2007-10-24 21:46:26 · 24 answers · asked by yuyu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like the perfect family :) I'm not really a religious person, but I do believe in this thing called destiny. I believe that our lives are already decided for us even before we are born. It's not really up to us to decide how many kids we want. We are all born into this life with a purpose, and if you do have one more kid, he will not be an accident.
But then again, you can get a vasectomy, or if you don't want to maybe your wife can.
Just in case you change your mind down the road, I say you get a vasectomy, save up some sperm in a sperm bank, and you'll be guaranteed that you can still have children. In case you change your mind.
Sounds ridiculous but it just might work.
2007-10-28 21:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely a vasectomy. It's a very simple procedure and you don't even have to stay overnight .. I think in an hour or so you can just go home.
If you care for and respect your wife, I would really recommend this option, because for her to go through tubal surgery is a more complicated procedure. And birth control pills, IUD, etc. are all either invasive or have side effects, possibly detrimental ones, for her.
So even more than the ease of a vasectomy, I think it says a great deal about a man who is willing to "have the snip" as they say, rather than subject his wife to the other options. I think it is a respectful and caring thing to do.
As far as I'm concerned - Real Men Have Vasectomies. My dad had one after I was born, back in the 60s, and I still always feel very proud when I think that he had the intelligence and maturity to do that rather than make my mom have to do it.
2007-10-25 03:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vasectomy, that would be great. It's much safer for you to get a vasectomy than it is for your wife to get her tubes tied. She can also get an interuterine device or use hormonal birth control. Diaphrams and the like are okay, but since you really don't want more kids you're better off with sterilization, an IUD or hormones, since those three are much more effective at preventing pregnancy than diaphrams or condoms.
2007-10-24 22:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by some female 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 23:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to your doctor about a vasectomy. I did and made a decision to have one. Better for me to put up with pain for 2-3 days than my wife having to go into hospital. Believe me she'll reward you ongoing for making that decision. Also this will inspire you.... you actually become hornier post the operation. Not sure if it was a supply thing but, you really go for it. I was always asked for time out. Go for it !!!
2007-10-28 21:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are an extreme amounts of birth control now a days.. even ones that aren't a pain staking as taking a pill everyday... nuvaring for one.. have your wife look into them... birth control is the most effective if your not looking to have any kind of surgery.. you or your wife.. but other then that.. you can tie her tubes.. or you can take care or your package... this might be something you and her take up with each of your doctors.. i dont know the physical state you and your wife are in... so best talk to a doctor
2007-10-24 21:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by the critic!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't wish to go for sterilisation operations ( any one of you will do), then the best option for you is :
use TODAY pesaries ( tablets). The tablet is to be inserted in your wife's vagina atleast 10 minutes before you initiate actual intercourse/coitus. So you can do the same while you are getting cosy. It is a beautiful option as there are virtually no known side effects.
Happy moments.
2007-10-24 21:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by Nitin G 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Vasectomy to you or tubal ligation to her...Vasectomy is far more convenient than tubal ligation. It will just take you an hour to do it...But you really have to decide and make up your mind whether you are really ready for it or not. But if you don't want vasectomy/ligation. Birth control pills will do....Good luck! (",)
2007-10-24 23:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get yourself to a urologist, and get snipped. It's much less of a hassle for you to get this done, than for her to undergo an operation. Nothing changes in regard to sex after, so don't worry about that.
2007-10-25 03:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sterilization. A vasectomy is cheap and quick. A tubal is more expensive and more invasive, but just as effective.
2007-10-24 21:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋