we met 4 years ago and have been together ever since. a year into our relationship i got pregnant and we got married because i loved him and thought he was def. the one for me. his ex was always a problem calling him, but he said she was crazy, so he changed his number. when we were married she was still an issue, and then i found out my husband was sending her money for a kid that she says was his! she was ot sure if the child was his or another mans(pretty sad) and she was hitting up my man for money and HE SENT HIT! this infuriated me but i worked through it , and then we had another child together. he stopped sending her money and said the whole thing was over. recently this woman contacted me and said that my husband cheated on me with her right before i got pregnant with my daughter and that he is never happy with me! idont now how to get over this. we have 2 beautiful kid and this was before we were married but i cant seem to get over it.
2007-10-24 06:21:37 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no he def. cheated...he admitted it to me and they always seemed to k.i.t. he says that she was just jealous he left her for me and she wanted to destroy his life because he was happy and she was misrable....but he did cave into her...i felt like another woman was controlling my man and i can not say that i feel like he is 100% over her...i want to make this work for my children but it is very hard....he did cheat though..that is the hardest thing for me...i says he loves me more then anything and that this woman is just trying to destroy his life . and that he love me more then anything...i just dont know how to really put this behind me..i feel so betrayed
2007-10-24 06:50:12 · update #1
Why do you believe someone who he stopped sending money to? How do you know she isnt just trying to get rid of you? You should leave him even if he is innocent because you have no faith in him and he deserves a better woman than you.
2007-10-24 06:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't blame you. You will probably not ever get over it. If your husband can't manage to avoid her on his own then you will have to set some rules. It sucks to have to treat your man like a little child, but some people never grow up. You will never know the truth from the lies in this situation, because odds are both she and he are lying about different things. One thing is for sure, she needs to be gone 100% if he is not the father. He needs to take a paternity test for the child in question. If it's his, he needs to be a part of it's life, and that woman will always be an issue in yours...but the child is more important than any of you adults feelings.
2007-10-24 06:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by snowbunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh! This woman is a professional liar; she wants make you feel miserable.
She is furious, as she can’t stand the idea that you and your husband are happy with your family and she tries to split you up.
She knows, that he won’t come back to her, but she doesn’t want him to be happy with anybody else on one hand and on the other hand she wants some revenge, because there is no way to press some more money out of him.
She is clever and you already started to doubt about your husband, now she is waiting what will happen.
She expects you to become nervous, spy behind your husband, start to argument and make his life miserable...
Do not give her that pleasure.
He married you, because he loves you and he didn’t marry her, because he knew that she was a bi**tch.
Don’t believe her lies and don’t spoil your family and marriage.
Just laugh at her face and tell her to move on and get a life.
Tell her, that you do not have any doubt about your husbands’ honesty and behaviour.
This will hit her where it really hurts.
Remember: You have a husband and a family and she has nothing.
It’s more than obvious: She searched for you to tell you, that your husband was unfaithful with her while you were pregnant. No, honey, it’s a lie, as he left her although she had a baby and he knew that he couldn’t be sure who is the father of her baby. Men do not go back to these kinds of women, as it hurts their pride too much.
You can tell your husband about that incident, but I would recommend doing it this way: Tell him that this crazy cow tried to blackmail you and tried to spread ugly lies… just laugh and say: Oh, this crazy woman!
Show your husband that you trust him.
He didn’t cheat on you with her and he doesn’t deserve your suspects.
But he should be informed, as he needs to know that this horrible women tries to destroy his marriage and family.
If I were you, I wouldn’t loose a minute of sleep.
2007-10-24 06:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds pretty hurtful and sad if he cheated on you before you got pregnant. If he loved you why would he have done that? She could be lying about this whole thing and just wants him back. Have a heart to heart conversation with your husband. You have to get him to open up and listen carefully to everything he says. In the end just follow your heart and you will know what the truth is.
2007-10-24 06:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by tonya_j84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that I could hang with that either. You need to realize that no matter what you are a good woman you have good qualitites and he is a fool I have family member going through this and I recently have myself.
I am coming to the conclusion that men do not look at us (the mother of their children) the same as they used to well all I can say is if they had just one child they would respect what we have done for them!!! @ssholes!!!
2007-10-24 06:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since murder is illegal how about just ignoring this pitiful jealous crap instigating moron ex of his. As for his sending money to help care for a child he believed could be his even if not in fact he could not be certain until DNA testing, this reflects a noble sense of responsibility and honor within your husband.If you could find fault with that then there is something wrong with you not him. His ex has your buttons and is steadily pushing them. Sounds like you have a good guy you might want to thank your luck stars and hang on to him.
2007-10-24 06:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by dazedandconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly you need to verify that your husband did cheat.
Realize his ex has a clear motive to try to ruin your relationship.
1) She wants him for herself
2) He stopped sending her money, which drove her to call you in the first place.
3) By saying that he's never happy with you, is a play on your self esteem and pushing you towards break up.
You really need to look at the source where you are getting the information from, you said she was crazy yet now you are believing her? I'm not saying he didn't cheat but you need a more reliable source then someone who has something to gain by you two breaking up.
2007-10-24 06:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by jay k 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
He made a terrible mistake. Women can be manipulative when they want something - and he fell for her tricks.
You can either let her win or you can fight for what's yours.
Either way, get couples counseling so you can learn how to deal with this betrayal.
You know the part about him not being happy was something she said, trying to upset you. If you stop getting upset, she'll go away. Crazy people thrive on the destruction they cause. Stop letting her win & she'll find someone else to bother.
2007-10-24 07:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for some hard evidence before you believe his ex...he said she was crazy and it's not unlike some women to call other women and lie to them. It does sound like you need to get a few things straight with your husband though, let him know how you feel about the situation and get his feedback then go from there.
2007-10-24 06:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by Buggy Jean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your husband about this. She could be telling the truth and also she could be lying. If she wants him back she will say and do anything to win him back. Why all of the sudden she is telling you this. If they were having sex then she is a hooker. She was asking for money and giving herself to him. Talk to him first and see what he says. If he cheated then you have a choice to either work it out or leave. If you work it out get counceling first. Good luck
2007-10-24 06:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋