2007-10-24 22:47:35 · 23 answers · asked by mrsjohnsonforlife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't tell you what to do here. What I can do is point out some issues you need to think through.
First, is your marriage over? If deep down you know it is, then whether you are in love with someone else or not, at some point you will leave your husband. All you are talking about is the timing. It could be that your affair is a way of showing you how bad your marriage is and marks a 'transition' from a bad to good situation. If so, I would start making plans to separate.
But if your marriage isn't bad enough to leave or if you know you're never going to leave your husband, then you are playing with fire. What if your husband or your lover's wife find out what is happening? You risk losing your marriage, like it or not!
Think about your lover. You don't say whether he's considering leaving his wife or even if this is a possibility. If it isn't, then you are likely to hit conflict over your future and the likely result is you feeling hurt. It might be better to end the affair now while you feel good about him.♣
2007-10-24 22:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by SecretSquirrel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd guess your hubby doesn't know what he feels because your having an affair! whether he knows you have a boyfriend or not, for him to be confused about how he feels means he knows something is not right with your relationship.
You did marry him, and take vows with him, and promised that you'd be with him through thick and thin and everything else, so at least you could do is get rid of the boyfriend and try to get things back on track. It will never happen with you BF on the scene though. Give the man who offered his whole life to you the decentcey and respect that he deserves.
You need to spark your relationship back up with him, think back to your dating, and all the fun things, and what attracted him to you in the first place and see if you can re-ignite some of those passions.
2007-10-25 05:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by Keith S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce then choose, your husband says he is not sure how he feels, because he has a feeling you are cheating on him, which you are, and you want me to tell you to choose between your husband and the man you are breaking your marriage vows with, have you not forgotton that you made your vows in front of God, then you break those vows by sleeping in another man's bed that is not your husband?? Not gonna do that, not gonna go there!!!
Get a divorce then choose, make your husband "feel" again by divorcing him!!!!!
If you are cheating on him, he does not deserve you!
2007-10-25 05:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many marriages get boring because you become so familiar to your spouse that you act differently than you would with another. If you're trying to keep it young and alive and he isn't, a boyfriend is just the beginning of the end. How will this boyfriend trust you not to cheat on him if he can persuade you to cheat on your husband. Remember your vows and WORK on them.
2007-10-25 05:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by midnite rainbow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
one cannot say exactly that what is going in once mind when we ask somebody a question which is not suited at the time it is asked.May be your husband has thought what is the question you are asking; he loves you from the first day you met him.So that is why he would have not taken it seriously.But i am sure that if your husband would have known that you are comparing him with your boyfriend,he would have never told like that ;"he is not sure"; but when you ask your boyfriend ,"do you love me";he is knows that you are comparing him with your husband...
thank you.......
2007-10-25 06:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder your husband doesn't know how he feels, you clearly don't love him like you should otherwise you would not have a boyfriend.
Ditch the boyfriend and give yourself 100% to your husband.
He doesn't deserve you by the way.
2007-10-25 07:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that avatar is really you then Im surprised you have anyone at all. But back to the question, Husband. You did take VOWS didnt you?? Be a good girl.
2007-10-25 05:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by RaChAeL 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Think -how do you feel when you are with the husband and how do you feel when you with the boyfriend?
The one who makes you feel in heaven and treats you like a queen is the one to choose.
Why spend your life with a men who is not able to name his feelings?
The one who givers you comfort and the one who pays attention to your feelings
2007-10-25 05:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by Helena 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even HAVE a boyfriend if you have a husband no matter what the circumstances, so I guess you can figure out my answer from that.
2007-10-25 07:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You honestly think some nameless faceless stranger on Yahoo should pick your mate for you.
I choose the husband and some work and some one on one.
2007-10-25 05:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by lilygateau 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋