we went out for a meal with his brother n wife..he asks them wat they are ordeing not me until i placed order n he goes wat did u order?do u nott think thats wrong or is it me?
he forgets i am there wen others are there.wen its us too we choose together.y does he do this?i feel hes nice only coz no1 else is there...how do i stop getting hurt over it over n over again?
2007-10-24 23:46:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but he does it with everything...y does he change wen others are there
2007-10-24 23:51:29 · update #1
i feel like am not there...i hate it
2007-10-24 23:52:14 · update #2
i told him n he goes thers nothing wrong init n he wont stop being that way with me...
2007-10-24 23:52:45 · update #3
tokya girl ure right he does feel that but he hasnt won my heart by the way i always feel excluded...it doesnt hurt to be nice..suggested counciling he said no...we r having problems n wen he does this i just hate him more n more...i asked for a hug he said how can i wen ure like this..which just pulls me away even more
2007-10-24 23:59:00 · update #4
monizk that made me smile lol..its hard wen at the mo we just keep arguing...i get so jelous wen i c happy couples coz i crave that love n affection that i used to hve n i dont nymore
2007-10-25 00:01:30 · update #5
My husband use to do the same thing to me and when i would tell him he would say it's normal for married people to ask this way. Then one day he came out and told me what the problem was he said he had been thinking of moving out for sometime 4 months later he did for 2 1/2 years. You better find out the real reason why he is treating you like he is and fix it.
2007-10-25 01:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just communicate to your hubby what you feel. It's probably just a misunderstanding.
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Then maybe try doing something fun with just you two. Since the discussion is already going on, maybe try and arrange a day where you just do something both of you enjoy, and the rules are "forget about the past arguments", "have fun", "be spontaneous", or something like that. You know, like start dating again to get some of the old romance back in. I think you are not alone, though, a lot of marriages will have their stale points, but remember it's give and take. Maybe just start being really loving towards him even when he is a jerk. I'm sure he cannot resist for long.
2007-10-25 06:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by Linni 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's the "eternal entertainer". While this doesn't mean that he thinks of you less or doesn't love you, it means that often times he'll be the one who has to "perform" for people & keep their attention. Since he's already "won" you, he doesn't feel the need to captivate your attention in public. He knows that he has your approval (or assumes he does) so he tends to neglect you in a group.
Just talk to him & let him know that this is hurting your feelings & that you need a little TLC & consideration in public as well. If you don't tell him he won't know & you'll just continue to resent him & that is not good. Don't throw away a good marraige just because of this.
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Since you have talked to him about it, why not suggest marraige counceling? There may be more issues at play here than just him wanting to entertain people. Insist upon this.
2007-10-25 06:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he does what you like when its just you and him then there shouldnt be a problem. i would think he is ordering for other people when they are around because he is being thoughtful of his guests. if he orders for you when its just you and him hes being thoughtful of you.
i would just tell him its hurts when you dont order for me can you please make an effort when we are with other people to treat me like a queen.
im sure he will have no problem with that especially if you ask it like this.
"can you order for your queen my king" lol everyone at the table will instantly fall in love with you all over again
2007-10-25 06:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by monizk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you overreacting a bit? He was probably just being polite to his brother and sister in law. You are husband and wife...not a couple trying to impress each other on the first date.
2007-10-25 06:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by bovinotarian 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
does not seem like anything to worry about but keep an eye on him =) assert yourself a bit and speak up in conversations... he probably does not mean to blow you off... good luck =)
2007-10-25 06:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are jealous over his brother and his wife?You are going overboard with this.Chill out and remember that is his brother.It is definatly you.
2007-10-25 06:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i just think he is being polite.how would they feel if they were left out.you just have to live with it.this is my opinion.im just a kid.he does ask you right?
2007-10-25 07:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋