iam 22 years old and I've been with my husband since i was 16 years old, we have two kids 4 and 10 mnts old. i guess you can say are marriage is OK, well it is. my husband loves me soo much, so sweet to me, respects me. but for some reason iam not attracted to him any more, when he trys to kiss me, i push him away, when we have sax, i don't feel anything. the only way i can have an orgasm is if he goes down on me, and he does all the time, he doesn't mind. but its me, i don't know what i want. iam i just being selfish. or could it be that i don't love him anymore. iam always lusting for other men. its like i want a stable marriage, cause i know with him i have that, but i want to have sex with other men too. i know its wrong for me to think of this and worst to even do it. but what should i do, iam driving myself crazy. help me, what should i do, i really need help. i know this is wrong, but i want to be happy.
2007-10-24 20:27:08 · 10 answers · asked by una_pinche_culera 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well thats something you should have thought of before spreading your legs, now what you can do is tell your husband, about how you feel. try new things, have threesums, go to a swingers club, anything but dont end a good marigge over sex.
2007-10-24 21:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by that*girl*713 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could it be there is no challenge or excitement in your marriage? your husband adores you, its easy to become complacent at times like these, and having 2 young children is draining on any woman. Do you make time for just you and your husband? difficult with 2 little ones but not impossible, a special meal when the children are in bed, a bubble bath together? have you tried making an effort to inject some of the romance back into your relationship that is sometimes swallowed up in family life? it sounds like you are a little bored by whats going on, but you have a wonderful foundation to build on, a loving husband, 2 children etc, starting again with someone new wont be the bed roses, or as wild and exciting as you think, or as having a loving partner right behind you. Its easy to forget why you are where you are now, you loved your husband enough to marry him and have children, have all these feelings REALLY gone? that is the question you need to find the answer to, and after you have searched, and found the answer, thats when you decide where you go from here, the very best of luck to you
2007-10-25 03:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's sad how this happens to people but you're not alone. You got attached and married at a very young age and it's normal to feel like you want a change....something different. You missed out on your teen years of experimenting and it's weighing on you now. You feel that you need to sew your wild oats. Nothing that anybody says to you is going to take this feeling away. You just have to grow up and realize that you have it really good. The grass is not greener on the other side!! Maybe you should try things like role playing with your husband. Have him dress up and imagine that he is somebody else. Or maybe you could discuss trying out the swinger lifestyle with him. In any case, you are lucky to have a good marriage. Don't cheat on him or do anything to jeopardize what you have. You will regret that for the rest of your life if you do. A lot of women would kill to have a man like yours.
2007-10-25 03:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ex-Blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have been married at an early age
and really was not ready. Now you have to grow
into your marriage and that is not easy but sit down
and talk with your husband and let him know how
you feel and there are experts out there that can
help also, however you are the one that has to
play the main role and finding what it is that you
want, it will not be easy but since you have a loving
husband you and an advantage over others that
are in the same situation, Good luck.
2007-10-25 05:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that if you move forward with having sex with other men this will end your marriage and there is no guarantee that you will find another man who will love you the same way your husband currently does. If your husband finds out that you are having sex with other men, then he is going to leave you and possibly take your kids with him.
Imagine if he shoe was on the other foot and your husband was the one having sex with other women. Would you be ok with that? If yes, then ask him if he is ok with you guys becoming swingers. Again, he may flip out and that will be the end of your marriage.
I hate to give you the line of thinking about the kids, but it is very real in your situation. Your kids will suffer if your marriage falls apart. You have to take them into consideration. Is having sex with other men really worth destroying your marriage and hurting your kids ?
Based on the above, I cannot recommend you have sex with other men just because you married too young. Sorry.
2007-10-25 03:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Stylin' N Profilin' 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you're saying you would risk losing this good man to go and be used by horny men for sex. I would give my right arm to have a man like that. And it's sad to say but if tou do this some other women is going to be thanking you for letting this man go. Go ahead tell him you want to have sex with other men and not him. I bet he won't be around much longer. You need counseling or prayer to get over those feelings. I've felt this way before, it's normal, but you need to get over this as quickly as you can. It's not worth it. What feels good isn't always good for you!
2007-10-25 03:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by LaJoya S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ur just wondering what could have been
when i was 16 my bf, 18 then, asked me to be his forever. i told him i wanted to live and make sure i didnt want anything else before i settled with him. he sed its all or nothing, so he got nothing...
u just want to experience more things... it is bad b.c u are supposed to be married, but mayb tel ur husband and he will understand and allow it for a short time. but do realize, it could ruin ur marriage, ur life, andtake everything u have away from u. all beacuse u were curious. so just make sure u will be ok with consequences atht happen if u act on ur feelings.
2007-10-25 03:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by lirpa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u married too young. now u just want that freedom and dating other people. it is wonderful by the way. going on dates, seeing other people, partying, getting upset over someone, falling in love, falling out of love. i feel sorry for u. u skipped all of it. married life is all right, but after u experienced all of that
2007-10-25 05:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have met someone that you have a interest in all ready. Sure we all get curious but to lose interest in your husband there is a reason for that. Feel free to email me and we can chat i would email you but you didn't set your profile to receive emails.
2007-10-25 03:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are good enough. I am still go around seeking.
2007-10-25 03:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋