out of love with someone just because their appearance changed? Would it be any different if it was a personality change such as "this person was nice now they are a jerk/abusive, or if they was good with money but now they are a compulsive gambler, or faithful but now a cheater?"

2007-10-22 07:43:36 · 22 answers · asked by bitterly_sweetness 3

My son's mother has not let me have not one visitation in 5 years. NOT ONE! And the law will not do anything. Yet you let me get far enough behind in child support payments and I go to jail. That tells me that the world is centered on money and not the well-being of the child. It's not right. Not at all.

2007-10-22 07:28:57 · 31 answers · asked by R J 1

I have meet a guy we have been talking as friends for(4)months I meet him at work. see the thing is that I can stop thinking of this friend of mine what should I do???

2007-10-22 07:28:34 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-22 07:27:50 · 19 answers · asked by Cindy T 1

That the longer you are in a relationship, everything just fizzles out? Like, romance..love..sex..etc.? Or..does it get better with age and time?

2007-10-22 07:24:53 · 17 answers · asked by **Mystica** 3

And like an idiot I took him back after he came back crying and threating suicide. Now we been back together for 2 1/2 months....we saw the adulteress and her kids in the mall....and he wanted to run and hide....I wanted him to grab my hand and kiss me and walk up to her an introduce me...would he?? Nope! Oh and just three days before that she wrote him just up and out of the blue...saying "aww I see you got back with your wife.....your demented....and a pig...blah, blah" Why in the hell would she still give a care? And why did he want to hide??

2007-10-22 07:24:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

4 year anniversary
twin 1 year old boys
i've bought her alot of jewelry b/c i can never think of anything, so I wanted to get something different, but I'm terrible at this. for her birthday I bought her a nice camera which is all she's asked for, and now I can't think of a thing.
I can spend anywhere from 100 to maybe 250. we're going to have dinner and spend the night at a casino. We agreed not to get anything for eachother, but I'd like to surprise her b/c we skipped last year too.

2007-10-22 07:23:00 · 4 answers · asked by Kevin M 2

I think not.
Your thoughts...

2007-10-22 07:19:50 · 45 answers · asked by Page 4