My husband works hard and travels very often. When he comes home he wants everything that means family: good hot meals, house impeccable, gardens well manicured and the house is spotless. Never, In his life he takes me to the movies or for dinner, life is cero for me. He loves ESPN and FOX Sport and he enjoys more watching them that talking to me. Bedtime? God...It is like a took a valium of the size of a tampon, and he expect from me be watching and analizing the games and for me that it is a cerebral enema!! I feel like the maid of the house, cooking, cleaning and having everything organized. The only thing good that I do for myself is that I'll go the gym (I am afraid of getting to strong becasue next time I will break his neck) All men are like that to their wives? No movies? Not going out for dinner? No vacation? Please give me some feedback.
2007-10-22 18:21:49 · 14 answers · asked by MayanPrincess@sbcgglobal.net 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not all men are like that. If you hate him that much, why are you still with him? Divorce is perfectly legal in every counry. You may have some difficulty in the middle east or india .
Try talking to him first and tell him you need some time with him, even if just for day a week. He should focus on you , take you to a movie, dinner, and have a romantic evening at home. IT will keep your romance alive.
|If he isn't even willing to do this, then find someone who will!
2007-10-22 18:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes you have to put pressure on someone for their own good. This could have any number of causes from serious (thyroid disease, diabetes, heart disease etc) to less serious (post-viral). As a doctor, I think you need to insist that he goes for a check up. Tell him you're really worried that you'll be left a widow if he doesn't (I know that's over the top but gentle persuasion has got you nowhere). Make an appointment for him and, preferably, go with him to make sure he gives the GP the full story. Some blood tests and a quick but thorough examination should rule out the more serious things. Tackle him tonight. Say you won't give up until he goes, so he'll have no choice if he wants a quiet life.
2016-05-24 23:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by anjanette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck does a spotless house and a manicured garden have to do with family? Tell him that you know he works hard because he sleeps so hard when he gets home and that you work hard to so that everything is ready for him when he arrives, but you expect more of a husband. He should keep the garden himself. This will give him more to do than sit watching sports and sleeping. Tell him if he expects you to watch sports for him, you expect him to give you back massages and orgasms. The next time he comes home, take him on a date and tell him that since he never does this for you, you thought you'd show him how it's done! Tease him a little and say you're ashamed to have to give him "husband lessons."
2007-10-22 18:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lovey 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
From what I read here, it seems like your husband is not spending enough time with you. You both need time together, alone. Yes he works and he brings home the money to put food on the table, pay bills, or what have you. Instead of him spending time watching TV, he should spend time with you and the family too. Or, sit with him and watch a movie together. What does he do when he is not working? Does he still watch TV or does he spend it with the family?
Something that women need to understand. When they become wives and stay at home taking care of kids, the house is like a castle to them. They keep it organize, doesn't have to be 'perfect', clean, make sure the kids are fed and make sure that when hubbie comes home from work, that a nice good dinner is prepared for him. If you treat him like a King, he will treat you like a Queen. Doesn't happen to everyone, just like in your situation here. So what you need to do is sit with him and make sure the TV is off and tell him that maybe once a week you two can spend some time together like out on a dinner date, movie, or just go for a walk together. Tell him what you said here, but be nice about it.
I also think that you are looking for appreciation from him. We all need appreication, love, and respect.
Not all men are like that with their wives. Mine isn't like that with me, maybe because he works from home and I see him everyday. We spend time together also with going out to dinner, movie, or take long walks. There are lots of things to do together.
I would consider reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage."
If you see that your husband is tired from coming home from work, try sitting him down and give him a good neck and shoulder massage. Just try it. I bet things will change and he will look forward to having that done again. Now, don't you think he would like that with spending that time with you even though if it was just for a few minutes or half hour??
2007-10-22 18:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
the two of you need to get into some counseling to see if there is anything to save in the marriage but I doubt that he will agree to go, or sees anything wrong in the marriage for that matter, so the next step is a divorce. You will only find a man who will treat you like a wife when you lose this guy and get a life of your own. From what you tell me, he sounds like the husband in Sleeping with the enemy
2007-10-22 18:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask your husband to watch a movie with u
men sometimes get obsessed with making everything perfect they forget the important thing-family!
dont be harsh on your husband all u need to do is ask him out for a movie or a dinner resturant... ask him to take a break from his job and perhaps he can take you to the beach where u guys can have all sorts of fun and maybe he will notice you better because his head is set on one thing and that one thing is making $$$$$ for your family
now im not saying that is a bad thing but u cant keep on working non-stop your husband seems deppressed so just get alll cozy and cuddly with him
he loves u and all u need to do is help him-by having him take a break from work
your husband is afraid u will get all anxious if he takes a day off so jusy relay and tell him, "Honey, do you wanna take a break from your hard work, and perhaps go to watch a scary movie with me?" try that and good luck
i hope my anwser solves your problem(best anwser)
2007-10-22 18:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by $$$ ahmad $$$ ISLAM ROX 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you think he will commit adultery? I mean, he couldn't have other commitments could he, any children? wow, I at least got out and went to a movie sometime when I was married. Its time to sit down and have a serious talk with him.
2007-10-22 18:31:42 · answer #7 · answered by troop there it is 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, this is not normal. He is treating you like the maid and you need to have a serious talk with him. You are supposed to be his partner and that means you get some of the perks too!
2007-10-22 18:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by Candace C 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
"I am afraid of getting to strong becasue next time I will break his neck"
LOL.. You are so funny.
No way. I would never allow my husband to treat me that way. Wives are for you to dote on.
2007-10-22 18:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by serene 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did you marry him? Maybe you should get a job, so he doesn't have to work so much, and he won't be tired to perform in bed. When it comes to cleaning, hire a maid.. and write a check from his account!
2007-10-22 18:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋