We are both working in the same office. I feel that nobody in the office likes him. He always complaint about some petty things, about work and employees. When he complains about some employees, he ends up picking a fight with them. Also, he tells things without thinking first if what he says would hurt others. I know, as his wife, I should understand him but I am slowly loosing patience on him. He is such a negative person and cannot take a joke. What should I do? I am afraid that with his attitude, our marriage will suffer.
2007-10-24 23:00:51 · 6 answers · asked by jabel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wonder how long have you been married. Because I spent 20 odd years being part of something like you're describing. Yep, it took me that long to figure out that I could not change his attitude towards others or even make him happy. Being happy is something that has to come from the inside and you will have to face the fact that maybe your husband will never change. If I can give you any advice is don't even try. Face the issue head on, tell him how you feel about his negative attitude towards others and how it affects not only him but you and your job also. Then offer to go with him to a counselor if he does come to the realization of what he is doing. I'm sorry to tell you that in my case it didn't work. But maybe I waited too long and tried too hard to fix things and pave his path for him. I just couldn't see him and consequentially the rest of the family suffering due to his anger/stubborness, whatever you want to call it. Good luck in trying to save your marriage!
2007-10-24 23:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by qb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever talked to your husband about this matter? Was he like this already even before you married him or just now? If the asnwers are both "no", first, talk to him. Ask him why is he like that. Tell him that a lot of people are disliking him already because of his attitude problem. And if he is not like that before you married him, think of every reason why he is acting like that. Maybe he is insecure of you because you earn more than him or you have a higher position than him. If that's the case, he will get insecure and you can not blame him for it because maybe other people tease him about it and it "touches" his pride and ego....The best thing to do is talk to him. Everything will be resolved if you would just talk and telll each other how you feel about the situation.... Good luck, girl! (",)
2007-10-24 23:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are alone - ask him what he's troubled about and then give him plenty of time to respond - I mean give him like 10-20 minutes to think about it, and see if he will share with you.
it sounds like he's in emotional pain - it may take time to work things out in his mind. I would be patient. It takes time for people to work through things. I know it's hard because it affects others. But I don't know any faster way to deal with it.
you can certainly pray for him if you are a Christian.
men deal with things differently than women do.
is he greiving? that seems like a normal response for a man who is grieving.
2007-10-24 23:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is not the husband........it is the two of you working together. Men are different on the job than at home. Want to save your marriage than change jobs...... you can find work alot easier than a good husband
2007-10-24 23:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a job in another office. Period.
2007-10-25 03:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him tell him how do you feel about his behaviour and how does this affect you!
2007-10-25 00:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋