I am an ordinary girl, from indonesia, but i am chinese. I am married to this guy few months go, mostly 6 months. I know him from some webside anyway. That time, when he purpose me i really sure that he's the one, and i really trusting him, more than i trust my self. Coz i really love him, more than i love my life.
When we dating, everything seems cool.. smooth, we're a perfect couple. I always trust him, even when we long distance.
Until one day, he tell me the truth..
One month before he go to indonesia, and find me. He told me that he was seduce by a girl from malaysia. He know this girl from he's x job. Because he always bring some file and check to that girl's office.
That day, he tell me that this girl always hold he's hand, until that day, i dont know how, he said that they were going to a pup, and they drink. But not drunk. After that, he drive this girl to her appartment. And they TOUCHED, but not sex, Atlease that's what he told me. But what i'm disappointed is..
That day when he out with this girl, he already (we can call it) Commit to each other and we know that we like each other.
Start from that day, I realise that my trust to him is getting less.
But i do love him, i still love him like the way i loved him. Is just that i dont know why, start from that moment, is really difficult for me to trust my husband. Even when he promise me he wont do that again, or he said that's before (WE) met.
I just find that's unfair to me, that day we already known that we love eachother. Even i love him even before i met him.
And it always something that i'm not happy about, coz i start to worrying, he always home late. We not DOING that often like lasttime. He being so easy to get angry, i just find that he had a bad tamper after he 3 months our marriage. I just too stress, until i loss my weight. Ev'rybody asking me, what happen to me? I really dont know what to do, and who talked to. I know no one here.
I do miss the way he treated me, He's so caring, loving, patient, patience. He always tell me, and being honest. But now..
i really dont know how to trust him back? i just can stand this along.
somebody can help me ?
Thanks a lot
2007-10-18 14:35:25 · 9 answers · asked by Phoebe Ng 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know you want to believe him but he is only telling you a small part of what really happened. Use your common sense does what he told you make any sense. Why he told you at all doesn't make sense. Remember he drove her home so why did he go in her apartment. A man goes in a woman's apartment for one reason and one reason only. That woman never seduced him if anything it was the other way around. Sorry to tell you but your husband thinks he is something of a lady's man.
You married a very dishonest,mean,selfish man and because you love him this is going to be your life forever. What is more important your heath and sanity or the love you have for him,which in time will fade and turn to hate. You better realize that the man you married and the life you have with him is not going to get any better then it is right now but worse and that you can count on. As long as you are with him you are going to be hurting. This is your choice to stay with him so it's your choice to feel this way. Love comes and goes and if you leave your husband you will find love with someone else and it will be so much better then it is right now. You ask anyone and they will tell you the same thing. Love is better the next time around.
2007-10-18 15:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are going throught his, but he is not doing anything to regain your trust. it takes a lot of work to do that and he doesn't seem to be making any attempts. Unfortunately, it is your decision to make and it seems like you don't want to let go of this man. If he truly loved you, he would do anything necessary to make you happy and feel like you are his true wife. Counseling would help, but you both should go. Sometimes as hard as it is, it's better to move on so you can find your true love, someone who will treat you like you deserve. He doesn't seem like that guy and you deserve better.
good luck
2007-10-18 14:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by GG G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long did you know each other before you married to him? I am sorry for your suffer but you need to let go because he is not a right one for you. Do not waste your time on the wrong guy, move on and you will find someone who is right for you.
2007-10-18 15:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kim J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him earn your trust back. But I have to tell you even if they didnt have sex touching is still cheating. I believe that. Keep your guard up and don't let it down. If it happens again dump him. Good luck.
2007-10-18 14:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mommyof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is earned, not given. He will have to earn your trust back. A great way for him to do that would be for him to agree to go with you to marriage counseling. Good luck!
2007-10-18 14:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him hit you or anything is he hits you you leave and call the police. Is he seeing another girl while you are married? If so I would leave him it sounds like he is not being fathful.
2007-10-18 14:40:07 · answer #6 · answered by chimebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all that is gone. it happened before you hooked up. let it go . to trust him will take a long time. that is up to you to for get it
2007-10-18 14:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should purpose him out of you life forever. He is a liar and you are gullible.
2007-10-18 14:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by dazedandconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust him, ever!
2007-10-18 14:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by Digz 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋