I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE ONE MORE BABY IN THE FUTUTRE, I AM NOT SAYING RIGHT NOW, BUT IN THREE YEARS FROM NOW. MY HUSBAND DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE ANY MORE KIDS BECAUSE HE SAID IT IS A HARD LIFE FOR THEM NOW. I HAVE A THREE YEAR OLD AND A ONE YEAR OLD. CAN YOU PLEASE JUST ADVISE ME, BECAUSE MY HUSBAND WANTS ME TO GET OPERATED SO WE WONT HAVE ANY MORE KIDS. PLEASE HELP.
2007-10-18 12:18:24 · 9 answers · asked by GOOFY LOVE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You never know what the future will bring. Having 2 kids that young is probably overwhelming, give him some time he may just surprise you
2007-10-18 12:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by carmey1173 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he decides he doesn't want more children then tell him he can have the operation, it's easier for the man. You didn't say how old you are but some doctors won't do the operation on a woman until she's a certain age or they know she really wants it. I was 27 and had 3 boys, I knew I didn't want anymore so my doctor did it but I had to wait 6 weeks after my son was born. Remember this has to be what you want or you will resent him and it could ruin your marriage. Tell him you and he both need to practice safe sex until you are sure it's what you both want. Good Luck.
2007-10-18 19:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Married Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could 1) Leave him and go have kids with someone else; 2) Get pregnant "accidentally"; 3) Keep nagging him about it, and cause arguments, which will probably not change his mind, but will cause a lot of resentment and will possibly destroy the relationship; OR 4) Accept that he has a valid point, and that another kid would be too much. Enjoy what you have.
Which one seems like the best choice to you? Think about it.
P.S. Have him get operated on.
2007-10-18 19:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not want any more kids, well that is it, you can't force him to accept one more. But if he loved you madly he might consider it.
But don't be a fool getting operated on because he does not want any more kids.
Your operation is more involved that a mans vasectomy.
Tell him to snip his wires and make himself sterile since he does not want any more kids.
If something happened to him and he was out of your life and you remarried, you can still have children.
Don't be a fool, stand up for yourself.
2007-10-18 19:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want another and he doesn't sorry to say but you have to respect his decision. You are already blessed with two. Maybe you do not want to get an operation then talk to him about getting a vasectomy. I heard it was much easier for a man.
2007-10-18 19:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, they came out with mirana not sure that is how it is spelled......It last 5 years and can be taken out sooner.....Maybe do that and see what the future holds for you.....
2007-10-18 19:24:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its never right to force children on someone who doesnt wnat them.Be thankful for the 2 you have.
2007-10-18 19:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please stop yelling at us.
Then live your life and cross that bridge when you get it.
Good luck.
2007-10-18 19:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why doesn't HE get "operated on"?
2007-10-18 19:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by AFRICANA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋