Marriage & Divorce - 18 October 2007

I am an ordinary girl, from indonesia, but i am chinese. I am married to this guy few months go, mostly 6 months. I know him from some webside anyway. That time, when he purpose me i really sure that he's the one, and i really trusting him, more than i trust my self. Coz i really love him, more than i love my life.
When we dating, everything seems cool.. smooth, we're a perfect couple. I always trust him, even when we long distance.

Until one day, he tell me the truth..

One month before he go to indonesia, and find me. He told me that he was seduce by a girl from malaysia. He know this girl from he's x job. Because he always bring some file and check to that girl's office.
That day, he tell me that this girl always hold he's hand, until that day, i dont know how, he said that they were going to a pup, and they drink. But not drunk. After that, he drive this girl to her appartment. And they TOUCHED, but not sex, Atlease that's what he told me. But what i'm disappointed is..
That day when he out with this girl, he already (we can call it) Commit to each other and we know that we like each other.

Start from that day, I realise that my trust to him is getting less.
But i do love him, i still love him like the way i loved him. Is just that i dont know why, start from that moment, is really difficult for me to trust my husband. Even when he promise me he wont do that again, or he said that's before (WE) met.
I just find that's unfair to me, that day we already known that we love eachother. Even i love him even before i met him.

And it always something that i'm not happy about, coz i start to worrying, he always home late. We not DOING that often like lasttime. He being so easy to get angry, i just find that he had a bad tamper after he 3 months our marriage. I just too stress, until i loss my weight. Ev'rybody asking me, what happen to me? I really dont know what to do, and who talked to. I know no one here.
I do miss the way he treated me, He's so caring, loving, patient, patience. He always tell me, and being honest. But now..

i really dont know how to trust him back? i just can stand this along.


somebody can help me ?

Thanks a lot

2007-10-18 14:35:25 · 9 answers · asked by Phoebe Ng 1

what reasons cause devorce?
give some sittuation

2007-10-18 14:33:54 · 9 answers · asked by Catherine N 1

Ok here we go.
I am married with 3 kids. We moved to Mobile Alabama about 1 1/2 years ago.
We left our home and family back in Memphis.
Well , in the past year, I have really changed. Emotionally and physically.
The past 3 months I have had several bad moments. I am having alot of panic attacks and My Dr. Thinks it is due to severe depression.
Well, My husband refuses to move back home.
Our house back home is hopefully going to be vacant soon(if we can evict these renters for not paying)
And I think it is my chance to move home.
I want to move home and he doesnt..
I am thinking of moving back with or without him.
I know this will upset me, him and the kids.. But, I think this is the only way that I can be me again.

What would you do?

Stacie

2007-10-18 14:31:24 · 20 answers · asked by stacie m 4

2007-10-18 14:21:17 · 8 answers · asked by nitz j 1

2007-10-18 13:59:57 · 9 answers · asked by boo 1

I'm in the mood for some lovin' all day, and my husband comes home in the mood for an argument!! Help! I need some lovin'. What should I do?????

2007-10-18 13:55:07 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

been married for 30 years and have just found out my husband has been having an affair for 6 years and has another family

2007-10-18 13:46:53 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a single father I raise my 29 month old son. I broke off my relationship with my ex in Apr. 2006. Caught her with another man. She bothered me for about a month after. It stopped when she realized there was no chance of reconciliation. I have not heard from her since 2 weeks before our sons birthday (June 10, 2006). She has not attempted to see our boy since then. No contact whatsoever. I have been trying to obtain custody of my son with no success.
I went to Sask. provincial family services - no luck. I went to numerous other agencies - no luck. I went to lawyers on three occasions - no luck
I am told there is not a thing can be done, as in the laws of Canada the mother is considered the primary caregiver until proven otherwise by courts.
I work full time,supporting him is not a problem. He is the world to me and it is very upsetting when I want to keep and love him, he can be taken away from me at any time by a mother who ABANDONED HIM. Any advice - PLEASE HELP

2007-10-18 13:35:28 · 7 answers · asked by D's Dad 1

2007-10-18 13:25:47 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I forgot we had cheese, he likes grilled cheese sandwiches. He said to me" What was your f******, stupid, b******, ugly, idiot brain thinking?" Next time I get a jelly sandwich I will hurt you. Something will happen". This is no joke. He quite often talks that way. Is he bipolar? We have money problems and I am getting a second job to help out. Can I force him to get help? Thanks.

2007-10-18 13:19:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are happy and have a 2yr old. I also have two more girls from my first marriage. While having a hypothetical conversation my husband revealed to me that if we were to divorce he would fight for full custody of our 2yr old. Which totally shocked me and not to mention deeply hurt my feelings.
For one we have no real issues, beyond the regular couple fights.
Second ever since we met he always said he admired me for being such a dedicated mother to my two girls. I don't drink, do drugs, go on clubbing sprees, neglect my kids, or abuse them in any way... I came from a very dysfunctional home and have made it my purpose in life to be the parent I always wished my parents had tried to be... Is there anything I can do to protect myself from this? His only argument was that she would be more stable with him financially...

2007-10-18 13:11:40 · 20 answers · asked by Xena77 3

2007-10-18 13:10:46 · 5 answers · asked by Freesumpin 7

2007-10-18 13:05:49 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

They were together since 1980,and they divorced in 2005.
I could tell that from the day my dad started sleeping in the twin beds back then with me,that somthin was up and I didn't know what it was until I heard my mom say:"David you blank blackity blank!" He tells my mom to loosen up. She says:"Don't tell me to loosen up,freakin Blank blankity!" I'm over there thiniing my mom's being to hard on my dad! What is she thinking?! I hope this doesn't lead to divorce." Then it did.
I've only cried 2x the whole 2 yrs cuz I feel like I have to hide my feelings and I've hidden my feelings so long that when I hear the right song,I makes me start getting teared up and I don't want Step-parents that are angels around my parents and de-vils behind their backs! That would be awful!

Christ help me figure out how to get them back!
-Sarah

:"-(

2007-10-18 12:57:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I dont know what to say to him. He feel like no one repects him and he works hard for nothing, How can I make him feel better. What is it that he needs to hear. Help

2007-10-18 12:50:15 · 6 answers · asked by Emily 2

i was involve with someone very special to me for 5 years. i lived with her and her family for 4 of those year. At first it was great. We always wanted to be each other. We could always talk about anything except our future together.
it wasn't unit a fews ago after being apart for five months now that we where both suffering from esteem problems. One- to be able to be loved.
Truth is we both felt very unsure of where we where going in life both in love and also in life in general.
We both still feel very comfortable with one another when we get together for a night. But i think there is some fear of being hurt again.
Is it possible there is no love left in her? she want different things in life? I've discovered since apart that i appreciate the quilties in her that hadn't realized in did until we were apart.
Is it possible that time can heal things - too become close again?

2007-10-18 12:31:49 · 2 answers · asked by jaco9028 1

me and my husband split up. while not leaving together we still (approx 2months) we still saw each other n went out to eat. the reason y we split was because i left his house where we were living with his parents which i could not stand at all.

however he never told me anything about talking to other girls n stuff, n i had heard rumors n he denied it. we wanted to work things out as soon as he saved enough money to get his own place. im pregnant n that was the plan to be living 2gether after the baby was born but we kept arguing to much that at times we gave up we even went to file for divorce but at the end we just walked out of the office.
well i found out he was with another girl one night when he told me he was with a friend (guy) i saw pics of them kissing. should this be consider cheating, if so should i forgive him? i dont think i can trust him but i dont want my baby to grow up without a daddy esp. if theres hope he can change but im sooo confused

2007-10-18 12:22:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-18 12:19:16 · 6 answers · asked by Gloria G 1

I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE ONE MORE BABY IN THE FUTUTRE, I AM NOT SAYING RIGHT NOW, BUT IN THREE YEARS FROM NOW. MY HUSBAND DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE ANY MORE KIDS BECAUSE HE SAID IT IS A HARD LIFE FOR THEM NOW. I HAVE A THREE YEAR OLD AND A ONE YEAR OLD. CAN YOU PLEASE JUST ADVISE ME, BECAUSE MY HUSBAND WANTS ME TO GET OPERATED SO WE WONT HAVE ANY MORE KIDS. PLEASE HELP.

2007-10-18 12:18:24 · 9 answers · asked by GOOFY LOVE 1

my husband and i been together for 10 years and married for 5 yrs we have a 12 yr old daughter from my first marriage and a 2 yr old from our marriage and he acts so different now then he did 5 yrs ago.
he works two jobs and doesn't want me to work because f the cost of daycare and he was brought up with his parents were raised like that the mother stays home. so he works two jobs afull time job and a a part time in the evening. when he is home my daughter and him doesn't get along the fight all the time. we have sex once every other month because he is to tired or he is afraid the kids will hear us. when he is home he always goes around trying o fix stuff or do stuff.we do spend some time to gether. when we are together we have not much to say to each other. we hardly talk in the car. he doesn't do nothing romantic at all no flowers,cards or nothing. it drives me crazy. sometimes i think there is better out there. but,my parents like him and i don't have any where to go if ileave.

2007-10-18 12:14:50 · 18 answers · asked by melissa p 1

My wife and I are having relationship issues.... I'm trying to work things out and she says she wants to do the same but she keeps lying to me about seeing and talking to another guy. what do I do.

2007-10-18 11:57:27 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is 27, I am 28. we have been with each other for 10 years, She dosn't work. I do my fair share when I come home from work, I cook, take care of the kids. I give back rubs, I do candlelight dinners, I do romantic evenings. Still no sex. She says that she isn't in her prime yet. I always thought that your prime was when your young. She also says it hurts her, or she says she dosn't feel good, or she's too tired. I'm tired also I work 12 hour days, but I still want her. I don't know what to do. I love her so much, but I feel that sex is an important part of a marriage. What should I do? Is she getting it somewhere else, or am I not good enough for her? Has her prime yet to come, or did it already pass? I think I've tried everyhing is there anything left to try?

2007-10-18 11:50:20 · 35 answers · asked by tintddy 1

My husband has been talking about getting my name tattooed on him lately. I actually originally brought it up just to see if he would do it. Now he does want to do it. He wants to put my name on the back of his calf. Is that a good place? Should I get his name on me as well? I really don't want to, but I feel like I'm being a bad wife if I don't return the gesture!

2007-10-18 11:45:21 · 23 answers · asked by copswife134 3

her other partners before me during sex, just out of the blue, she was very into what she was saying i was not but said nothing. married 10 yrs never has happened before any advise

2007-10-18 11:40:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Are women really any different from each other in bed? With the exception of enthusiasm its all the same isn't it?

2007-10-18 11:36:20 · 6 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

Is your husband the greatest lover you've ever been in bed with??

I love my husband, and I know I married the right guy, but I can't honestly say he's the "very best" in bed of any man I've ever had sex with.

On a 1-10 scale (1 being the best, 10 being the worst) where would you rate your guys performance in the sack overall (taking into account all the other sexual partners you may have had in your life). I figure alot of women will say "1" but I don't really buy it in most cases. They probably just don't have alot to compare it to. I think I've only had like one partner in my whole life that I could really say was a "1". I've had sex with 12 different men in my life, and I'm 28 years old. So it's not like i've been THAT promiscuous. LOL!!

2007-10-18 11:22:06 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

For example the most important day in my life was June 25, 2003. That was the day my mom went to the hospital which forced my family to stay 4 months in Europe. So that is mine in a nutshell. What's yours?

2007-10-18 11:08:45 · 18 answers · asked by California Dude! 2

Does anyone else Find it wrong that your wife goes out with other guys. explain. Movies, Dinner? Jsut wondering what ever one take is. Thanks

2007-10-18 11:01:06 · 23 answers · asked by divingstephen 1

2007-10-18 10:53:11 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

kthanksbye.

2007-10-18 10:48:55 · 5 answers · asked by Feverflavor21 1