I use to be on child support, but i'm affraid i might be put back on. i'm not a dead beat and i am always there for my kid. what do i do?
2007-10-18 19:26:50 · 16 answers · asked by Quiet Storm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on the situation. If the mother is a drug addict or something similar, then maybe you can prove that and be allowed to buy the neccessary items for your child(ren) directly so you know they get taken care of.
If this is not the case, and you are simply looking for some kind of retaliation, I suggest just paying it. That is the best way you can make sure you are "always there for (your) kid". Also this is setting a good example for your child and the mom can not talk bad about you because you are being the man you should be.
2007-10-18 19:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie C 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
the new child that's coming is YOUR new child too. in case you probably did no longer opt to have a new child or pay for one you mustn't have had intercourse or you're able to have worn a condom and made particular she replaced into secure besides. there is no thank you to stay away from new child help and definite she gets it out of your mothers and dads and you, once you get a job. it is not in simple terms her fault. You the two had intercourse. She would possibly no longer have prevalent the thank you to take the tablet wisely. You for sure did no longer positioned on a condom and, in case you probably did positioned on one, you probably did no longer know the thank you to apply it. you are able to no longer have intercourse except you know the thank you to apply delivery administration approaches or except you're financially solid to look after a new child. it relatively is how that's. whether you need to instruct she neglected a tablet, any fool is familiar with that even once you're taking the tablet wisely (and are not on medicine that makes it ineffective) ....it is not a hundred% useful!!!!!!! no longer something is! that's why you have 2 varieties of delivery administration consistently and you know the thank you to apply it. that's additionally why you have intercourse once you're older, extra mature and financially waiting. take care of it. you are the daddy. you're the two at fault. I heavily have faith the new child may be extra effective off with mothers and dads who're waiting to care of them and love them because of the fact it relatively is sparkling you the two choose help with intercourse training and adulthood.
2016-10-04 03:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by alarid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your financial situation is, or your child's mother's, but even though you're there for the kid otherwise, I think you still need to pay child support, if only so that your kid will feel loved and taken care of. When you pay child support for your kid, he or she will be grateful, because you're helping their mom an them and taking care of them in this very concrete way. It does make a difference, trust me. It means that you officially take responsibility for them.
If you're in financial difficulties, try settling for a lesser amount with the mother.
2007-10-18 21:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jana 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Only a dead beat POS would want to avoid the responsibilities of raising a child. If you want to avoid paying child support quit having children you can't take care of!
2007-10-18 21:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by santokieann 2 · 4⤊ 8⤋
Aside from not having kids or staying married, nothing.
2007-10-18 19:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You're not a dead beat? You want to get out of paying child support but you're not a dead beat? Yes, you are indeed a dead beat. Pay the child support. It is your responsibility.
2007-10-18 19:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ellen L 4 · 3⤊ 8⤋
don't have children. oops too late pay it i've never heard a kid say as an adult my dad paid too much. believe me they will remember if you paid, what you paid, if you paid on time, how long you paid, if you complained about paying. whether you pay or not is the measure of your child's worth to you and they will know it and you will be measured by it. the lack of payment will be a wedge between you. the money you pay freely will be the cement of your relationship with your kids. my dad paid too little and we went without while he met and exceeded his own needs and we saw it. i did not see or speak to him for 16 years. my sisters dad did not pay and as a four year old she was sharp enough to know it. she will not call him father, dad or anything remotely like it. we both knew that our fathers were not to be relied on or trusted for anything which effected our ability to have solid and lasting marriages. this can teach your boys they don't have to pay support and your girls that men are not to be trusted or relied on. be a man pay!
2007-10-18 19:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by T 4 · 2⤊ 6⤋
If you're not paying child support, you're a dead-beat. Period. Your children deserve your financial support.
2007-10-18 22:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by okieinitaly 2 · 2⤊ 7⤋
You shouldn't have had kids if you didn't want to pay support...
Unless you provide the court with proof of your financial contributions, you will be paying child support. The govt is in the process of connecting all records, so trying to avoid it is not going to be easy.
2007-10-19 01:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by Really now 4 · 2⤊ 9⤋
There's nothing you could do if they dont live with you. Get full custody and then you dont have to pay child support. It's the only way...
Or... O.J. your ex.
2007-10-18 19:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by I Speak the Truth 5 · 3⤊ 7⤋