My Husband is a great Person.. But Im left alone emotionally.. He Loves Sex so much I feel pressured that it Is "THE ONLY" thing he wants... How Can I get My husband to be More emotionally loving? & More sensitive to my needs..? Its always.... Me" Hunny can we cuddle.. will you just carress or Rub my back"........... Him.. "No But Im horney..... yeah baaaabeee Give it Up...." I say No not tonight.. he whines.... LITTERALLY! But I waaaant some!.. I have tried to stop giving it to him so that i can get Him to understand that Im emotionally lonely! sooo what can i do?? i wont divorce Him.. we have a 2 year old... & my husband is the only One who has ever made me laugh.. He used to be emotioally connected to me.. but now?? i can talk till im blue in the face & he still dont get It.. my heart & soul hurts... we have tried marriage counsling.. he wont go again... He wont let Me have an affair with a guy.. ( i dont want one.. but he says to just try out for another woman!) Help?????
2007-10-22 04:45:31 · 11 answers · asked by SHAIYLYNN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, sounds like you could use a best gal pal! I felt the same way, and of course men and women are different creatures... So, here's a solution, that worked for me. Get a best gal pal, have fun chat, laugh, cry and just be there. Then go home to your husband and ravish him! I bet you'll start seeing what you want in no time! I know it worked for me. We chat more often, spend more time together and to top things off, I not only have the support from my husband, but a best friend too. I feel truly loved!
2007-10-22 04:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, first off you have to stop with the passive-aggressive tactics. That never works. Asking for huggy time doesn't seem to work either. You have to be strong and sit down and talk to him about your wants and needs. Try to get him to put himself in the other shoe. Ask him how he would feel if you never wanted to have sex. Don't let him throw out that "well, I will find it some other way" crap. Ask him to really think about how he would think it would affect your relationship. Tell him that while you enjoy sex with him, it's shouldn't be all about him. You have wants and needs too that you expect to be fulfilled. This is a partnership, not a one-way street. If he loves you, he will make the effort. You have to be explicit in what you want. Don't just tell him more emotional connection...be specific in what you would like him to do for you.
2007-10-22 11:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just tell him that UNTIL you spend at LEAST 1/2 hour 45 mins together talking or cuddling he wont get any. make him work for it! He will get what he needs in the end and you will get what you need! If he wants sex that bad he will spend the time with you. tell him the longer you spend just talking about the past present future you love etc (whatever you need) the more he will get. If he spends a whole hour he will get a bj :) It works
2007-10-22 11:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Emotional support and loving comes from intimacy so you should be happy that you hubby still wants to be romantic with you. Enjoy the sex and the intimacy will be afterward. Try putting romance with intimacy, Give him a backrub that turns into great sex and see if he does not return the favor.
Good Luck
2007-10-22 11:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him what he needs and I bet you get what you need.
Cutting your husband off from sex is the fast track to divorce. If you give him what he needs and you STILL don't get what you need, then you need to press your case.
btw sex IS the way men emotionally connect with their wives. Rather than whining (as YOU are doing) about what you want him to do, how about YOU take the lead?
2007-10-22 11:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand he wont let me have an affair comment...I thought the problem was you were having too much sex??
2007-10-22 12:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over load him with sex. Give it to him and then also demand more of it from him. Once he feels that sex is readily available he will not want it as much and you can feel in that time with the emotional bonding you crave. Its pretty simple, satisfy his cravings and then he will be more interested to satisfy yours.
2007-10-22 11:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
marriage is like buying a new car, everything runs smooth for a while, then you relize you got a lemon, he wont change, you can try by not giving him sex for a few months, but then he will cheat on you.
2007-10-22 11:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by burner377 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i assume you have told how you feel ? if so go on strike but be real crafty & buy him a sex doll when he complains its not fun or the same as you just say i knowwwwwwwwwwwwww
2007-10-22 11:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by bob f 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tellhim that you are a lesbian and bring her to bed with the both of you
2007-10-22 12:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋