I have been separated from the mother of my children for a year we were not married but lived together for about six years, we have two girls 4.5 and 6 years of age. After their mom asked me to leave right a way I started to supply and comply with all of their needs, I have proof of me paying their full rent, utility bills, health insurance, and as for cash money I have a recorded voice that because she didn't want me to give her any money in the form of check. Almost a year later after my children were practically living with me, their mom is taking me to court for child support. Also, not allowing me to see my children during the week days, I'm allowed only during the weekends and is saying that time is going to be decreased as well. I have tried to come to an agreement where we work things out for the benefit of our daughters however, no matter what no idea is good for her.
2007-10-22 17:46:23 · 6 answers · asked by dad1George 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so she is taking you to court. big deal. all that will change is the money you are providing for the support will be a court order. that's all. if you have already been providing for your children....you have nothing to worry about. this isn't about you. this is about the financial security of your children. start looking at it that way.
as for decreasing the amount of time with your children, keep a log. start logging in all the times you are with your children. then take a look at your children's mother's schedule and her availability to them. have a set schedule of every other weekend with your kids, and at least two weekdays every week for 3-4 hours each. then any other times that she might be working and you are available to take care of them, offer to do so. this is called first right of refusal. ask for it. bringing in proof you supported them prior to the child support case, won't change the amount of support that will be ordered, but it will put you in a good light with the judge. it always helps that the judge knows in advance he is working with a father that is trying his best for his children in light of the circumstances.
2007-10-22 18:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look up legal aid in your phone book and see about getting them to protect your interests. If the children wre living with you for a year and she now wants them and child support you may be able to prove that she only wants them for the money and you could get them that way. Good Luck to you!!
2007-10-23 00:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the same school district as your ex,you can push for joint custody.With the records you have kept of your paying various things,it shouldn't be a problem getting it.You might want to check with Legal Aid if your income is in the low range.
2007-10-23 00:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by honey_demoss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What state do you live in? What state does the mother live in?
2007-10-23 02:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The judge will know who is telling the truth.Just say it like it is and DON'T LIE,even if it hurts.
2007-10-23 00:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by wayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with honey de.
2007-10-23 00:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋