I have been with my husband for seven years and things have been going from bad to worse...we hardly talk anymore, just argue and he refuses to go to marriage counseling. How do I go about getting divorced? The bad thing is we have a one year old together and my mother in law lives with us. We are living also in a two family house owned by my parents...
2007-10-22 08:00:52 · 9 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The easiest thing to do would be to sit him down and tell him you want a divorce... and have separate sleeping arrangements there at the house for the two of you. Try your best to get him to cooperate in formulating a 'separation plan'. Obviously he and his mother will have to move out. You'll have to figure out a custody agreement.
If he's not cooperative and it's a contested divorce, well, that's just the chance you take. The separate sleeping arrangements should work for you until they can move out.
2007-10-22 08:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry this is becoming so hard for you. Perhaps you could tell your husband that since neither of you is happy and he won't go with you for counseling, you are not willing to continue in this unhappy relationship any longer. Tell him you would like for it to be as agreeable as possible and would he file with you for a dissolution of the marriage, using one lawyer and settling the custody and money matters together. Don't let him bully you. If he refuses, see if your parents can help by taking everyone off the lease except you and the baby. They would then have to move but you'd still have a home.
If you can't work it out, you can always take the baby and go to a womens' shelter until you can get on your feet. Don't stay in a marriage that is making you miserable when your mate won't participate in making it work. It takes two to make a marriage; one person can't do it alone.
2007-10-22 15:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he moves out with his mother. You and the baby stay in your parents house. You rent the other apartment.
If the guy is not interested in fixing his marriage then he can spend his time looking for a place to live, a place for his mother, and a 2nd job to pay child support.
2007-10-25 16:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find someone to stay with, then raid the bank accounts, then walk out the door. As the mother you are very likely to be awarded custody of the child, unless you are a really horrible person. In most jurisditictions you can get temporary support (for you and your child) until the divorce is final.
2007-10-22 15:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by Fresh 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Go find a lawyer and file for divorce.
2007-10-22 16:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no way that everyone living in that home is oblivious to the severity of your situation...Sit everyone down...Even if it has to be at dinner and let your mind go free...Tell it like it is and Leave...Make sure you have secured a place to go first...and get out of there...
2007-10-22 15:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Fill the down for divorced and move on.
2007-10-22 15:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are married to too many people. You and your husband need to be alone - You need to find a way to rid yourself of your mother in law and your parents.....there are too many people in your business......
2007-10-22 15:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to get in to it .Figure it out yourself . I wash my hands of the whole stinking mess . You guys need to think about your kid . Get over yourselves
2007-10-22 15:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋