I cannot tell this woman that I want to get out of this affair. I love her too much, but at the same time, cannot walk out of the marriage. How do I deal with this situation and woman. She wont accept that i want to call it off.
2007-10-22 09:12:21 · 21 answers · asked by jamesjopio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cannot tell this woman that I want to get out of this affair. I love her too much, but at the same time, cannot walk out of the marriage. How do I deal with this situation and woman. She wont accept that i want to call it off. She knows I am married.
2007-10-22 09:17:56 · update #1
cannot tell this woman that I want to get out of this affair. I love her too much, but at the same time, cannot walk out of the marriage. How do I deal with this situation and woman. She wont accept that i want to call it off. She knows I am married.
2007-10-22 09:17:57 · update #2
You didn't say how you feel about your wife. I believe you must still love your wife if you want to make the marriage work - or you have a strong sense of responsibility or you may have a child together.
Stop thinking about walking out of anything for a moment and think about what you want. What will make you happy in the long run? If you love the other woman so much, there must be a strong sense of connection between the two of you as well. If you love your wife, tell her the truth and if you want to work on the marriage you can then do it together.
Marriage is a vow you took and yes you should honour it. But if you are staying in the marriage for reasons other than love then I say don't bother. You'll look elsewhere eventually again. Even if you don't, you'll start to resent it because it was a hindrance to you being happy.
2007-10-22 09:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your kind of screwed. I guess you could tell the truth and lose everything or maybe your wife will even be one of those weak little women who would rather stay with you then move on anyway. It happens all the time. Odds are she probably suspects anyway, men aren't as good as they think they are about keeping secrets like that and living on the DL. I'm sure if you sound super-sincere and cry a little she will probably freak out and then decide it's the other woman's fault and maybe stay with you but secretly hate you and distrust you for years. Maybe she will cheat on you in return like I would do. Only I would cheat on you in your bed, tape it, leave it on the TV for you, pack all my stuff and some of yours and be gone by the time you get home. Or you could tell the other woman tough crap for her and just see what she does. I kind of want to know what happens. Either way this is what you get for being VERYYYY unslick!
2007-10-22 09:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Gena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds too obvious to me... get out of the affair... who cares if she won't accept it! She has no choice to accept it if you no longer agree to see her. That is no excuse to continue with it. You have most likely ruined your marriage at this point. Salvage your dignity and get out of the affair and try to make amends with your wife. If that doesn't work...perhaps "the other woman" will still be there waiting for you. You owe at least this much to your poor wife.
2007-10-22 09:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does not stand a gamble. If his spouse has taken the money already, he's out of success. the suitable he can desire for is that she marries the guy she's been cheating with, so the husband does not could pay alimony. yet why could they get married. they are going to stay single and stay on the alimony he has to cough up.
2016-10-04 09:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be with a woman married if you do not love HER ... You are depriveing yourself and her of what a real marriage is about!! Stop fooling yourself ....go to the woman you LOVE!!!! Marriage is about commitment yes...but first it is and should be about the love that will look at no others !!!!
2007-10-22 09:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to sound crazy, but the best way to get the "affair woman" off your back would be to tell your wife about her. She will make sure that this woman does not contact you anymore.
2007-10-22 09:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you HAVE to make choice. There is no way out. You already made a mistake by having an affair. don't make it harder by getting emotionally attached to that person. You have to choose because all in all you are ruinning two peoples lives ... 3 including yours (and maybe more if you have kids)
So make up your mind and walk away.
Men who have affairs should NEVER get emotionally attached to their lover. (that being said cheating is worng)
2007-10-22 09:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by caliguy_30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to make up a decision. Someone will get hurt and that includes you too. And I am sure and more then sure you will be burned into this mess. check the link I wrote and maybe you will find out how will end everything (unless you leave your wife and go with the lover).
2007-10-22 09:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try growing a pair of cojones and being a man - it might be a new experience for you.
You don't get to have both. Pick one. Make a decision, and see it through. No, it won't be easy, but hey - that's part of growing up.
2007-10-22 09:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, change the numbers, tell your wife the truth before she find out or you sh*t!... and next time don't cheat if you don't want affair!!
2007-10-22 09:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋