We are seperated (3 months). I went out Friday night. The next day he saw me and told me...
"There are 2 things in life I regret, you and our daughter"
"I feel like spitting on you"
"your a whore"
(if the cops werent aroudn the block i think he would have)
---he told my daughter (who was in the back seat)
"i hope when you grow up your not a slut like your mother"
"your going to have a new daddy"
(later on she was crying about that too me saying she didnt want a new dad)
he went to a rehab yesterday and i scene him, tryed to forget all he said to show my SUPPORT? but now i feel like a fool because i hung out with him AFTER all that crap he told us.
Should I FINALLY get this divorce and serve him papers in rehab?? (is that too cold blooded??)
2007-10-22 09:13:14 · 21 answers · asked by None 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Was your Husband drunk, using drugs, or having a mental breakdown? What the devil caused him to go berserk like that? Is that is general nature, or is he just starting to act like a maniac? If this has been the normal way he has been treating you from time to time, I suggest you file for the divorce, and leave as fast as your two legs can get you out of there. This guy needs a lot more help than you can provide. I feel very concerned for your daughter. Her welfare must be your priority reason for leaving him. I sure hope she is too young to remember any of what he said to her. I CAN'T UNDERSTAND HIS THINKING TO DO THAT TO A HARMLESS LITTLE GIRL. Well get rid of him like you would any other pest. Good Luck, you have taken enough crap from him, everybody needs a second chance, but not in this case.
2007-10-22 09:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Butch. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation, unfortunatly though my husband and I never seperated and even now with papers filed he is still harassing me. I was the type to look the other way and every time the I'm sorry's came I believed him. 11 years later I (just last month) got the nerve to finally file for divorce. Dont let him do this to you or your daughter. More than anything though she needs to know what a safe and loving enviorment is like instead of this unstable one she has now. He has said things to her she will never forget, and as time goes on he may become more cruel. Dont make the same mistake I did, file now, while he is away. Never look back. They really don't change, I know you want to be the good guy in this, but sometime the good guy does the right thing for the person that is most importiant to them, which for you should be your daugter and a loving family.
good luck
2007-10-22 10:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by marlee6996 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like the typical abusive woman, "should I get the divorce and serve him papers in rehab, is that too cold blooded". He talks to you with total disrespect in front of your daughter and your only concern is if it will be too cold blooded to serve him papers. He was totally out of bounds talking to you and your daughter as he did and unless you show some spine he will continue to do so. You also might want to think about why you feel the need to rescue a guy who so obviously is not even worth saving. For any man to talk to his own child and put fear into her about her having another dad is so insensitive.
2007-10-22 09:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um girl, are you serious? You should have been gone before you wrote this. My ex did stuff like that to me and now it makes me soooo mad that i stayed around for a couple of years after and I promise you sweetie, once you have a couple of months under your belt away from him and moving forward in a divorce you will be so embarrassed that you were ever under this fool's control. I swear, I was like mortified when i realized that I was blinded by a freakin dork. I had thought my ex husband (well still husband we have been separated for 4 years and divorcing for over two) was fine! ...And funny and good in bed and blah, blah, blah and guess what, my new man is hilarious, he's such a real man, and he's wayyyyy better in bed and he makes me feel so nice. You really have to move on I am telling you because it's a nasty cycle, the kind of thing you are going through. I have a son with my ex too so I know it can be very difficult. I promise you that you will find someone else but the important thing is don't go looking right away, work on yourself first, have a good time, be with your daughter and the rest will work itself out. I know it sounds over-optimistic but it's true. I know first-hand!
2007-10-22 09:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by Gena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who would say things like that AROUND and directly TO his own child is useless. You owe it to your daughter, if not yourself, to get away from him. Is this a person who you want to raise a child with? Someone who is that brutal and mean and disrespectful? Not to mention, that kind of talk is definitely a form of abuse. You want that in your home with a child?
Forget it about being cold blooded, serve the papers and get away!
2007-10-22 09:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by wendileen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you are being too cold blooded????
He is the one who said all of those horrible things to you and your daughter and made her cry.
Honey, you have to be tough, not just for you, but for your daughter and all the other women in this world who are being mistreated by men who do not know how to be a man!
Let me tell you something, today at the store, I was verbally assulted by a jerk who just let me have it, he called me names and he used the words that you just said your guy used, and this was in the store in front of everyone, and this was over a parking space, he did not have his blinker on, indicating he wanted the space, and so I took it.
Well, that is where the trouble started!
He verbally assulted me from the parking lot right into the store!
I went into the store and called for security and called the police and he kept on harrassing me, and at one point he threatened to physically assult me in front of everyone in the store! I was scared, but it turned into anger!
The police came and said that since I was not physically hurt, there was nothing I could do!!!
I made a statement for all the women in that store who saw me get harrassed by this jerk!! I finally stood up for myself!
It took me many years, to stand up for myself, but I finally did!
Honey, he is in rehab for a reason, and you have to set an example for us women and all the women that are going to follow in your footsteps, to do the right thing!
2007-10-22 09:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce already! You might want to look into moving away from him as well so your daughter doesn't have to hear all that! Why would you even want to show support?He is an as****e.Move on.Good luck.
2007-10-22 09:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by notagain49 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is too cold blooded for scum like him. I would serve him divorce papers on Christmas morning if I could, in front of his whole family. Of course you should divorce him, especially if he would talk to you that way at all, AND in front of your daughter AND talk t you daughter like that.
2007-10-22 09:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all he should of never did those things in front of the kids. Did he have a reason to be upset? Did you cheat on him in the past? If not then you should stay away from him until he is better. You both should seek counceling together and apart.
2007-10-22 09:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is more cold-blooded than someone talking to a child like that. You don't owe him anything, support or even kindness. Get out now while he's away.
2007-10-22 09:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by SS109 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋