Husband regularly calls me dumb?

Question

before i got married i shared things with my husband like my family history education things like that, u know... like you do..anywayz im regretting it now because he is throwing those things back in my face every now and then,like i had a tough upbringing as a child being sexually abused by my father and stuff and didnt concentrate on school n things and thats why i only completed up to yr 10,anyway he knows all this and everytime i say or do something not so smart,he always calls me dumb or makes reference to the fact that im "uneducated" for as long as i can remember he has always done this and im sick of it,its not an everyday thing but it happens often enough for me to get pissed off with him.he thinks he is god because he is "educated" and did a 5 yr law degree.not to mention he is indian and education means everything over there.. i have told him how it makes me feel but he does not seem to get it...he still mentions it every chance he gets....i get called dumb,stupid,uneducated

what else should i say/do to get him to stop calling me these things and treating me like he is better than me because he is more educated than me.?

i have two kids under 3 so i can't go back to school atm not untill they r in school

Answer 1

You can go back to school if that is what you want, many woman go back to school and have even more kids you are putting excuses as to why you will not go back What you can do is go back and take most of your classes on line. You have got to start making sure he respects you because your kids are soon going to see how you allow this to happen. Tell him he may have went to school but that his heart is ill educated when it comes to knowing what love is all about. Tell him if he has to put you down to pick himself up that he is not much of a man.

Answer 2

You know something? I would give him some divorce papers and tell him I am going to school to get my education and leave your dumb *** because he must me a dumb *** to not being able to keep a woman happy.. This man is putting you down it gives him pleasure so I would take the same pleasure of telling him to kiss my *** and watch me walk away you have being trough enough, mental abuse is the worst kind it hurts your feelings and make you feel worthless get up get some back bone and leave this man, no one can be happy like that, you deserve to be happy.. Go back to school not for him but for you give your self a chance. good luck.

Answer 3

Get yourself enrolled in school, woman! Change your outlook about yourself and prove him wrong by taking classes and being too busy to sit around and be called dumb!! There are many women who go back to school and discover so much about them that they rise above all the mishaps of the past and build a future of wonderful experiences, including getting exposed to new ideas, new discoveries about yourself. He's only a man, not a god, otherwise he would have married in his own rank of the educated.

Answer 4

I would tell him that you are sick of the way that he treats you. Tell him that you are no longer going to take it. I would tell him he is very stupid for an educated man. If I were you I would tell him that he is going to treat me better or that I am leaving. I would then do it if he continues. He treats you like crap because you take it. I would not stay with a man that thinks I am beneath him. He is not better than you are being educated. Can you live the rest of your life like this? You need to figure that out. He is selfish and keeps degrading you. I think that you deserve better.

Answer 5

i'd say you are in an abusive relationship and you should think about 2 things....do you want to stay or do you want to move out? you can try and talk to your husband about how bad he makes you feel whenever he calls you stupid or dumb...there can be an underlying problem that's why he has resorted to this....maybe there is something else that he isn't telling you...if you have tried to talk to him and still it continues...do you want to live the rest of your life with such kind of treatment? if not, then i think you should consider divorcing your husband...nobody deserves to be treated this way...if you continue with this abusive relationship, you will lose your self-confidence and you will start hating yourself....be strong....think and decide...

funny, your husband has a 5 year law degree and yet he's not being smart treating you this way...i think he's the one who should learn...he should learn more manners....

Answer 6

this man thrives on making people feel less than he is and i guarantee u that there was a very tragic experience that happened to him as a child and people like that like to make u feel less because there is something in their past that they are holding back and making someone else fell less than themselves boost their self esteem for whatever reason but honey mark my work if u dig deep enough u will pull those skeleton out of the closed and don't be small like him but you'll see why he tries to make u feel less than he......everyone has skeletons and learn not to tell everything detail by detail some things are better left unspoken i know u want to be honest but being honest to yourself is sometimes good enough because the ones that u think love u , every chance they get will bring up that one thing that was told straight from the heart and it's only to make them feel bigger and better and to make u feel small and humiliated ......it's not about them loving u it's about u loving u....................

Answer 7

If he knew before hand your entire background,he was himself a good dumb to have proposed to you.Now to deflate his ego, you may sweetly tell that you know many other Indians who are much more prosperous because they had much higher education than him.Many Indians unnecessarily think themselves much superior than others. They need to be chastised periodically.

Answer 8

Wow so he's been to 5 year law school but he's not smart enough to realize this makes you mad. So who's the dumb one?

Answer 9

its not nice that he called you that no matter what is ur history.he should support u and not call u uneducated.if his my partner called me that.i wacked his face off.and tell him your not clever either ...u knew i am dumb,uneducated,stupid BUT why the hek ur stil with me mr perfect.anyway,thats the way i deal if i am u.

Answer 10

Do yourself a favor and just leave him ... Don't even waste your breath on telling him how you feel because it will just give him more ammunition to put you down ....