Marriage & Divorce - 22 October 2007

Me and my husband were enjoying some cuddle time in the bed this weekend and I started to feel "in the mood" so I did a few things and then went to take down my undies and he grabbed them to keep them up, we were literally fighting. I was trying to pull them down and he was trying to keep them up! What does this mean?!

PS No I haven't gained any weight, (5'5 /126pds), no recent fights or disfigurements LOL

2007-10-22 05:20:22 · 17 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2

elmira,

The greatest prize sometimes carries with it the greatest risk and even greater sacrifice.


Elmira, with this ring, I give you the greatest love I could possibly give if you're willing to take the chance;


with this ring, I ask you not only of forgiveness but also forgetfulness;


with this ring is a promise to love and care for you for as long as I live;


with this ring is a lifelong commitment towards a beautiful goal;


but most importantly, with this ring, lies my hope of happilly ever after.

I love you with all of my heart.
Elmira will you be my wife, will you marry me?

2007-10-22 05:17:59 · 13 answers · asked by rj serna 1

Like I've said before my husband and I have an 8 week old son. I do NOT feel like having sex in the least bit. My aunt who was like my mother died Friday, her memorial was yesterday. A friend of my cousins who I've had a crush on for 14 years has been a huge support for me. I know that I'm supposed to go to my husband for support, but he didn't know my aunt the way that I did or the way my cousins friend did. It's comforting to talk to him about it. The reason I wonder if I'm not attracted to my husband anymore is because I still find my cousins friend attractive. Though nothing would ever happen between us. We're both married and we both have a son. But why am I attracted to him and not my husband?? It makes me feel like such a bad wife.

2007-10-22 05:15:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Here's the story, My wife and I have been married for 5.5 years, and despite ups and downs we are generally happy. We have one child, a toddler, I am 26 and she is 31. In the past 2.5 years or so we have had sex 4-5 times. I don't know what to do this is a very imporant issue to me, I have talked to her, I tell how beautiful and sexy she is, I try to do things that are romantic, but most of the time due to schedules and financial constraints, all I can do is things so she won't have to i.e. clean the house top to bottom, paint the baby's room, ect. When we first met and even to the first weeks of our marriage we had a lot of sex. Not overstating my wife seemed to realy LOVE sex. We had some hard times in the beginning, but even when things were great like a year or so ago no sex. I try not to talk about it a lot or force sex on her, but the problem, to me, is getting bigger. I never want to cheat on my wife, and have never come close, the woman I want is my wife What do I do.

2007-10-22 05:11:17 · 71 answers · asked by goodkolo 1

How many times a week do you and your spouse have sexual relations?

2007-10-22 05:10:02 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband had been manipulative and verbally abusive to me for 26 years of marriage. I stayed with him for two reasons, 1.No job, 2.Three kids that I felt needed a Mom and a Dad. I did ask several times to have us go to marriage counseling. He refused. Now I have stated to him that I want a divorce and I don’t love him. Suddenly he changed to a nicer person. My question is: Can a person change over night? Do I trust that he has changed?

2007-10-22 05:07:05 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, quick but thorough background. A friend of mine was married for 6 years, then, wife cheated on him and moved out of his house with another man. She continued to use his (their) credit card(s) and built up an enormous amount of debt, possibly ruining both their credit histories for a very long time (bankruptcy may be apparent). During this 10 month period, he repeatedly try to salvage the relationship, with no success. She told him she didn’t find him attractive any more, and didn’t love him, etc., basically everything you need to move on with closure. Now, month 11 he has began talking to her again (after he sold his house, moved to a new place and started a new job) and is seriously contemplating trying to work it out with her, again! Throughout this process I helped him move on and get his life back in order (start anew), but know I feel he is headed down the same path by contemplating the renewal of this relationship. Furthermore, the only reason he is contemplating this is because NOW she is ready to try it out again. Personally, I think this is a tragic mistake! I have told him so, but I believe he is already moving on the opportunity. I know you can lead a horse to water but not make him/her drink, but what advice do you have for me that I can give to him?

P.S. I currently found out that he didn’t file for divorce when he said he did, just FYI, so they are technically still married.

2007-10-22 05:04:29 · 17 answers · asked by Derrick 3

Our son is 8 weeks old. I don't know if I'm just not in the mood, or if I'm really not attracted to my husband anymore. Maybe its just hormones? It's not because we don't the opportunity, our son sleeps through the night. I just find myself turning away from him at night. How do you know the difference between your hormones going back to normal or finding yourself not attracted to someone anymore?

2007-10-22 04:53:46 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous

The measurements of their husband/partner. Yes, down "there". It's funny, I think every man in the world knows exactly how long it is since they have a preoccupation with it. How many women know ??

2007-10-22 04:53:44 · 26 answers · asked by DMV 1

My Husband is a great Person.. But Im left alone emotionally.. He Loves Sex so much I feel pressured that it Is "THE ONLY" thing he wants... How Can I get My husband to be More emotionally loving? & More sensitive to my needs..? Its always.... Me" Hunny can we cuddle.. will you just carress or Rub my back"........... Him.. "No But Im horney..... yeah baaaabeee Give it Up...." I say No not tonight.. he whines.... LITTERALLY! But I waaaant some!.. I have tried to stop giving it to him so that i can get Him to understand that Im emotionally lonely! sooo what can i do?? i wont divorce Him.. we have a 2 year old... & my husband is the only One who has ever made me laugh.. He used to be emotioally connected to me.. but now?? i can talk till im blue in the face & he still dont get It.. my heart & soul hurts... we have tried marriage counsling.. he wont go again... He wont let Me have an affair with a guy.. ( i dont want one.. but he says to just try out for another woman!) Help?????

2007-10-22 04:45:31 · 11 answers · asked by SHAIYLYNN 3

Maybe we should change the way we think about it? It should be a healthy thing, right?

2007-10-22 04:33:28 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

Over the last 10 years, I have maybe 5 times encountered women who wear this one particular scent. I don't know what it is, and it just drives me wild. I mean it's just incredible. I am married and don't want to look like I am hitting on anyone, but after years of scouring perfume counters I have been unable to identify it.

Ladies - is there a tactful way for me to ask what it is if I smell it on you without freaking you out or making you think it's a pickup line?

And after you write your answer - read it back and imagine it coming from a total stranger and make sure. I would have to do my best to hide my excitement at the smell of it.

2007-10-22 04:24:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last night my husband wakes up to change our son becuse I was too tired I haven't slept for longer than an hour a day so when I woke up after him he calls me worthless and says I do everything half way. Plus he tried to kick me out earlier in the day and keep me away from our only child is a month old what can I do because this is making me very depressed and I can't be like that I have to take care of my child.

2007-10-22 04:17:41 · 22 answers · asked by stormieford 2

need to know i have 6 more years lol!!

2007-10-22 04:01:52 · 20 answers · asked by hppy2b 2

That really makes me feel bad about myself. I admit that I'm about 30 pounds overweight and I do like spicy foods. He says I always smell like garlic, excrement, or lotions. I love him, but sometimes I wish I wasn't married. It's hell on your self-esteem.

2007-10-22 03:58:20 · 58 answers · asked by your_dear_old_mother 5

I had an emotional affair 1 year ago, and my husband and I decided to stick together and work it out. He promised me he would be around more and act more responsible. But latetly, all he's doing is flipping out! He goes through my cell phone and calls all my stored numbers to make sure they are who they are. Even my relatives! why? because he stored that guy's number under an alias, and I accidently deleted it because I didn't know who's number it was in my book. But recently, he placed an add in craigslist and put my # down, so I have been getting many calls. Now he's accusing me of cheating with all those phone numbers calling me. I asked him if it was worth it for us to stay together and always have to be like this. And he said. Maybe...no definite answer? Why are we here then? I love him to death, but he always has to remind me everyday, when all I"m trying to do is live and learn.

2007-10-22 03:48:55 · 12 answers · asked by Laurellamags 5

All my life I have wanted a school in the arts and so many times I have gotton close and something happens either with the place i'm using or money . I feel like I have a gift that can help change the lives of million of children and help them to grow up to be better, stronger and stay off the street. The arts changed my life and I know the way I teach it, it can do the same for so many children and young adults out there. I 'm starting to feel now like maybe this is a childhood dream because I keep facing so much opposion and I want to start my family now and I thought by the time im 30 I would have established this school and can devote time to my family. But im 30 now and all I did was have a bunch of almost there's. How do you no when to give up?

2007-10-22 03:36:40 · 3 answers · asked by juv 1

Beside internet schemes that pay you five dollers a survey is their a way to make enough money to take care of your family and stay home. I can't take this job thing but i don't want to leave my family stuck with out money.

2007-10-22 03:20:55 · 20 answers · asked by juv 1

Every time my husband and I argue he seems within a few minutes after he will watch and tv he is fine then he talks to me like everything is normal it takes me days to get over an arguement . Our last arguement yesterday when i walked out and went to another room he turned on the tv and started laughing at a show and i got so pissed. I went in the other room and said how can you just sit here like everything is ok. Then he says I am OK you need to fix yourself. I used to keep a journal and he found it so he says why don't you go write in your journal {that really pissed me off} So I said things I want to change about our relationship and what i don't like he then says ok i will work on it. I know it sounds like nothing but that made me even more upset i felt like he was just dismissing me. How do I just move on like him after an arguement. I try not to hold on but i feel like at the end of an arguement we should talk and feel fine again not just ignore things and let time fix it

2007-10-22 03:17:19 · 12 answers · asked by juv 1

FALL LEAVES"


Roots grow deep, like friends that know,
leaves that fall with a luminous bright glow.
Colored blazon in subtle struggle,,,changes of color,
make your angelic smile light,, like no other.

It is fall and time to see, a reflection deeply sad,
winter beckons, and our souls are surely glad.
Why do elements not so true, keep us perilously far apart?
special love we shared shall never valleys have us depart.
We are not together in person, yet hunker down,
'sometimes blissful, yet missing,,, you I see around,

Your my shine,, an important hand,
A friend indeed, I will never demand.
Anymore than two souls share,
without you now, fall leaves stare.
At our mission,,,, which we share,

"FALL LEAVES"

2007-10-22 03:15:06 · 4 answers · asked by tommy C 1

We have been married for 2 years but together 4. My husband has no job and sits around playing video games all day. We have a two year old son together. I have told him that I was unhappy and the straw that broke the camels back was when I wanted to have sex with my husband because I am a very sexually active person and he told me having sex with me is like a chore. I started talking with a man that I work with who is older. We started flirting and things just progressed. Now this other man and I are having sex. At first I didn't tell my husband that I was having an affair and he found out. I can understand that he is mad and hurt but when I go out with this other guy he says he doesn't want me to lie about where i have been. So I told him the truth and he asked me if I had sex with him. I said yes. He called his mom and his mom called and asked if we used protection. She said that I in WI you can't get divorced if you r pregnant. Is it true, if I do get pregnant?

2007-10-22 03:10:51 · 9 answers · asked by hleichtnam 2

I have a great relationship with my honey. A while back I realized that she treats me great and that I've never been happier. One day we were getting out of the car and I saw she was carrying a package and fumbled with it while opening the door. She got frustrated and at that point I vowed to never let her open a door or carry a package when we are together. It's several years now and I've kept that promise. Male and female friends have told me I am coming on too strong. My honey's never complained. I think it gives her some self esteem knowing that she's so loved and respected. Is there anything wrong with what I am doing? Is it possible that the new way of thinking says women and men should be treated the same? I see nothing wrong with it. What do you think?

2007-10-22 03:09:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my bf for 8 years (we are high school sweethearts) We have lived together for almost 5 years. I know we are considered married (he filed me as his spouse on income tax). Things have gone sour and he has become physically violent. I am going to sign an arrest warrant today but I am going to make him divorce me. Is this the best thing for me to do? He owns his own business and has provided a lot of support for me and my child. My car is in his name only and I am scared to death about having rent to pay and other bills. I have never been good at managing finances. I know I can do it because my child depends on me. I just don't know if this is going to be the best route or not. Any advice is appreciated.

2007-10-22 03:05:09 · 11 answers · asked by nikki 2

Im a 27 yr old woman in Georgia,been married for 4 and a half yrs...been controlled financially not allowed any money of my own,and i have no self esteem,im also sick and suffering from medical problems,I dont know where to go for help,but I just cant take this anymore,ive been isolated so I have no friends...

2007-10-22 02:58:36 · 16 answers · asked by entra 1

My wife and I have decided to seperate. She is actually the one walking out on me. I found out she is "talking" to another man. She has not done anything with him or so I think. She is 20yrs old and I'm 24. We have been married for 2 yrs, and we have a 2yr old son. I will admit that in the past when we first got married, I did some stupid stuff, talked to girls on the internet. But I have never went out with a girl or met a girl.That was a LONG time ago and she forgave me for that. Now, recently for the past month, she has been talking to this guy on the phone and texting. She said she would quit so we could work it out, but she is still doing it. She said he says things that make her feel good. But my question is, I have been supporting us this whole time, paying for EVERYTHING. She right now makes more then I do as far as income.Has not paid anything. She is leaving.. we have a house. How would the custody workout? I want joint custody. Can i get it? How bout the house? Please help

2007-10-22 02:55:45 · 10 answers · asked by hotncguy18 1

my husband is navy and is divorcing me after being married for a year and ahalf and says he only has to pay me spousal support one time. i'm not sure he's had a affair i have some proof but it may not be enough, cause i know the military frowns on that. what we have is a house two vehicles and a loan all of which he is the primary, i am the co on one vehicle and the loan. do i have to pay any of this debt since he is primary. he wants to split it down the middle but he's broken my heart and i want to leave it all with him because he thinks divorce is going to be easy, and for what he has put me through i think he deserves all this debt. we have no children, i just wanted to know a few things about military divorce before i get a lawyer and restart my life, he wants to file uncontested but i'm comp against this and am claiming adultery and mental abuse, i'm not sure if you can request he get alcohol and anger help in a divorce he really needs it, he has broken my heart !!! please help

2007-10-22 02:55:03 · 11 answers · asked by born2ride04 1

My mother has been estranged from her husband for 4 and a half years. Neither my mother or stepfather want to deal with a divorce. They have an 8 year old child together and just don't want to deal with all the mess. They get along o.k. they just can't live together. So what exactly IS a legal separation, why do people get them, and how do you go about doing it WITHOUT a lawyer. I'm asking about the "without a lawyer" because my mother is extremely broke, and can't afford one. She is looking into section 8 housing and needs proof that she isn't with my step father anymore, so I thought that maybe a legal separation would work. Any Info would be GREATLY appreciated.

2007-10-22 02:53:24 · 2 answers · asked by Laura S 4

My husband and I seperated last week, wednesday to be exact. We didn't split because we weren't getting along..we split because his son was getting out of jail and we agreed that for the best interest of his child and mine that he would spend some time with his son and get him on the right track. We each have children from a prior marriage, none together though. Friday night I took a ride to the next town over just to get out of the house for a few minutes. I saw my husband and another woman, each obviously drinking and they were all over each other. I wanted to throw up..we had only been apart for 3 days. But we have been together for 8 years. He had been a recovering alcoholic and had not had a drink in years. He called me yesterday morning to say hello, said he had been sick with the flu all weekend and his cell phone broke so he caouln't call me. Very calmly I told him what I saw, how he hurt me and how I never want to see him again. I feel so empty and betrayed. Thoughts?

2007-10-22 02:51:32 · 44 answers · asked by rp044 2

My friends husband barely ever wants sex with his wife..but he'll wait til she leaves the house so he can watch his adult movies and please himself....I mean we are talking they will go for a month or more without doing it....Thats not normal is it? My friend feels that when he does do it ..its becuase he feels bad and finally has to give in...What would be some reasons why a husband wouldnt want to do it? they have only been married a year.

2007-10-22 02:50:59 · 24 answers · asked by kakeydec 4

Lots of people choose not to marry now a days. What is your reason?

2007-10-22 02:50:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous