What do you think the guy's and girl's intentions are when going into this type of situation?
2007-10-22 08:03:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am in that situation now and its good some days and bad others...we are engaged but we have been engaged for over a year and i still dont feel the need to plan a wedding...in other words we have both gotten comfortable with how it is now which is not good...i think its good to live together for a little while just to make sure everything will be ok but after that time period is up GET MARRIED...make it right....i need to be preaching to myself dont i :)
2007-10-22 08:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by gracey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No go. Surveys show that living together before being married has not helped reduce divorce rates. In fact, it has increased with those that have done so. In some cases it might be an excuse to, (shall I say "get what you want") without making any commitment. If one partner is abusive to the other, the abused has little legal ground to stand on. There would be no such thing as a divorce so something like child support, alimony, taking off with jointly purchased items and joint checking accounts would all suffer. There would be little way to retrieve things and it would be harder to get $$. People living together and remain unmarried could "go out" on the other and not have to worry about breaking any vows or promises or worry about the repercussions of divorce. This would make it very easy to cheat on the other. Who wants that?? Last but not least, what does God think of it? What do your parents think of it?
2016-05-24 18:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not get married unless you live together for at least 6 months, bare minimum. People may seem to be a certain way, but you really don't know them until you live with them. You have to learn their at home habits because that's what you'll be dealing with for the rest of your life. Do they leave dirty dishes in the sink for several days? Do they leave their socks on the living room floor? Do they compulsively arrange shoes in the closet to the point of appearing insane? Do they keep the TV on all the time? These little things you may not ever think of; you may not even realize some things bother you until it happens.
Move in and spend some time getting to know how this person lives at home. It will help you decide whether or not you want to marry.
2007-10-22 08:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very important to live with your boyfriend or girlfriend before marriage. Getting to know someone can only be done when living in such close proximity. Live together and be happy, marriage doesn't prove anything these days anyway so if your happy with just living together why change anything? Intentions should be aimed towards the future together.
2007-10-22 08:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by Essa L. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it should be a requirement, you don't buy a car without a test drive or buy a house without walking though it. Living with someone will really tell you if this is something you can do for the rest of your life.
You don't even have to be in the same bedroom if the whole sex before marriage thing is an issue, but still living with someone can tell you if you are really compatible.
2007-10-22 08:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by simon y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely do so it not only paves the road to marriage but will show each of you if there is any behaviors that are going to drive the other nuts like chewing toenails or flatulence or whatever irritates you it will let you know that the two of you are compatible together and alone for long periods of time if not then it would be a bad idea to get hitched would either of you buy a car that you couldnt test drive i think the answer is no
2007-10-22 08:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The intention is to see if you and this person are really compatible once you find out all their dirty lil secrects and living habits. Its a way of knowing if you can make it in a marriage. My girlfriend dated this guy for about a year. she loved how good he smelled and all the fun they had together. Well they married, he moved in and she found out that he barely bathed ..just puts on clean clothes and smell goods. YUCKYYYYY Had she lived with him (as I sugggested) she would have found all that out.
2007-10-22 08:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No idea. I personally like that option. But that is very personal.
Probably one's intentions range around these:
-Nothing. That's the best way to live together before the next step.--I see not big deal in living together... for me is just like the next step in any relationship.
But maybe...
-Its a way getting to know eachother's routines, etc before jumping into marriage.
-Maybe he/she is not interested in immediate commitment
In the worst case:
-they really do not want to marry
2007-10-22 08:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone should be legally required to live together for at least 6 months prior to marriage. You learn more about a person living with them than any other way. Its better to live together and find out its not going to work then to marry first and find out.
2007-10-22 08:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I were dating, I moved in with him after being together for 1 year. We decided it was time and we were comfortable with it since we felt sooner or later we would get married and start a family. Marriage didn't come until 8 years later and we're still happily together with our little family.
2007-10-22 08:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by Flower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋