From time to time she will ask me to help her move things that are to heavy for her being that she lives by her self. The only problem is the last incident we had was she knocked on my door with a house coat on, and the only thing that she was wearing under it were boy shorts, and a tank top with no bra. She asked me if I could help her put her curtain up, and the whole time I was distracted by her lack of clothes. Is it safe for me to say that my neibor is trying to get me to notice her, or am I reading into it too much. My wife was very upset that she knocked on our door with her housecoat on with minimum clothes under it. I am confused!!!!! Pls help!!!!!!
2007-10-24 17:34:52 · 28 answers · asked by Boogie27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi...I just want to salute your wife....cause..she has allowed you to help this lady...knowing she is single...,and...if you want a peace full family life....then say a bold....NO ..to this lady next time......my dear friend....you may find a lots of different types of opinions...and remember most of this opinions from teenage, or single guys....who doesn't know the importance of marriage or duty of a husband / father......I am an experienced husband.....so take it ..or leave it....its up to you.
Nb:- After posting my opinion..I found so many good answers similar to mine.....that means everybody is cautious and somthing like warning you...and take care of your mind and your family.
2007-10-24 21:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by 2bros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she can't hang a curtain?!! How lame is that. She shouldn't be living by herself if she can't do at least that.
She is definitely up to something or just has bad manners. Either way, aside from the fact that the woman came to your house half dressed and your wife is upset, there is no reason why you need to help her all of the time. You are not her man. She needs to get her own handy man.
That said, there is no reason to be rude to the women. Just set limits. I wouldn't go to her house by yourself anymore. And I would start teaching her instead of just helping her. If she doesn't want to learn, I would tell her that she needs to find others that can help her. Remind her that you have a family and little time to keep coming over whenever she needs you.
2007-10-24 18:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by graylightening 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as that is all you are doing and your wife understands you are only doing it to be a good neighbor and a good man - not for any other reason. (He behavior sounds a little fishy though - like she is trying to get attention.) As a single woman, I appreciate the help I get from male family members, friends and neighbors when it comes to moving, hanging pictures, mirrors or anything else that require tools and muscles.
You might want to let her know discreetly and without being obvious how nice your wife thinks it is that you are helping, or something similar basically saying that you and your wife are close. Hopefully she will get the hint.
2007-10-24 17:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by sleepisgood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that she is disrespecting your wife. She should not be asking you to do favors for her when she is half naked. Some women love to see if they can turn the married man their way so they feel good about themselves. If I were you I would not play in this game and tell the neighbor and your wife that you no longer are going to be able to help the neighbor. The wife would be happy and the neighbor will be the loser. You know you liked it though but make the right decision before she goes further and you lose your marriage.
2007-10-24 17:41:35 · answer #4 · answered by Judi W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you not noticed and sense your girl neighbor are doing all her style and technique on how to get your attention and seduce you when the proper time arise.Your wife has all the ground to angry ,jelous, and be upsetted. That's women intuition, it's your descrition if you want to bite her bate you'll be trap. Are you ready for any circumtances? You can refuse, reject her favor to assist and help her.
One, twice, or thrice of favor are enough more than that is too much, what was she done are not a decent attitude of a respected woman - she's flirting you.Wake up before its too late.
2007-10-24 17:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way should you be helping her !! She is up to NO Good !!! The only way you should help her is if you take your wife along to help. Do that once or twice and that should put an end to this woman's wicked ways.
You only fall in the pit of temptation if you follow the wrong path ~ you already know this is dangerous territory so use the brains God gave you and let her know you can't help her if she is going to dress like that, that it is very inappropriate since you are married. If she doesn't respect that, refuse to help her in the future.
2007-10-24 18:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By you asking this, then it means you are uncomfortable and you know something's awry. I commend you for being faithful to your wife and not being tempted. I think it was very rude of your neighbor to come to your house wearing the clothing she was wearing. I'm a woman and yes, I believe she is trying to get you to notice her. I applaud your wife for controlling herself, because if I was your wife I would be in jail right now. Next time she asks for help, and believe me she will, bring your wife along IF you must help her. Always, bring your wife along. So then there will be no drama in your neighborhood. And your marriage.
2007-10-24 17:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jane_S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure the woman likes you, but what you need to think about is your wife. I'm married and if some girl was coming over pulling that on my husband I'd say something. I trust my husband but she should have the respect that he is married and she should find her own man to help her with her things. In other words stay away cause it's just going to cause alot of problems in your marriage. Trust me!
2007-10-24 17:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by ~*lovely one*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to make it clear that your not interested in your neighbor and let her know that the next time she needs help , you will be bringing along a friend........ your wife........ she can hold the hammer........
You do not need to get mixed up with some woman on the make, and showing up at your home with minimal clothes is totally unacceptable...... no wonder your wife is upset......
Tread lightly so your wife doesn't have to carry a huge stick......... ; )
good luck
2007-10-24 17:40:14 · answer #9 · answered by bizzymom38 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say talk to your wife about how she feels and go from there. or maybe when she needs something and has very little clothing on then simple tell her you are to busy right now but maybe tomorrow or if it is hanging curtens maybe your wife could go instead of you. any way sit down and talk to your wife about it. and maybe you and your wife should go together and both help her.
2007-10-24 17:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋