Our son is 8 weeks old. I don't know if I'm just not in the mood, or if I'm really not attracted to my husband anymore. Maybe its just hormones? It's not because we don't the opportunity, our son sleeps through the night. I just find myself turning away from him at night. How do you know the difference between your hormones going back to normal or finding yourself not attracted to someone anymore?
2007-10-22 04:53:46 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't be so quick to say you're not attracted to him anymore. It's probably a combination of your hormones and you feeling uncomfortable with your own body since you just had a baby. I was no where in the mood for sex 8 weeks after i had my son. Just give it a little while longer when you can actually start feeling back to normal and i'm sure you'll be in the mood.
2007-10-22 04:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, only you can answer that for sure, but I would give it a lot more time than 8 weeks after your baby to come to that conclusion. It very well could be your hormones, it also could be that your self conscious about your body more than you were before the baby, or it could be that the extra stress during the day is just keeping yourself everywhere but in a place that would put you "in the mood".
My recommendation would be to have your parents or whomever take care of the baby for a night or two and go out on a date. You need to remember yourself as a couple and not just the parents of an 8 week old.
2007-10-22 04:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by JA in SC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try some aphrodisiacs:
Some natural items purported to be aphrodisiacs when ingested (not at all exhaustive):
Arugula (Rocket)
Atta laevigata
Balut
Borojo
Chocolate
Damiana
Eggs
Eurycoma longifolia
Ginkgo biloba
Ginseng
Honey
Kelp
Maca
Oat
Oysters
Shilajit
Socratea exorrhiza
Spanish fly (cantharidin)
Tribulus terrestris
Walnut oil
Some newly introduced exotic foods often acquire such a reputation, at least until they become more familiar; for example:
Artichokes
Asparagus
Strawberries
Tomatoes
Truffles
Turtle eggs
Mangos
Mamey sapote
2007-10-22 05:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by Han 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is part of Post partum depression and related to imprinting Mommy with new baby. You have to realize your husband/new daddy is in on this with you; if you freeze him out you will wind up a single mother (unless that was the plan all along). Right now the two month old is more important than the adult, for both of you. But if you let the kid be the main focus for too long (1 year?) the adult relationship will be trashed and the kid will be spoiled. It's a hard, fine line. Talk to a priest or therapist...
2007-10-22 04:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by Goethe's Ghostwriter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hormones were out of wack for at LEAST three months after my baby. You need to find other reasons to enjoy sex than the fact that he "turns you on" enjoy the closeness, the fact that you give him so much pleasure, etc. you might just be overstressed too. ask your doctor about something that might help you get your libido back! You will know when your hormones are level again bc you will feel like yourself and not some raging monster anymore! good luck! it's hard....
2007-10-22 05:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you!!!! Your body is going through changes due to you just having a baby. It's not that you are not attracted to your husband, it may be that you are not in the mood and plus you going through changes in your body right. It will takes time for you and your husband to have sex again. Start finding something creative and fun do when your son is asleep at night, for you and your husband to get back in the mood again to enjoy one another company.
2007-10-22 05:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by ttbunny29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eight weeks is very soon after giving birth. Now that sex equates with baby in your mind, its not as stimulating. Plus, a woman is extremely fertile after she gives birth since she still has cervical dilation. A lot of women get pregnant again just a few weeks after having a baby because of that reason. Hormonally your body is going through a lot of changes. Just relax, give it some time and adjust to being a mom. I would try to make your husband not feel rejected though. Still show him love and affection or he is bound to become confused and feel rejected.
2007-10-22 04:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Signs awaiting the cracks to heel? This is harmonally induced. Your bod needs to regulate the changes..you've just given birth..these things take time to settle down again. If the hubby is dis-interested in coupling then try talking to him at lengths if need be. Surely you both want the best for everyone but withouth each other there is nothing..the harmones will kick in before you know it. Perhaps some vitamin b-complex might help you along here..they are natural..and available in most stores over the counter. Both of you take it for a week and see the difference. Good luck!
2007-10-22 05:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by upyerjumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can blame it on the hormones. And the fact that your body has recently undergone so many changes and stress, so it will take some time to get back to normal. But that's not your hubands fault, and he still needs some loving, so i would suggest giving him kisses and cuddles every once in a while, and make sure to tell you how much you love him. Also, ask him to hang in there untill everything goes back to normal. Remember, you don't have to have sex to be intimate and show love.
2007-10-22 05:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones, and you're probably just really not in the mood.
After the birth of each of our children, my wife took several months to really get back in the mood for sex.
It's normal, but stressful.
2007-10-22 04:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋