Marriage & Divorce - 24 October 2007

would you cheat to get back at them?

2007-10-24 23:50:51 · 18 answers · asked by bovinotarian 2

we went out for a meal with his brother n wife..he asks them wat they are ordeing not me until i placed order n he goes wat did u order?do u nott think thats wrong or is it me?
he forgets i am there wen others are there.wen its us too we choose together.y does he do this?i feel hes nice only coz no1 else is there...how do i stop getting hurt over it over n over again?

2007-10-24 23:46:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

been with bf for almost 3 years. he's 29-never married, i'm 28 w/3 little girls part-time. he's sees the kids about once a week.

we've had our issues (i have pmdd-takes meds now and saw a counselor for a while. he's never been married or lived w/a girlfriend). we've fought hard to work out our issues on our own b/c we love each other but decided to seek help of counselor.

saw her today-meeting went pretty well. she asked us what needed to change for us to work-he said for us to stop arguing over little things. then she asked him where he thought we were headed-his answer was goal is to live together and get married but he sometimes feels like i'm pushing him to go faster than he's ready to go.

he loves me and the kids-no mistake about that. but he says he wants to make sure we don't fight anymore (like bad fights-little ones are ok and will happen-he knows that) so we don't fall apart in the future.

he suggested the following things....

2007-10-24 23:25:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

i watched 300 and was inspired by it.after watching it i got a tattoo of a spartan on my arm,with the words "by spartan law"under it.The tat is to remind me woman are the only gods that will ever walk this earth and to apply reason and logic in my everyday life,but also to embrace fear,im a kiwi living in surfers paradise in aus.Recently out on the town ,my friends and i were confronted by a group of men of "middle eastern appearance" who were intent on having their way with a girl mate of ours,after realising reason was not an option,our friends ran well myself and a staunch friend stood against many,we ended up pretty bad,and my friend was stabbed.Since then our friends think we are crazy,are they right?

2007-10-24 23:15:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am master batting from my 17 year old now i am 26
next year i am going to marriage
this will effect my marriage life

2007-10-24 23:08:26 · 12 answers · asked by alex F 1

We are both working in the same office. I feel that nobody in the office likes him. He always complaint about some petty things, about work and employees. When he complains about some employees, he ends up picking a fight with them. Also, he tells things without thinking first if what he says would hurt others. I know, as his wife, I should understand him but I am slowly loosing patience on him. He is such a negative person and cannot take a joke. What should I do? I am afraid that with his attitude, our marriage will suffer.

2007-10-24 23:00:51 · 6 answers · asked by jabel 1

2007-10-24 22:47:35 · 23 answers · asked by mrsjohnsonforlife 2

my bf and i have been together for almost 3 years now. we've had our issues (i have pmdd-see a counselor and take meds for it. he has issues being that he's been a bachelor for almost 6 years before meeting me). i'm 28 w/3 little girls i care for part-time and he's 29 never married, no kids.

we saw my counselor today to see if we can work through some of our issues. the meeting was overall good but some of his anwers scared me a bit...

when she asked where he saw this relationship going-he said living together and married eventually was the goal (that was his exact answer) but it couldnt be rushed. he wasn't ready he stated. he said he felt that i was pushing him to go faster than he was ready for.

then he stated that my kids are a worry b/c he's not sure what life w/them will be like. he loves my kids and sees them about once a week now.

we set up an agreement that if we don't fight for 3 months, then we would do more things together as a family..

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2007-10-24 22:41:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

not by finacial but some thing other will make us happy

2007-10-24 22:27:57 · 17 answers · asked by rajan r 1

Meaning the courts. I read that normally the husband loses the house, car, and kids. Although he is also the one who paid for all the materials in the first place. Is it fair?

2007-10-24 22:06:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

It’s my mistake that I consider her an innocent and noble girl.
I love her very much and of course too possessive for her.
After some time she tell me her past two love affairs and swears that nothing remains illegal in her life. After 3 year when I planned to marry her, she again clears herself by telling a horrible sex rap on her. Without knowing her involvement I just trust and forgive her past sins or mistakes bcz she also loves me very much.
But it’s too much.....
Being with me she again flirt a guy and accepted her guilty before me. It becomes a great shock for me when I prepared everything to marry her. I take it sensitively and explore her more and succeed to get 2 more love affairs.
She begging me for her life but I am too much careful and sorrowful now. It seems that she will die without me.
Just 2 months remains in our dream life.
But now I am scattered with tension. plz help me...

2007-10-24 22:01:39 · 7 answers · asked by aapkafaheem 1

Have u cheated on your partner ????? If so did u tell them ,keep it quiet or tell them but make up some story why it happened

2007-10-24 21:46:55 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-24 21:46:26 · 24 answers · asked by yuyu 1

My husband and I are trying to have a baby. We live on our own, and do not ask anyone for any kind of assistance. We have been together almost 7 years, married for 4 months now. My problem is, I have recently found out he does now want his mother to know we are trying. He lies to everyone who knows her when they ask when we are going to have a baby. I am so hurt by this. She and I have never gotten along, because she considered me trailer trash and to young. ( we are 3 years apart) I am afraid I may be over reacting to his not wanting to tell her, but I can't help it. He says he doesn't want to hear her complain about how we aren't ready when he doesn't care what she thinks. Am I over reacting, or does this seem like some kind of red flag? What would you do in this situation?

2007-10-24 21:11:42 · 7 answers · asked by Sammie Jo 3

my husband doesnt see that his mom
is trying to make us get a divorce
he doesnt even want to talk about it
how can i get him to see the proublum?

2007-10-24 20:39:30 · 12 answers · asked by cher 5

I am thinking of giving up but I just love him so much and it is so painful thinking that I will lose him.We are living together now coz we are working abroad. The reason why I worked abroad is because I have a very irresponsible husband which gambles and drunk almost everyday. Our family does not know that we have committed an adultery. What will i do?

2007-10-24 20:34:17 · 21 answers · asked by charlo 1

2007-10-24 20:30:53 · 6 answers · asked by sunil a 1

iam 22 years old and I've been with my husband since i was 16 years old, we have two kids 4 and 10 mnts old. i guess you can say are marriage is OK, well it is. my husband loves me soo much, so sweet to me, respects me. but for some reason iam not attracted to him any more, when he trys to kiss me, i push him away, when we have sax, i don't feel anything. the only way i can have an orgasm is if he goes down on me, and he does all the time, he doesn't mind. but its me, i don't know what i want. iam i just being selfish. or could it be that i don't love him anymore. iam always lusting for other men. its like i want a stable marriage, cause i know with him i have that, but i want to have sex with other men too. i know its wrong for me to think of this and worst to even do it. but what should i do, iam driving myself crazy. help me, what should i do, i really need help. i know this is wrong, but i want to be happy.

2007-10-24 20:27:08 · 10 answers · asked by una_pinche_culera 1

bisexual meaning could be man or woman sex partner and can be done at thesame time. im married with two sons and i have sex with this guy who is also married few months back that i discover im bi. whats wrong with it..coz im cheating my wife and he cheating his wife?? that very true but im bi meaning i can have sex with both sexes as long as i do it in deffirent time and discreetly and safely. whats your thoughts about this issue..how cud i be bi if i dont have sex with both sexes??

2007-10-24 20:16:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my husband for 7 years now, and I have been married for 1 and 1/2 years.
I am really scared cause I am not sure what to do about this situation.... I love him! I just hate what he does to me.
I am not the perfect woman, I am a little over weight, I am cranky at times.. and sometimes I am plain mean.
The thing is, he is very abusive to me. He is the only man I have been sexually active with. I think that I might have felt obligated to marry him too...

About two years ago, he got into drugs and slept around claiming he never wanted to see me again, he came back to me a week later starving and crying for help, I couldnt turn him down, I loved him ya know...?
Since then he turned into a verbally and physically abusive man. He has punched my in the face, choked me till I almost passed out, thrown me in the wall, and hit me repetivtly.
He stopped the physical abuse about a month before we got married. Now he is very verbally absive telling how much he hates me.

2007-10-24 19:51:13 · 17 answers · asked by ?? ?? 4

My husband insists he is supportive of me, and the things that are important to me. But he says its because its 11 at night, he doesn't want to come with me to the hospital. I think this is a pretty huge thing for me, I am about to be an Auntie. I will be sitting alone in the waiting room, I really wish he would come.

I didn't push him to come, or say anything about it after he said he didn't want to. I just figure isn't it a part of being supportive? I mean for example, I am expected to be there for his friends/family times. I guess I don't get it. Maybe to get different perspectives will help me understand.

I am the kind of person that if something is important to him, I will drop everything to show him I am there for him, keeping him company, by his side.

2007-10-24 19:06:30 · 16 answers · asked by Wonderful Life 2

i am in love with thinesh. he is my relative. he too loved me.but now his mother didnt accept our love.so he is not talking with me nowadays.but my mother encouraged our love since his father is her brother.

2007-10-24 18:56:10 · 6 answers · asked by deepika c 1

Me and my ex were talking on the phone like we do everyday. now, we broke up because we simply weren't ready for a relationship and decided to be just friends to see where it goes. Now, I know he's dating other people and the funny part is, I don't let it get to me for the simple fact that we are NOT even together. No matter what I say, I can say ANYTHING, and he just gets mad. Like I was reading an e-mail from a friend and he automatically assumed it was from another guy, he didn't say it, but I know. How I know is because he got mad, and tried to hang up with me. WTF????? And what's even funnier is I'm not even dating anyone, I'm taking time out for myself. He's the one dating, and I know it's not my place to get mad. Why are men so damn crazy? Someone please let me in on the damn secret

2007-10-24 18:50:33 · 12 answers · asked by Toy 1

2007-10-24 18:43:40 · 14 answers · asked by hookerln 5

divorced 6 yrs.both parties to blame, both regret past. Im afraid to move on for two reasons- cant get comfortable with anyone and afraid of losin what i dont have anymore.still wondering if i can trust again like i did before at least not as gullable.wiser now. do i try to go back and try again or stay in limbo waiting for something else that may never come? good luck with this one!

2007-10-24 18:36:42 · 10 answers · asked by tommy 3

i dont know, i thought i heard somewhere that if you wait to marry someone you're dating for longer than 4 years that its unlikely to succeed. and im kinda worried cause my bf wants to wait til we're maybe 5 or 6 yrs into our relationship before getting married...and i understand and think its a smart idea and dont wanna contribute to the divorce rate..but like i said, at the same time im just worried. am i right or just overreacting?

2007-10-24 18:33:13 · 14 answers · asked by jules 3

My ex and I broke up when I was pregnant. He hadn't had a relationship with me or my son for about 6 years. This past year and a half, he has gotten to know my son and have a relationship with him. Last week he asked if I could spend the weekend with him and my son at his house. He lives 5 hours away. I don't think he has bad intentions. I think he has,"grown-up," and wants to be friends. My husband is furious, and told me if I go, he will lock me out of our house. I feel like I'm a grown woman and can make my own decisions. I wouldn't cheat on my husband, and would leave if my ex tried anything. I think he is just trying to be friends again. What should I do? I would really like to go, but I don't want any problems with my husband.

2007-10-24 18:21:44 · 15 answers · asked by steffi 2

I just found out on Sunday that my husband of 6 yrs has been having an affair for the past 2 yrs. I never noticed a difference in him. I didnt want to be intimate,too tired and bored. He said he went to her because "she made him feel good and she didn't argue" What bothers me is, if I hadnt found out,he wouldve continued with the affair.This was ok the first couple of days but now I think "Wait a minute,he stopped the affair because he got busted,not because he wanted to end it" I can't get over that fact.The affair itself hurts tremendously but the ending it because he got caught gets to me even worse.I told him that I need something more from him,besides ending the affair, to help me heal. We signed up for counseling.I asked him to go back with her. I wanted him to be happy.I feel like I forced him to be with me.Even though I love him very much,Id rather he be happy and not feel like I ruined his happiness.Of course he says he wants to be with me and loves me so why the affair then?

2007-10-24 18:07:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

So, me and my finace have been together for a while now and he was gone for 6 months for deployment [military] and well before he left i didnt care if he went out with his friends or did anything..and then its like...he comes back and im soo like selfish and i want him to myself and like im soo clingy to him and like if he wants to go out with his friends it makes me sad and like i cant trust him, but he has never done anything to make me not trust him...but he talks to his ex girlfriends which i HATE but he has been friends with him for a long time..but thats a whole different story..but anyways, its like when his phone rings i even like get this weird feeling like its someone or like he may be cheating on me...and when he dont call me or talk to me its the same way..and i dont understand why i am like this...im trying so hard...and its like i keep feeling like he is going to cheat on me or he is not happy, but he works nights so he isnt here much and we dont spend enough time

2007-10-24 17:44:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

From time to time she will ask me to help her move things that are to heavy for her being that she lives by her self. The only problem is the last incident we had was she knocked on my door with a house coat on, and the only thing that she was wearing under it were boy shorts, and a tank top with no bra. She asked me if I could help her put her curtain up, and the whole time I was distracted by her lack of clothes. Is it safe for me to say that my neibor is trying to get me to notice her, or am I reading into it too much. My wife was very upset that she knocked on our door with her housecoat on with minimum clothes under it. I am confused!!!!! Pls help!!!!!!

2007-10-24 17:34:52 · 28 answers · asked by Boogie27 1