I am thinking of giving up but I just love him so much and it is so painful thinking that I will lose him.We are living together now coz we are working abroad. The reason why I worked abroad is because I have a very irresponsible husband which gambles and drunk almost everyday. Our family does not know that we have committed an adultery. What will i do?
2007-10-24 20:34:17 · 21 answers · asked by charlo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Separate from your lover, get divorced from your husband, go back to your lover when you are both free to be together.
2007-10-24 20:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by scsspace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this guy, you give him off and think of better for both of you. You said he has also a family. You supposed to think that you were hurting his family mostly his children. You were also hurting your own family as well. What you have got is one problem only and that was having an irresponsible husband. If you really do not love your husband anymore, 'though its painful from your children hearing that their parents are no longer compatible. You can always explain to them and get an annulment and look for another in which you will not hurt some body's feeling. Think of his wife. She is also a girl like you. Put yourself to her. And feel the same if she realised already. I know how much you love him and i know how much painful losing someone you love, but this pain is just temporary and can be heal. So its not yet too late my dear. Remember, it feel's great if you are living without fear and not hurting anybody. God is always there to comfort and help you and he will give you the best in return. God Bless!
2007-10-25 04:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by thinking lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are betraying your husband just b'coz he is irresponsible and what do you think you are doing..you are not justifying yourself my dear...Maybe you will feel bad with my answer but to be very honest what have you done to rectify your husband?? Its very easy to blame others and it also very easy to break relationship rather than maintaining it. Agreed that your husband is behaving like this and its your duty to keep an eye on him and to rectify him. I just hope you and your husband dont have any kids, otherwise just b'coz of yours and your husband's this act they would be suffering the most. I would suggest you to go back to your husband and give it a one more try and try to reticfy yours as well as your husband's mistakes. No one can solve your problem only you and your husband can that is if you guys want too. Always remember Nothing is impossible even the word say Im possible. All the best!!
2007-10-25 04:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by JB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone always has these "great" reasons for why they are committing adultery. Let me just say, THERE ARE NO GOOD REASONS!
When a married person meets someone new, their spouse starts to look worse and worse to them. They see only faults. If he was that bad you wouldn't still be married to him. You used to love him remember? Drop the other guy and put the time you spend cheating into your marriage and see if you can work together to repair what went wrong.
There are consequences to adultery. When they happen, don't say you weren't warned. Stop this now and maybe you can avoid them.
2007-10-25 04:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him so much, why are you having an affair with another guy????? Think you need to separate from your lover and sort out if your marriage. How would you feel if you husband was having an affair? Get counseling and try to support each other. Does your husband have a drinking and gambling problem? sounds like he does and will need help.
If u love him and have tried all avenues, them maybe moving on if better,but get diovrced first. Hope it all works out for you.
2007-10-29 03:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by Justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman you need to get yourself togeather.
Either you are with your lover or with your husband,
and you can't be with both. Divorce or be married.
It's just that simple. How do you get yourself to-
geather is very simple, if the man you are married
to does not satisfy you and all your expectations
and since you say you love him then you need to
try and fix the wrongs with him, and if that does not
work out then divorce is in place, and don't think
because you have another that he is the right one
for you automatically, take your time and don't
give your body away so easily and you will see
exactly who is right for you. Good luck.
2007-10-25 05:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you let this things happened to you,it's because of what your husband doin or your simply lonely in a foreign land?You knew your both married and why continue it?
Come to think of it,your not just hurting your family but your doin like a homewrecker to the wife&family of the man you been with.Get off with him the soonest for the sake of your family (regardless of husband,your children and his).
I knew it's hard but you can do it if you just want it.
Good Luck.
2007-10-25 03:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by kugay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get divorced and seperate from you lover. If he also gets a divorce then get back together. Otherwise he's just glad he can get some while he is away from his wife. Sounds like your husband isn't that great but you aren't so high up there for having an affair
2007-10-25 03:42:13 · answer #8 · answered by La Dee Da 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be feeling guilty! Don't make your drunkard husband an excuse for your infidelity....You made your vow to your husband when you married him...If you're not happy with him anymore, tell it straight to him. Ask for a divorce or a legal separation. So is your lover. Both of you have to be legally free first so that you would not be commiting sins anymore and not hurting someone's (your husband and your lover's wife) feelings anymore....(",)
2007-10-25 06:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
better leave your irresponsible husband.. and even it hurts, i think, you should give up the man you really love. he's married and he loved his wife first. does he love you? then that's what makes you feel guilty.. both of you are guilty and cheating.. let go of the guilt and set your heart free.. i understand what you feel but it's just it.. truth simply hurts
sorry, but i just want to help you out since you posted this problem of yours.. but in the end, it's still you who have to decide =( god bless!
2007-10-25 03:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋