My husband and I are currently separated, but have decided to go with each other to Fright Fest at six flags which means we will be staying in a hotel room for 1 or 2 nights. I'm hoping to remind my husband why he fell in love with me in the first place and sort of make this into a second honeymoon. What are some suggestions to make our trip fun, sexy, romantic, and one he'll want to repeat many times? I'm open to ALL suggestions.
2007-10-24 05:14:47 · 12 answers · asked by kandiedkisses18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sexual magic is not gone, and I don't want our trip to be all about sex. I think the romance and fun in our relationship is missing. We got so used to just sitting at home basically doing nothing. I want to bring spice to our dull lives.
2007-10-24 05:23:14 · update #1
We're 20 and 24. Halloween has always been our favorite holiday so what's wrong with celebrating it? And I believe you can overcome a separation. My parents did as well as other people I know...they now have a better marriage for it.
2007-10-24 05:27:45 · update #2
What were the reasons you separated? Instigating sex is one thing, but living day to day with each other is another. If the problems that you had before aren't resolved, he'll just be using you for sex at the hotel. Realistically, there won't be any chance of a permanent reconcilliation until you take care of the heart of the matter. It takes more than sex to sustain a long term relationship.
2007-10-24 05:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look like you want to rekindle the relationship, so just come out and say it.
He may have a different Idea ( a one night stand or nothing separate room or some thing), so get it all in the open and have meeting of mind ahead of time.
If you do not want to be disappointed. But you may know what his thought are about this "Randa Vous" batter.
Other has good idea, only one so far gave the answer that you were looking for any way.
You asked, "What are some suggestions to make our trip fun, sexy, romantic, and one he'll want to repeat many times? I'm open to ALL suggestions".
1. Start by being presentable, Sexy but poised.
2. Be Romantic but do not be at his feet unless you want to be .
3. Sexy when the time come and you feel comfortable after the whole day of fun in the sun.
4. Avoid bringing old misunderstanding, and problem.
5. Recollect fun moment for old time sake.
7. Make sure you suggest another such outing before parting company.(most important, you will know if it worked or not). Or something different.
8. You know him, so make few notes, add to this list and keep it safe with you to fall back if you go blank, or draw a blank all of a sudden.
2007-10-24 12:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were actually seperated for 2 years and then divorced for 2 and now we are remarried (we've known each other for over 13 years now). You both will miss each other if there was true love there. Have fun while you are at the park...go on a scary ride, act scared, but not silly-goofy...grab his leg or arm like you are scared. Do something that you haven't before - if you've never ridden the scary roller-coaster, do it...if you've never ridden the merry-go-round, do it. Be scared in the haunted house. Talk about how much fun it was. Just have fun...the sex can come later...on the way back to the hotel, play with him, tease him...find a secluded park or beach area...make wild passionate sex on the hood of the car, or on a picnic bench or up against a tree...just have fun, don't get too serious, it'll be boring then.
2007-10-24 12:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide what you WANT and not what you DON'T WANT.
Example:
You want this trip to be one your husband wants to repeat.
You don't want it to be all about sex.
Problem: Your husband may need it to be about sex before he is able to open up on another level with may make you happier and feel more connected.
Its seems that women, in most cases, half heartedly understand that sex is important. Just because you don't value it , doesn't mean your partner feels the same way.
If you husband FEELS loved by having sex, then if you don't have sex he will NOT FEEL loved.
Think of it like saying the words "I love you". Does replacing a light bulb, changing the oil in the car or mowing the lawn carry the same weight as those words to you? Of course not, but he could be doing those things to show you he care, but they will not feel the same.
Finally, people want to be loved the way they like it and not ALWAYS the way the partner wants to show it.
Good luck
2007-10-24 12:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex with him won't be the hard part. Lighting that spark to start back up a relationship can be difficult. Try just having a good time with him. Don't be afraid to talk to him about your realtionship and how it didn't work out and what can you both change. During fright fest act scared so he'll comfort you then you can give him a kiss to start the magic.
2007-10-24 12:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by cooltyler2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You realize you are taking a risk here? It could work or it could blow up in your face.
To connect too the old days doesn't mean walking out of the bathroom in lingerie. It doesn't hurt. It momentarily might help. Unless the issues in the relationship were sexual then it's resolves nothing.
Reconnect to those old feeling by reminding him of them. Talk about the good old days, re-experience them. Reconnect to them.
Own whatever issues you have which helped lead to the separation. I'm not blaming you for it. Not saying it's your fault. But no one is perfect. Show him you've worked to resolve whatever those issues are.
2007-10-24 12:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I admire your idea, don't be too surprised if this doesn't work as you intend.
Have you two tried counseling to resolve whatever problems you have?
If I read between your lines, I get the impression that the sexual magic is gone.
Sure, this is a key component of a marriage, but it isn't the glue to keep couples together.
Try to look at this time to enjoy his company and discuss ways to forge out a future together.
Good luck.
2007-10-24 12:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, see what all is going on, have some fun at six flags and when it time for dinner, go eat at a nice place. See about going to the movies? Then when its time to turn in, hit up to hot tub and see if he'll join you.
2007-10-24 12:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds nice....but having a couple of romantic nights together won't fix whatever made you guys separate in the first place.
I would just keep things friendly and concentrate on having a good time.
2007-10-24 12:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it's bedtime, come out of the bathroom wearing a beautiful lingerie and he'll be all over you like white on rice!!!
Cheers
2007-10-24 12:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋