has my wife gone crazy with her sexual fetish?

Question

Recently an old college buddy had sent me a video via email that I shared with my wife. It started out with a really hot couple going at it in every sort of way. Then she started urniating on his face and in his open mouth, then proceeded to defecate on his hairy chest. While I found this grotesque and disgusting my wife did not. The peeing I can understand because I pee on her leg in the shower and vice versa, obviously all in good ha ha fasion. But the defecating is something that IM not into. Now, She wants to try taking a dump on my chest and keeps asking me to do so when we are talking dirty during sex. I love my wife and want her to be happy and will do everything for her, sexual but this. Her fetish is gone to the poitn where its beggining to turn me off to her. What should I do?

Answer 1

Sit her down at a time where there isn't anything else going on.. (no one is mad at each other and you two are not "going to bed")...

Tell her that you don't want to, and will never want to do that activity and to stop asking because it is a complete turn off and kills any "moment" you two are having at the time.

If she persists... then get counseling... if that doesn't work.... then its time to end the marriage. There isn't any point in being with someone you can't satisfy and who wants things from you that you are not willing to give.

Answer 2

She's been a naughty girl who needs some punishing! ;) Take a dump on her and see how she likes it! haha! jk jk jk. I agree with you, that is disgusting. It sounds like you two need to have a good sit down convo about this. Tell her exactly how you feel and why you think its disgusting. Ask her why defecating on your chest turns her on and why she suddenly feels the need to. I'm guessing she has wanted to try this prior to watching the video and you showing her the video was kind of like an approval for her to bring up the subject. While you're asking her about this, you should probably question whether there are any other activities she would enjoy. If she wants to try THAT I'm sure she has other fantasy's as well. But maybe not, the only way you'll know is the communicate with her!

Answer 3

Wow!!!!
Tell her?
This is the type of thing that once you've started it, you don't know wher it can take you. It's like drugs. Some start with cannabis, and stick to it, others are not so lucky and get whisked into the spiral of drugs.
To me, sharing your marital sex life with strangers, is putting one foot into a spiral of perversion, and you have no idea where it can take you.
What's wrong with sex being limited between two people who love each other and use their imagination to make it more exciting and fun???
Why bring a third party in?
What's wrong with blue movie? why make it more personal with others??
That's a big risk you've taken on.
Maybe it'd be a good idea to stop while it's still time?
If your wife can't accept it, you might have to rethink the relationship if your conception of sex in the marriage is not the same at all.

Answer 4

If you have a good marriage with good mutual respect and communication, and it sounds like you do, then I think honesty is the best policy. (I know that's a cliche', but it's often very true).

I think you should tell her what you just told us, that you love her, you want her to be happy, and that you would do almost anything to please her, emphasis on ALMOST. Then, simply tell her that everyone has a line that they are unable to cross, and for you, this is it. Make sure you say it in a validating way, i.e. that you acknowledge she has a strong feeling of interest in this, and that's OK, but you have a strong feeling of disgust with this, and that is OK too, because everyone is entitled to feel their own feelings. :) Good luck!

P.S. For what it's worth, I personally find the defecation idea extremely disgusting; I almost get a queasy feeling in my stomach at the mere thought of it. :( So, you definitely are not alone in feeling that this is a turn-off!

Answer 5

Does she know how much her defecation fantasy turns you off? She may think that because you BOTH engage in "pee play" in the shower that you share her inclinations. She may think "he just needs a little encouragement."

You need to make it clear to her what your boundaries are. Try to do it in a way that doesn't make her think that you're disgusted with her (even if you actually are, to some degree). Hopefully your shower play will be enough for her. Otherwise, this could threaten your marriage.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Tell her exactly how you feel, you find it gross, disgusting, etc and for her to continue to persue this is taking a beautiful act and demeaning it. Tell her if she persues this further, it will put a possibly unreparable split in your relationship. (that might cause her to rethink this) It will indicate she places her fetish or perversion ahead of you.

How will you react when she does defecate on you....as I suspect she will? Have your plans in your mind......personally, I get up, shower, pack my bags and leave. Probably forever. This dominance issue is truly a message and the medium is the message.

Answer 7

Your wife is a nutter. Being that I am an old fashioned girl, I don't see anything loving and caring about doing something disgusting to your lover as you make love.... Talk to your wife and tell her how you feel. If she's hell bent on it or gets offended or touchy, maybe you two should seek advice from a marriage counselor.

Answer 8

Sounds like she just wants to spice things up a little. Chances are good, if you talk about it, you can find something a little less disgusting that works for both of you. Otherwise you may end up having to put newspaper down in the bedroom.

Answer 9

one man's treasure is another man's trash.

consider this.

your poor wife has fixated on this and simply will not be satified till she does it.

it may be a great turn off to you but to her, it's all she can think about right now.

sorta like you can't get past this till you got through it.
getting women to open up and be loose about sex and talking dirty is something many people do not experience. you are very blessed to have a woman who truly communicates with you about her wants and desires.


first off, I say be thank full your wife is into really letting loose. I envy you for this.

as gross as this may seem to you, I think you ought to indulge her. you could do it in the tub, then have her clean you and the tub.

I think it would mean a lot to her.

sorta like scratching an itch that just has to be scratched.
she's not asking you to have sex with others, she's just hung up on this thing.

so do it once, let her get it out of her system, and move on.

I think marriage is sometimes taking a verbal crapping.
this is not really very different.

Peace out. all things considered your wife sounds like a woman who wants to please you and is not afraid to tell you what pleases her.

be very grateful for her willingness to communicate

blessings

f.c.

Answer 10

Do it once, that will cure her.

This is one of those things that once you do it the excitement is diffused. It will be more interesting to talk about than to have done it!

If you can't bring yourself to do it, maybe she will let you do it to her. If neither option is possible for you, tell her you won't do that and look for something new that both of you can be excited about to replace this hot item. Be honest with her about her obsession with it turning you off, but be sure to offer some viable option that shows you are interested in something new in your sex life.