What situation have you been in that was the most tempting for you to cheat on your partner?

Question

JadeyOz, in a year of being here on Y!A, that is the longest nonanswer I have ever received to a question. Contrary to popular belief, this is not a place to vent. That's what blogs are for. This is a place to ask questions and answer them. The easiest part is the freedom to pick which questions you want to answer. You are not provided with a short list for each day. Having said that, you did not like my question yet proceeded to waste my time and the time of everyone else here who is willing to discuss the topic, you happen to view as taboo. You implied that I was bored, yet your actions displayed much greater signs of boredom. You took the time to spout a long nonanswer because of a topic you prefer to not discuss. I can think of no other reason than boredom, why a person would share their opinion where it is not wanted. *yawn*

Answer 1

Being alone with someone from my past that I was madly attracted to.

Answer 2

The whole point of Question's and Answer's is having a place we can come and vent our problems , ask for help and take on board the advice given and be able to process the BS from the real people wanting to help the situation , while not all Question'ers actually heed the advice after processing it and use it to make their live's less stressful and more comfortable / manageable a lot of people do actually move on after the advice is given.

When I give advice it's usually based on a double sided coin , I tend to give the side where the problem is real and does need tending to and advise moving on and giving yourself time to mourn the loss of a marriage or a loved 1 and then taking up some hobbies like art classes or theatre group's , what ever is needed to rebuild the self esteem and the inner soul.

On the other side of the coin I give the negative , where I dont totally believe 100% that the question is actually viable or true and honest , like when someone just gets bored and basically writes a question that sounds like something out of a story they read some where.

Question'ers dont feel the need to give name's , not their real name's anyway's , so they use letter 's like L or J , or acronyms like Joe and Martha .

For this question I am afraid even though it may get me many thumbs down , I feel that this question is not worth giving any other answer bar the answer I am giving because cheating should never be discussed like a fun topic it causes to much pain and harm to individual people.

Answer 3

I've had long distance relationships and those are always hard because you forget how great it is to be with that person and someone else starts looking pretty good mostly because they're there and it's been a while.

But I'd say the most tempted I've been was when I had known this guy and been dating him for a few months when suddenly my friend who I had had a crush on for years finally came around and decided it was time to show me that he felt the same way. It was definitely hard to decide between something I'd wanted for a while and something that had just started, but was going really well.

Answer 4

When I was deployed to Thialand in the military ......

First of all - its a sex crazy place !! Every bar is a brothel, if you want it to be....

Couple that with being 1/2 the world away - immersed in a new and different culture.

Add on top - the fact that she was back home in the states alone with our baby and the few phone calls I got to make were primarily filled with her unloading all her frustrations with being a new mom and with the Army sending me away when our son was just 4 months old ........

I came sooooo close sooooo many times, but thankfully did not partake in the local gals.....

I'm glad now that I didn't for the sake of our relationship and out of respect for my wife. However, honestly at the time the only reason I didn't was because I was in fear of disease and didn't have a reliable supply of U.S. made condoms at my disposal......

Guess I'm lucky we didn't have them - because in retrospect - it would have been an aweful thing to do...... But at the time we were having an extremely rough time, I was 1/2 a world away, she could have NEVER found out, and a night with a whore was practically condoned and a right of passage with the locals..... plus they only cost about $20 U.S. dollars for the night.......(they literally had menu boards up behind the bar !!!)

I still don't know how I got out of Bangkok with my vows intact.

But, I'm gald I did.

Answer 5

Whenever I see a hot chick walk by I wonder if she would take me home ... being married to a man and still attracted to women is a hard situation period - but I live it everyday ... no reason to cheat - I couldn't do that to the person I love ... I tend to get crushes really easy on females though ... and he doesn't like to share - I stay away from clubs or bars because when I drink and dance - I like to drink and dance with girls ... but for some reason I always saw myself living with a man and a female like a perfect little threesome ... lol ... and polygamist aren't bisexual ... so that's out of the question ... !

Answer 6

Never really. I figure if you are a cheater it doesn't take a situation to make you cheat. You have to draw the line and I think the line is drawn when you married. Thats called commitement/love.

Answer 7

Never.

My wife and son mean everything to me, there is not a person on this Earth worth throwing it all away for.

Everything I want and could ever need, they provide.

Answer 8

I keep myself away from those situations. Being tempted is just as bad as cheating.

Answer 9

4 years of college, being an hour away, being in excellent physical shape and being cute and smart... girls friggin chased me all over the place. I look back and havent any idea how i survided it.

Answer 10

when he was being an a** and someone else was very nice, sweet, kind, thoughtful, considerate, and trying desparately to have me. it was tempting. not quite tempting enough to make me want to leave him (i would never consider cheating), but it certainly was tempting.