Marriage & Divorce - 24 October 2007

My friend married a man 12 years ago that has a home in Illinois. Now he has refinanced it and she was the main signer for the new loan (refinanced). Now meraculiously he wants a divorce. her name is on the loan, but not on the deed. What is her legalities? Along with this she has paid cash for him a corvette, and a new pick up truck. They don't even live in the house. They live in another state ( TX), and she pays the rent for an appartment there in her name only. She has been out of state taking care of her terminally ill father for the last 6 months, she has had to take a 12 month leave from work for this, and the after responsibilities of when dad passes in IL. while he is in TX working , not helping her, and partying all the time. What to do???

2007-10-24 06:43:06 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

For me it is my boyfriend and I on a secluded beach. We go skinny dipping and have sex in the ocean and on the beach under the stars!

2007-10-24 06:40:32 · 16 answers · asked by Missy 5

Is it just me or do guys change over time. I have been in a four year relationship (engaged) and my guy used to be so sweet. Love notes...dinner...and now...he seems so flat. I know the honeymoon part of the realtionship is over life is how its gonnabe now but is it just me?

2007-10-24 06:39:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-24 06:39:02 · 35 answers · asked by Cookie 3

he borrowed $200 and never gave back
I broke up with him yesterday
will he be angry if I ask for the money?

2007-10-24 06:38:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

the middle of the week, what one thing if you could change would you? It can be anything you said or did or didn't say or do. Just think there is a magic YA genie that will grant you this one thing...

Just curious...

2007-10-24 06:38:12 · 6 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2

Recently an old college buddy had sent me a video via email that I shared with my wife. It started out with a really hot couple going at it in every sort of way. Then she started urniating on his face and in his open mouth, then proceeded to defecate on his hairy chest. While I found this grotesque and disgusting my wife did not. The peeing I can understand because I pee on her leg in the shower and vice versa, obviously all in good ha ha fasion. But the defecating is something that IM not into. Now, She wants to try taking a dump on my chest and keeps asking me to do so when we are talking dirty during sex. I love my wife and want her to be happy and will do everything for her, sexual but this. Her fetish is gone to the poitn where its beggining to turn me off to her. What should I do?

2007-10-24 06:32:01 · 78 answers · asked by Anonymous

Shouldn't we show love in the way our partner wants it or likes it?

If they like flowers give them flowers.
If they like cards give them cards.
If they like poems give them poems.
If they like sex give them sex.

Isn't it kind of wrong to force your partner to ONLY accept your love the way you want to express it?

A card is nice, but I don't feel love from a card. I'm just not that sort of person.
A poem is nice, but I don't feel love from a poem. I'm just not that sort of person.

Flowers or Sex its all the same thing its a medium of expression like money is medium of exchange.

It seems that if you really care for someone then you need to express your love the way they like it and not what is easiest for you. If they love you they should do the same.

Now if you hold back waiting for them to do it first or better or more then you are just selfish, after all love is giving isn't it.

So what do you think?
Right/Wrong?
Am I close or way off base?

2007-10-24 06:29:22 · 10 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

we've been married a year and have three dogs between us. Two were his before the marriage, one was mine. Well one of his dogs has been throwing up and looks lethargic and losing weight and also has this scabby thing on her head. The dogs stay in the backyard and I feed them and take care of them. Husband rarely cares for them or even goes out there to see them. So when I told husband a second time about the dog appearing sick he got all mad and said he had no time to be troubled by a sick dog and couldn't handle the stress of dealing with it. He didnt even go out to check the dog til later in the evening. Later he says the dog doesn't look sick to me but if you think she's sick then you can take her to the vet. I am having such a negative emotional reaction to how my husband responded. What are your thoughts and what should I say to him, and what should I do about the dog?

2007-10-24 06:27:06 · 62 answers · asked by Twiggy 3

we met 4 years ago and have been together ever since. a year into our relationship i got pregnant and we got married because i loved him and thought he was def. the one for me. his ex was always a problem calling him, but he said she was crazy, so he changed his number. when we were married she was still an issue, and then i found out my husband was sending her money for a kid that she says was his! she was ot sure if the child was his or another mans(pretty sad) and she was hitting up my man for money and HE SENT HIT! this infuriated me but i worked through it , and then we had another child together. he stopped sending her money and said the whole thing was over. recently this woman contacted me and said that my husband cheated on me with her right before i got pregnant with my daughter and that he is never happy with me! idont now how to get over this. we have 2 beautiful kid and this was before we were married but i cant seem to get over it.

2007-10-24 06:21:37 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I make okay money but as I said, it’s not enough to cover my half (just thinking in terms of financial responsibility/realistically)plus his extra debt. Going into a relationship or marriage you should be able to afford your share (your own bills as well as half of the house bills). I don’t mean this to sound selfish but unless one of the parties makes a LOT of money (which I don’t) then realistically, both should be able to cover their bills- No matter how you divide it. I’m not saying I won’t help him- I’m just saying that you should at least shoot to cover your bills. How is that Selfish? That’s how my brain works and I have perfect credit (plan to keep it that way). If you can’t cover your bills and the other person is not rich than you have a problem. I have used "my bills" for mathematical purposes only. Of course I’ll help my husband. AND- who ever mentioned divorce pleadings is IGNORANT. There will be no divorce. People are here for REAL advice not ignorance.

2007-10-24 06:18:46 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my wife just got married in august. she is the mother to my duaghter and has two lil boys alson who i have taken on. The problem is we got married wheni was on leave and she just split from her ex. Now the ex is always comin over to see his son and while i trust her i dont trust him. I know he is there to see her and not his son. To top it off i am in Iraq with 10 months left of my deployment so I have little I can do other than make myelf look like an *** and short of denying him see his son say i dont want him there. The guy doesnt work is practically homeless and is always askin my wife for help. I know she doesnt love him but she uses the excuse "he is the father of my child" when ever he needs help or he is messed up on alchohol and is crying about BS. I dont know what to do cause I hate to say it but i am jealouse cause he spends more time with my family than i do and its killin me that everytime we talk about it it ends up in a fight. HELP Me with some advice!!!

2007-10-24 06:18:27 · 6 answers · asked by megabite_me 2

I am 35 and have 1 child from a previous relationship. He is 37 and has never been married.

We have been together (living together 2 1/2 of those years) for 5 years. He is at that point where he says he's not sure if this relationship is right for him. He loves me (and my child), but is not sure if he's "in love" anymore. He bought me an engagement ring last December & now is in unsure about the whole forever thing.

His parents went through a messy divorce when he was in college. He will be the first one to admit that it has affected his relationships. When things get too close, he runs.

Can he be fixed? Would counceling help him to deal with his commitment issues?

Is it time to cut my losses and run?

2007-10-24 06:10:28 · 19 answers · asked by orange c 4

Well, me and my husband almost got a divorce. It started with the fact that every time we got into an argument (which was rare) he would say he was leaving or he just didn't care anymore. The other problem was addicted to his computer game and nothing else seemed to matter. At first he said it was for the best but he eventually realized that it was crazy to divorce me over a computer game and stopped playing altogether. I can't see myself living without him because I love him, but i'm not in love with him. I don't know what to do, he says he can live with me even if i am not IN love with him, but i wouldn't want to hold him if the distance between us remains between us. Do you think i should stay with him and try to fall in love with im again or just let him go because of my being unsure of whether i'll feel the same way about him again? When we first met he was always spending time with me, but after we got married he changed. He says he trying to go back to the way things used to be

2007-10-24 06:09:37 · 39 answers · asked by silversailorm90 2

My husband and I recently got married. I thought I "knew" alot about him, but come to find out I dont know anything. He has lied to me about his whole life. I found out about everything once his parents came to visit. He said he had been in the military 7 years, but his parents said only 1 year. He said he owned a 175 acher horse ranch. His parents said he lives with them in a trailor in Louisiana. He has told me tons and tons of lies about himself, and his parents tell me something totally different. But he gets his lies from other people. Like he said he has 2 pit bulls, but the pitbulls he is referring to belong to his aunt ( with the same names ). Every time I catch him in a lie I confront him. I am tired of him telling me, my friends and family lies and treating me like I have to do everthing for him ( pay bills, clean house, cook dinner, do clothes ) its not worth it. I need to know how to confront him and how to go about getting a divorce. Someone please help me!!!!!

2007-10-24 06:08:05 · 14 answers · asked by kryddlez 1

he is rather handsome, good possition[ engineer]. Please tell me of his case, how to explain to him that he is bad?

2007-10-24 06:04:15 · 7 answers · asked by thanhmap 1

What kind of evidence(s) does the court look for, if it is required? It is not like physical abuse where evidence is evident.

2007-10-24 06:01:29 · 9 answers · asked by sammy 2

2007-10-24 05:58:10 · 10 answers · asked by huckalburr 1

¿What do u think?, of course i going to leave to my home in a few years, what for now, i feel good.

2007-10-24 05:44:17 · 13 answers · asked by Nando 3

Just looking for some suggestions so I can have a better night's rest.

2007-10-24 05:27:39 · 22 answers · asked by Mel 3

I told her I would use tweasers to get it out, but that tick is dug in deeper than an Alabama Hound Tick.

What is the best way to remove it?

2007-10-24 05:16:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are currently separated, but have decided to go with each other to Fright Fest at six flags which means we will be staying in a hotel room for 1 or 2 nights. I'm hoping to remind my husband why he fell in love with me in the first place and sort of make this into a second honeymoon. What are some suggestions to make our trip fun, sexy, romantic, and one he'll want to repeat many times? I'm open to ALL suggestions.

2007-10-24 05:14:47 · 12 answers · asked by kandiedkisses18 1

i am a great singer by the way, and she loves me. will she possibly kill me?

2007-10-24 05:08:19 · 19 answers · asked by pimp 1

Currently me and my wife are in a financial bind nothing bad that we risk losing anything at this point. But things are kind of tight. Anyway she is planning to take a week off from her job that does not pay her for vacation time. I have asked her if she could cut her vacation short by 2 days so we dont end up losing alot of money. This will leave her with 5days to relax and do what she needs to. Well she is very upset that I have asked her to do this and is telling my that I am being insensitive. Can some please tell me who I am wrong in asking her to do this.

2007-10-24 05:05:27 · 34 answers · asked by ogoisanogo 2

I just won a lot of money in the lotto here in my state. I've never won anything in my life before, I guess I was saving all my luck 'til now. I've always worked hard for my money and I've never been married. I don't have many friends.
The woman I've always loved and have always been friends with now wants to marry me. I feel like the luckiest man alive. Its like winning the lotto twice.
My mom doesn't want me to. I love my momma and now I don't know what to do......

2007-10-24 05:01:45 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last night, I was looking for my heating pad. I found it near my sons bank. I had been saving money for him before he was born. The last time I counted the money the bank had about 400.00 in it. I noticed the bank was EMPTY. So I called my husband in the room and asked him about it. He looked at me dumb founded and didnt say anything. I followed him to the living room and asked again . He said that he spent the money . I was sooooo pissed off. I was yelling, and I cursed him. In a way I feel bad, but at the same time WHY would he do something like that ? So... as he was getting ready for work this morning he tried to kiss me but I put my hand in his face. Basically we arent speaking, and I dont plan to talk to him anytime soon. I am over reacting / or being too harsh. He shouldnt have touched my sons bank. I am so mad.
Advice Appreciated.

2007-10-24 05:00:33 · 32 answers · asked by Tru_New Orleanian 4

2007-10-24 05:00:27 · 9 answers · asked by SmartSexyWifey 1

I've only been married for a short time and I make more than my husband. He has more bills/debt than I do. He told me that he would work overtime to pay off his student loan and his outstanding debt. When we moved we had to buy brand new furniture. I ended up paying $600 (on a cc that I just paid off) for a portion of his share and also $150 of his share of the rent and he said he would pay me back the next week. Once we combined our income, he told me to take the money out of the acct and pay off what he owed. I realized that if I did that, I would be paying all the bills b/c he didn't have enough to pay me back and pay bills. He is not working all the overtime shifts (2nd job) that he planned to when we moved in. I told him that he needs to work at least one or 2 extra shifts b/c he does not have enough income to pay his bills. I know when your married you should share everything but I do not make enough to support both of us and I don't want him depending on my money. Selfish?

2007-10-24 04:55:41 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

with different women. What other logical reason would there be to have more than one wife? Having more than one wife is just a way to undulge in sexual relationship with different women without getting in trouble for it! How can women accept that?!

I find it disgusting and degrading.

2007-10-24 04:52:25 · 23 answers · asked by Mahmoud K 1

I am so sick of seeing people answer questions with "be glad your husband helps" and so on. Why is it if the hubby and wife both work and bring in equal pay (and I mean equal) and they have kids and she cooks, cleans, takes care of kids, keeps up with everything and he does "laundry" and the budget do people think she should be grateful? Why do we expect so little of men and when they do things around the house it's that they are helping "us" out. My husband works on the railroad is gone days at a time, but then is home for like 5 days too. On his time off he plays golf and takes naps and watches tv and so on, if he does laundry and keeps the budget up people act like he is the king. I think he should do everything I do and I should get a break too, is that wrong? Don't get me wrong I DO appreciate what he does do, but why is it so much less than me and why do I have to feel thankful. He doesn't come home and thank me everyday......agree or disagree? Just curious....thanks

2007-10-24 04:44:32 · 27 answers · asked by LilSunbeam 4