I m sick of my husbands lies?

Question

I m a married woman wif 4 kids n this is my secong marriage...I have seprated room wif my husband ever since my last baby lies on 2005...Coz i caught him cheating me n not only the first times n is lots n lots of times.I caught him having sex with a china woman.not only this n he also set up a trap wif his friends to cheat me n my moher in law...And lying to me for almost 1 years went gambling...I m the main person who is alway taking out my saving to top up whatever shortage...Until today i had use up all my saving...I feel tired of what he tells me n what he wants to do..I really hope that i can leave this guy but i cant coz the childrens financially need my in law help..I feel terrible n asking myself whether do i still have to carry on what i m now...Although i m born to be a beautiful girl but when come to marriage,a single guys will not accept me this woman of woman to have 4 kids...Oh what should i do to get out of this sick husband........

If i get disvorce,i cant get any maintainence from him coz he is a bankruptcy n i know very clear that i wont be able to get a cent from him n for my in law is the same coz she ever hints me before if i get disvorce with his son,he wont stop me but financally will stop right away...My mother in law love my husband too much n even after knowing the own son cheated on him,she still carry on to allow him to do that...

Answer 1

first of all never let anyone put in your head that no one will want u because u have children ,,,,,,,,remember u and them come as a package.......there is someone out there that will accept u. and two u deserve to be respected and stop letting him pull your self esteem down and making you think that u need your in laws to survive,,,,,,there is daycare and or they can take care of the children while u work everything has a solution it just might not be the solution that u want right now but if u really want out and peace of mind u will do what's right for u and the kids and let him figure out what it is exactly that your so called other half really wants=====gambling=partying and fast women........do u want to continue to subject your children to this kind of life.........think about it,,,,,,,,not a good idea it will be hard in the beginning because change usually is but i guarantee it will be worth peace of mind.......pray sweetie......just pray.............he will hear u

Answer 2

U know what u have to do. U need to get out of that house. ONce a cheater always a cheater. if ur unhappy in the marriage ur kids know it even if u don't show it they can tell. Get a divorce from ur husband for ur kid's sake. They might not like it but they'll be alot happier in the long run. If ur not happy noone is happy. U would be surprised on some men would date a woman that has kids. Not all men are jerks. U just have to find that special somone that is accepting. But if u do leave ur husband u have to take time for u and ur kids to heal. Good luck.

Answer 3

Personally I feel that if a spouse can cheat u, the trust between the couples is already lost. It is very hard for a relationship to move on when there is no trust between the couples.
There is such a saying that " Two mistakes don't made a right". I feel that if you are willing, you can divorce with your hubby and start looking for a job. I do know tat life is tough but if u don't start do it now, you will suffer more in your life

Answer 4

Your husband is a cheater, a liar, and he would even lie and cheat his own mother! This doesn't sound like a cheating problem caused by distance in a marriage, it sounds like it's part of his dishonest character. Do you want to be with someone like this forever?

I know how scary it must be to think of raising four kids on your own. But you must be so unhappy, and the kids are affected by this stress and unhappiness too.

If you need to, go talk to a counselor just to clear your head and get some unbiased advice, but you are right to consider leaving him.

Answer 5

You should get the evidence him committing adultery, and file for a divorce. You can ask for a handsome amount of maintenance fee from him for yourself and the kids. Which meant financially you are still secured.

Of course, got yourself a job and live your own life. Today, men are more open minded towards a woman who is divorced with kids. But, remember, the longer you wait to leave him, the lesses the chance you can find a better man.

Answer 6

My friends mum gave me some advice years ago ONCE A LIAR ALWAYS A LIAR. My god I wish I had listened to her advice.My husband has lied to me for 13 years. His lies have lost us our business, nearly the house (twice) and landed both of us with massive debts. He lies about the silliest of things and he will never change. That is why I have found the courage to say enough is enough and I am seeing a divorce solicitor on Thursday. I deserve more respect than to be constantly lied to and so do you.

Answer 7

i also have a lying husband, i am getting divorce , the issue is not the adultary itself it is the concept of life that he will always has to please himself no matter who he will hurt,chinese what is wrong with asian girls mine was fillipino ! anyway,I hear that if a man cheated then came back begging for forgiveness and stop lying then he is all yours (just dreamin story ) da pain will never go,and you will never forget and he will never stop lying.I WANT YOU TO SEE THAT HAVING AFFAIR IS SOMETHING REALY BAD AND COULD STOP IF YOU WANT TO CONTINUE BUT LYING IS SO DIRTY AND WILL NEVER STOP IT IS THE WAY HE IS AND THE WAY OF LIFE YOU ARE GOING TO SEE.
yes ,you can meet your mr right with 4 even 12 kids,you r who u r with kids or noy

Answer 8

There are men out there who can appreciate and love you and also love your kids because they want a big family too.

Divorce your husband (proof of adultery should make this a snappy process). And make him pay child support.

Answer 9

AIDS kills..more than heartbreak or financial ruin...if hes cheating like that ure at risk..leave the bastard

Answer 10

He has to support his children. I would leave. Do you want your children to grow up and think that this behavior is alright? You and them deserve so much better.