Should i marry this girl?

Question

First of all let me tell you that i am deeply attached to this girl & i might not control myself if she goes out of my life.

We meet everyday.
For eating or movies or park etc she says no.
But for sex she is eveready.
Her sister left her husband 1.5 yrs after marriage.
I love her & still wana marry her.
She says my house is small & asks me what will i do if her parents said no.
Is she confused? I get pain in my heart when she speaks negative.
I LOVE HER & want her as my life partner but she tells me to wait for marriage even though she satisfies me sexually.
She knows that i love her very deeply.
Is she looking someone else or is waiting that if someone comes in her life then she will dump me.

Girls Opinion is must reqd as i want to understand it from their perspective too. Boys must also answer.

Answer 1

She likes you but she still wants freedom it is hard she wants to make sure that there is always going to place for her family in your home. My only problem if that she is having sex with you without a commitment she could only be looking for a bang buddy. If you love her and she knows she loves you then go for it. But you don;t get married to get divorced.

Answer 2

Neither one of you is ready for the commitment of marriage. She's ready for sex, but not to be seen in public with you? What is going on there?
What are your ages? That might have something to do with it.
Sex is one thing.
Marriage is everything else. Waking up to the same person every day, doing household chores, being with each other not just physically, but emotionally.
Things that bother you now, will make you really irritated later.
How long into the relationship?
You are asking total strangers for advice with how to run your life, so that really shows that marriage at this time is not advisable.
I'm really bothered about how you have sex, but she won't go to the park, movies, or out to eat with you? WHY?

Answer 3

i don't think she's at the same level of committment yet. she seems to be holding back and trying to take things slow. and so should you. not that you need to be holding back because love isn't an on/off switch, but you need to step back a little and see whether or not things can move forward in the direction you want to be going with her. give her some space. it seems like you're the one offering her sex just so that you would be able to see her everyday. if she's not ready to commit to a long-term relationship (ie marriage), she'll probably want her space. i won't say whether or not she's still looking around, but in all honesty, as long as she isn't married to you yet, she still has her choice...to be with you, with someone else, or alone. seeing her everyday won't change her overnight. you need to let go a little or you'll smother her too much and she'll leave you.

and you can't blame her for having possible doubts about marriage. it's easy to base judgement on past examples. you should talk to her openly about her sister's situation and try to see what her opinion is on marriage before you go jumping head first.

Answer 4

You are in sad shape and not thinking clearly.
Before you think about marriage get a credit report done on each other. It will give you a more factual way to look at her than just with your puppy loving eyes. Her sister could not stay in a marriage and she was raised by the same parents so she could very easily want to run from it too. I recommend to be strong and let her make her own way in this world. Remember women want to be with their equal , not with someone they can get to pay all the bills.

Answer 5

Do you want to know if she's confused or do you want to know if you should marry her. What do you really think?She told you to wait is there a reason why she said that? Did she explain anything to you? Are you financially capable of marrying her? Do you think you can make her happy? Are you ready to be bound to her (do not think about sex)..Sex is not the only thing that matters in a relationship there is a lot of things you have to think about before making a commitment..and it should be forever not only because at this present moment you think its right.

Answer 6

ask her for her true feelings towards you, it's your right to establish whether there is hope for the future or not. sit down together and tell her how you feel but don't mention marriage. you'll be able to tell from her reaction and body language. i think if she just wants sex then you should decide whether you want to further commit yourself to heartache. i think if she's not interested in being in a relationship then you should stop seeing her bcz it seems you can't take anything less. when you stop seeing her for a while will also give you a chance to find out her feelings. will she miss you? will she call you? but then make it clear what you want out of the relationship. but whatever you decide to do respect her wishes.

Answer 7

She's using you for sex.
So, if you marry her, she might one day use someone else for sex. Where does that leave you?
If the sex is good, carry on but I would think hard before marrying her. She seems like a good person to be a mistress instead of a wife.

Answer 8

The word "marriage" involves a lot. You need to give this relationship a little more time. Get to know all of her likes and dislikes. Talk to her and try to understand what is going on with her. Communication is the key to you success.

Answer 9

Maybe someone broke her heart before and she is a little "stunned."(I can't come up for the proper word to describe it)
or
she could be a simple whore. The type of girl you are describing is similiar to the whores at my school.
Are you the only guy she has sex with?

Answer 10

Yes