My friends husband barely ever wants sex with his wife..but he'll wait til she leaves the house so he can watch his adult movies and please himself....I mean we are talking they will go for a month or more without doing it....Thats not normal is it? My friend feels that when he does do it ..its becuase he feels bad and finally has to give in...What would be some reasons why a husband wouldnt want to do it? they have only been married a year.
2007-10-22 02:50:59 · 24 answers · asked by kakeydec 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Reasons..................
1.Not happy with marriage.
2.Not attracted to wife.
3.Wife doesn't please him in bed.
4.He is getting sex from someone else.
5.He is turning gay.
6.He is tired and doesn't feel like working up a sweat.
7.He doesn't really love his wife anymore.
8.He may need to talk to a sex therapist.
9.He may need to see a marriage counselor.
10.He may want a sex change!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-22 02:58:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be a million reasons, it isn't an issue we could even begin to guess about and give her a useful answer. What kind of porn does he watch? does she ever watch it with him? Has he expressed a desire for activity she is not comfortable with sexually? Has he gained allot of weight, has she? Do they have financial stresses? Could one of them be cheating? Is he afraid in the end he cant please her? Is being with her unpleasant to him for one reason or another?
This question just makes for tons of other questions, but the best answer she can get would come from a professional marriage counselor. She needs to be able to express to him that they have a problem and that she would like to solve it in order to make the relationship better. Some family therapy would be the best thing so they could both deal with someone who is an expert in exploring these issues in a non judgmental environment.
Best of luck to them!
2007-10-22 03:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by mraandmisse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There can be several "reasons" - but you will not find the answer you are looking for HERE! Ask him... without being judgemental, ask him why the porn? Are you OK with him watching porn? Can you watch it with him & then act out what you are seeing? Men are simple creatures... He probably doesn't have a "reason" why he does what he does. However, he's gotten into a routine of how he "gets his" & this has become enough for him. If I were you, I'd plug in a nasty dvd & let him walk in on you watching it! Reverse the situation & see what happens! :)
2007-10-22 03:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything Loco said but he could also be angry at his wife as well - maybe she's said some hurtful thing to him. If he's feeing angry or resentful to his wife he's not going to want to have sex with her. Also what if he's asked for something that's important to him in bed (a position, a bj, etc) and she's turned him down cold flat, maybe he's watching porn about his fantasies since she won't do them.
2007-10-22 03:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He he gay possibly? Or maybe he does not love his wife like she thinks he does? I do not know!? I think that most of the time when you hear complaints abouy lack of sex in a marriage, usually its the guy complaining! Hopefully, this friend has spoken with her husband, because this could end up a short marriage otherwise!
2007-10-22 02:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be a number of reasons, but regardless, I would INSIST on getting the guy in to counseling or give him an ultimatum - NO WAY would I tolerate being without and not knowing WHY. She needs to have the opportunity to do something to change his mind, or be let go so she does not have to be without the rest of her young life!
2007-10-22 02:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As ironic as it may sound, the answer is because he is addicted to masturbation. Women can also get addicted to vibrators because the climax is so much more intense than with a partner, and it can go on much longer.
That marriage is in serious trouble unless the husband is willing to amend his ways.
2007-10-22 03:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by Laredo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i haven't ever had sex with my wife. guys are usually timid and shy around sex, they perhaps use the adult videos only cause its all fake and it provides him with a sense of security that is he is all alone. He perhaps is afraid that is wife will not be pleased and may be angry at him. Chances are this may be tied in with her behavior towards this, you need to provide the details of how she is responding to this.
2007-10-22 02:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats kinda wierd i mean there married and they have married for a year i heard u can have an addition to pron so u might want get i=him checked out
2007-10-22 02:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl friend in your business wife cant keep her big mouth shut a big turn off be a good friend stay out of there bed room and get you a life let them work it out with you interfering they want last another year
2007-10-22 03:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋